i may be opening a can of worms...does ur mother drive u crazy and if so why?

Question

I LOVE my mother, but so always grips about my weight my choice of clothing, my laugh, my life....u name it...i swear she can't know how she hurts my feelings and then just smiles........she gives me money, clothes, even a brand new car........Kia Rio........then says something so mean i cry........so I wanna know how u feel............Now remember we gotta love our mom's..........but i still wanna know....

Answer 1

sort of like she gives you love with one hand, then slaps you with the other? She may be trying to live her life through you or she may be keeping you squashed down so she can control you. It really is not healthy for you. You can love your mom and not like her! I feel like you would benefit from counseling so you learn how to give love in a healthy manner and not repeat your mom's mistakes. She is being manipulative and probably does not realize it or know why. Try talking to her in a non-confrontational manner to tell her how much her comments hurt you. Also try not to let her negative comments pull you down. Maybe try a snappy comeback without being smart mouthed, see if you can make her laugh. Laughter can defuse tense moments sometimes. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Do you want to heal or do you enjoy the other parts of your lavish lifestyle so much it's better to remain face saving?

Is being useful anything to you? or do you prefer to go on living off of her?

Do you know the word 'possession'? No, not of the ghostly type, but you know what I mean. If you don't want any of the above, then keep on as per normal. Even if you ask her why, you will never get an answer. She will always be justifying herself.

Asking her to stop would depend on whether you sound firm enough. Then again, this pattern will never change, not when she has been doing that since you were how old? Old habits die hard,

You could try counseling. That'll pop your worms! but do it one at a time. When you finally do find yourself, it'll be worth all the effort.

Answer 3

my mom, God bless her, seems to have 'blinders' on when it comes to reality. She thinks that my place is in the home, raising my kids. She doesn't understand that I NEED to work and that I WANT To work (My kids are in school fulltime; it's not like they are infants) She doesn't realize how lucky she had it that my dad always worked, had an income and that she never had a need, never had to worry about how she was gonna pay the electric bill, buy food, etc. NEVER. She doesn't understand it when I tell her that my husband lacks a work ethic and I do everything. She thinks the problem is ME, because I'm not doing all for him. What the heck? I've done everything for him for years and he's still a schmuck. She doesn't understand that men from her generation are different than men from this generation, in general.

Answer 4

I do know how you feel. My mother drove my sisters and myself crazy. She'd complain and whine about EVERYTHING we did. Then she'd start with guilt trips, whenever she wanted something done. In order to show us that she loved us she'd buy us things or make us a "special" dinner, rather than bathing us in love and kind words. I have long since moved out, and I love my mother, but she still drives me crazy. I know she means well, but she is unhappy and needs us to show her we love her, and more over, she wants to feel as if she has some semblance of control over her children's lives. I think it is all her chicks are growing up, and she doesn't know how to handle it.

Answer 5

In-regulations consistently comes between the marriage existence..specialy the mum,it rather is annoying from time to time to get alongside with the in-regulations yet once you get in via each and each weak point there'll be unity. Why do no longer you communicate it inclusive of your husband and doubtless communicate inclusive of your companion's mom which you have respected her because of the fact the mum on your husband and pondering her your mom too. Have a heart to heart communicate together with her. from time to time mom-in-regulations been jealous specialy in the experience that your husband is the sole son/newborn. Take attention too that it many times been the way of the in-regulations and not in basic terms the mum. attempt to win her affection, she could desire to be wanting your affection/interest after all some olds choose that to experience their ability. if so it is likewise possible to be extra closer to her than her son. good success.

Answer 6

umm..my mom's nice, though she can't give me everything..but she gives me love and never hurts my feelings..in fact no mom wants to! Every mom wants the good of her child!

Answer 7

tell her..

how u feel