When I was little, my parents seperated. We had Christmas with my dads family, then with my moms side of the family. We opened stockings with each parent ( as a kid it was great, who else has 4 Christmas's) But now, I am married, have two children and my mother is dead. My sister has her family too. How can I see my dad, his family, my moms family (including my sister) my husbands family and my own. I refuse to be away from my house Christmas morning (3 years ago, we were in a hotel on my babies first Christmas, never again) The other thing is that, I live in town with my dad and his girlfriend and the rest of my family lives 400 Km away and my husbands family lives 600Km away. I don't know what to do.
2006-11-26 01:04:56 · 15 answers · asked by Jojo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Because part of your family doesn't live nearby, Maybe you can alternate, so that one year you stay home and spend the holiday with whoever lives close by, and the next year you go to see the ones who are farther away.
Another option is to arrange a date within a week or two of Christmas when you can celebrate with the family members who don't live nearby. Maybe even host a dinner at your home and invite them.
We have run into similar problems with my family and my in-laws, even though they only live 15 minutes from us. My mother-in-law wanted us to go to church with them Christmas Eve and then come over first thing in the morning. But my parents also wanted us over early in the day. We finally had to make the decision to divide our time in the way that worked best for us. So now we go to church on our own on Christmas Eve, then go to my parents' early in the day on Christmas, and my in-laws' later in the afternoon.
There's no way to be everywhere at once, and they'll understand if you can't always be with them on Christmas Day.
I know it's tough, but you'll be so much more relaxed if you space your visits apart in some way. Christmas shouldn't be spent rushing around trying to see everyone and please everyone. Take time for yourself!
Good luck!
2006-11-26 02:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by luvdatbeard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You can't attend everyone's Christmas and make everyone happy, especially when you're married. You have to get to the point you decide which family to go to this time and then alternate holidays with the others. You can always see the the others the week before or the week after and have a "Christmas" then, but if they don't like the idea there's just not a whole lot you can do. I know you want to be there for each one but it really isn't fair to your or YOUR family.
2006-11-26 09:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by biochemgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Belief~ Care~ Family~ Love~ Support~ Christmas
2006-11-26 09:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the magic of this time of year isn't restricted to one specific day. Spend Christmas morning with your immediate family, then go to your dads for dinner. Then the next day go and visit the rest of your family and have an extended Christmas OR have some of them over to stay with you. It's tough, but possible. You can also take turns with family from year to year. Don't feel obligated to visit everyone every year. A nice note and phone call is appreciated just as much as a visit.
2006-11-26 09:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do know what to do but are afraid to make the decision.
In our home, we decided what our tradition would be - to stay home. Anyone else can come and visit us and we will have different people every year for Christmas dinner, but we stay home.
Now on Boxing day (the day after Christmas) we are willing to travel.
You and your family should sit down and decide what you want for a Christmas tradition (bearing in mind there will be years to make an exception). Then think about a way to fit your other family members in if possible, maybe visit one set per year sometime during the Holiday.
Finally, tell they other members your decision. That's it. They will get over it.
2006-11-26 09:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by johnatplayct 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite everyone to come see you! Celebrate Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and maybe even a day or so after that if you have to. Invite everyone over and tell them how much you want to see them all, and let each person decide when they want to stop by and see you.
Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-11-26 09:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be difficult to have everyone together with the distances involved. You will have to alternate inviting the different familes to your home every year.
I don't blame you for not wanting to be in a hotel on Christmas morning. If you have an extra bedroom, invite people to stay with your family.
2006-11-26 09:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not make everyone happy. Perhaps you could celebrate Christmas with part of the family on Thanksgiving. I know a lot of people that do that.
2006-11-26 09:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bill Cosby once said that " I don't know the key to sucess but the key to failure is to try and make everyone happy. " therefore u can't please everyone but u could invite them all to ur house for christmas.... if not then stay at home with your family and just worry about them then maybe at a later time u could go visit the others......
2006-11-26 09:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by Benjamin S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is truly happy in this planet but you can make things to be different. Make yourself happy first and pass it to people around you and you will be surprised.
2006-11-26 11:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by linda c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋