It's so weird, one second I love my parents the next second they're the meanest people ever. Sometimes I feel so pretty and smart and other times I feel dumb and ugly. Is this what adolescense (sp?) feels like??
2006-11-26 01:04:24 · 36 answers · asked by [A] 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm not depressed or suicidal but the mood swings! Gosh! Like, today, in Biology, for one second I felt hated and used and wanted to go home to Mom and the next second I'm laughing with all my friends! Strange...
2006-11-26 01:25:25 · update #1
Welcome to having the raging hormones of the teenage years! You are completely normal.
Between you and me, though, your parents are going to be your closest allies throughout this time if you let them. Listen to their advice... They may seem old and stupid, but I guarantee you that they've been just where you are now.
You're not ugly and stupid. That is just your hormones talking. Your gaining independence is causing uncertainty, but it is COMPLETELY normal.
Talk to your parents, hun. They'll be able to give you advice that you can take with you for the rest of your life.
2006-11-26 01:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is totally what adolescense feels like. It sucks to have to go through all these changes, but you'll get through it. If I can make a suggestion... make a list of things you like about your parents and yourself. Get some mementos of good times (photos, souveniers from a great vacation with your parents, etc.). Try posting these things somewhere like on a bulletin board in your room. When you feel down, peek at them and try to remember why you like yourself so much, and remember how much your parents really do love you. I do this for myself now, and I'm much older than you... it won't always work, but it might help.
Good luck, sweetie.
2006-11-26 01:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Robin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that you are absolutely far from being alone on the matter of "major mood swings"!! I definitely feel like that's me talking-- and I'm sure many other girls our age would as well. It's terribly annoying-- even beyond annoying. I know, it's very difficult. One morning you look in the glass wondering what Hollywood is waiting for to discover someone as strikingly gorgeous as you, and another day you're sure of getting a nose job and that you'll be a lonely, depressed and physically repulsing freak!! Well, you know what I mean... it's just change, change, change. From feeling ugly to beautiful, from eight years old to eighteen years old, there's that period of time when a girl is repeatedly wavering in what she thinks of herself, her family, etc. All I can say is for you to make sure to get as much sun, exercise, support (even if it's self-support sometimes) and respect for yourself as you can. Spend some time in solitude, but don't completely isolate yourself 'cause it surely won't help you to think upon your own thoughts; sometimes you need the opinion and/or critics of someone else-- particularly an adult. I would suggest your mother for this! She's usually the one you can tell absolutely anything to, or ask something of, whether you think so or not. She's undoubtedly went through the same crazy times from the same crazy hormones as you're experiencing and can tell you some tips or at least make you feel like you're not alone on this one!
Anyway, just remember to have self-respect-- value yourself-- respect others (and if they don't, tell them something, with control, or tell someone of trust and whom you value) and please don't rush ANYTHING. You're fourteen, you're finding out about yourself, so don't go looking for something(s) in someone else yet, hang out with the right people who do the right things because doing the bad stuff (drugs, alcohol, bad language, watching/reading/eating bad things, stealing and early sexual experiences) isn't going to benefit the process of a good life for you building, okay? I don't think Paris Hilton has the ideal life right now, if you ask me. So, now, before I overload your brain with all of what I have to say, let me stop now, wish you good luck and have fun (safely) ! ; )
P.S. It's spelled "adolescence". Put school in your top priorities in though it certainly isn't the most amusing!
2006-11-26 05:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still growing and your body is still developing. Plus, you are having pressures from school. You stop growing and changing physically when you reach 18 to 20 years old. Also, you might want to go to the doctor and ask about depression. It could be that you have chemical imbalance. 40% of all Americans are on anti-depressant medication. Anti-depressants make your mood changes less occurring. Ask about Cymbalta, Zoloft, and Paxil. Go to WebMD.com and search under "depression". Read about this. ........And when you get this way, just go to your bedroom and rest. Take a nap. This is what I do. It works! Best wishes.
2006-11-26 01:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by rasckal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart there's nothing wrong with you, you're just a teenager. It's tough, but don't worry it doesn't last forever. Talk to your parents, they were teenagers once too remember. You are not alone.
Hormones can causes lots of emotional changes and that's not limited to being a teenage. I'm 42 and I can wake up feeling slim and gorgeous and suddenly by mid afternoon I've become hugely fat and ugly. After nearly 30 years I've learnt to ignore it.
2006-11-26 01:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure the butterfly gets confused when morphing from his cocoon. You are what you were and you are what you are becoming. Go with the positive feelings as much as you can. All women get that ugly and stupid feeling sometimes. It's hard to meet everyone's expectations. One day at a time.
2006-11-26 01:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. All this is normal changes for your age. Your emotional being will not settle down for while longer because of the hormone changes you are going through right now.
2006-11-26 01:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I'm also 14. I will get so angry at my mom and wish I was someone else's child, and within a few hours, I'm glad she's my mom. All I can hope is that we will grow out of it-- SOON!
2006-11-26 01:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes sorry honey i went through the same thing but in my case i was so mad at my mom i turned to drugs and trying to kill myself maybe you should sit down and talk to them and set up like a family night where all of you play games, take the time to do something outdoors, go to the movies, or just sit and talk GOOD LUCK
2006-11-26 01:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by allymay04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is what adolesence feels like. Your parents probably think you are the best little princess in the world and the next minute they don't know you. I know my teenage daughters are this way.
2006-11-29 08:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋