I was in Church this morning and this fat ugly woman sat beside me?

Question

She was giving me the most jealous looks and flicking her hair etc. Im a healthy curvy size 8 (uk) maybe that was something to do with it?

by the sound of things most of the people answering this question are jealous also

And I went to shake hands with her and said peace be with u she just gave me the most limp touch and flicked her hand out of the way

Answer 1

Live and let live. This womans actions should have no bearing on you - its her issue - and how you respond to her - is your issue - focus on that =)

Answer 2

How do you know she was giving you 'jealous' looks?

That's just your interpretation - and it's interesting that you made her flicking her hair and her expression all about you. She might have real problems or be upset about something - perhaps you should have asked her how she was and been friendly.

I also think it's really interesting that you go to Church and yet are sitting there thinking how fat and ugly other members of the congregation are. You're supposed to be a Christian.

I'm a Christian and people like you are exactly the reason I stopped going to Church a few years ago. Despite the fact that I work in the City and see some pretty cut throat and selfish behaviour I never saw anything at work as judgemental and spilteful as the behaviour I used to see in Church on Sundays.

I apologise if I've misunderstood your point, but it may be time for some inner reflection.

After all, the Lord said let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

Answer 3

The fact you thought she was fat and ugly tells me the problem wasn't anything to do with her being jealous of you, but she could probably tell you were judging her appearance negatively the minute you laid eyes on her. People aren't stupid, they know when someone is giving out bad vibes and you have a really bad attitude by the sounds of it. She was probably just being defensive, like any human being will do if they feel threatened.

Sorry, but if you could stop being so defensive and self rightesous, maybe you could see that fact. I'm only a UK size 10-12 myself, so please don't tell me I'm jealous, because that is just a cop out and an excuse for you not to face up to the fact that you were probably the one with the issues and not her. Just because you can put on an act, it doesn't mean people can't see right through it. Take care.

Answer 4

2 weeks ago you put up a question asking Catholics if there is a saint you can pray to to find a boyfriend. I feel that you are not as self confident as you are trying to appear in this question (which is actually not a question).

Your healthy curvy size 8 and what you look like are impossible to assess on Yahoo Answers. Similarly, this 'fat ugly' woman may not appear that way to us if we were to see her.

You do not know what she was thinking. She may have been annoyed that you were continually looking at her when she was trying to attend to the service.

You may think others who have answered your 'question' are jealous, but i can tell you that that is impossible. We can not be jealous of someone we dont know just because you are a size 8! Certainly if i was a size 8 i would be ridiculously thin.

Anyway, next time you are in church try and pay more attention to the reason you are there - which is praising your Maker. The one who made you gorgeous and size 8!!!!

Answer 5

I wonder what aspect of this situation is bothering you most?

Perhaps she was jealous, and if she was, then that is her issue but also a sort of compliment to you....on your attracitveness.

It sounds as if she behaved in the way she did because she is feeling so horrible about herself and her appearance. Perhaps she has tried to diet and work on her appearance and health but is finding it a real challenge.

I guess jealousy can bring out some our worst behaviour sometimes.

Anyway it sounds as if you felt very uncomfortable being beside her. I probably would too, then I'd then feel bad because I was feeling uncomfortable in the situation.

Perhaps if you bump into her again in future you could say hello to her and strike up a conversation. Who knows, it might shed light on the situation.

Answer 6

If you are describing a UK size 8 as healthy and curvy, it sounds as if you are the one with the problem. UK size 8 can be painfully thin, if you are of decent height. It sounds lke you should see a counsellor about weight and body acceptance issues. The larger lady has no bearing on your question - she is incidental. I think you are calling out for help. Good luck.

Answer 7

It's very sad when we go to church to be the focus point. That's why we need church, to learn it's NOT all about us. God gave us His Son to die for our needs. What we need to do is not stare, growl, or even take in the anger or jealousy of others. What we need to do is pray for our families, say 'Thank you God' for the blessings of the week and those to come, and be glad to be alive. I hope this helps you, and I hope you go to church.

As for the 'fat people are jealous' remark, that goes to show people are SHALLOW no matter the size or place. So, ignore them; after all there are more important things in life that someone giving you a notice unless they're going to say "Peace be with you."

God Bless You!


Jaime

Answer 8

God works in ways not spoken. Every church needs controls. Who better to control you than our lady above. Keeping your watchful eyes on her allows others the freedom to share. Churches are for group activities and outsiders have to bend or be booted out. Remember you are a good person and some people only trust the outsiders like you. WE are a smaller group but nicer. Come join us in chat in the health sextion.

Answer 9

I think what Karl said is an insult to overweight people like myself.
I am not jealous in any way about thin people, good luck to them, but what makes me mad is when you get people who like you saying this ugly fat lady, now that is someones mother, if that was your mum or nan and someone said the same about them would you like it? dont think you would.

There are many reasons why people are overweight, some cannot help it , others stuff their faces every day, but for the overweight people who cannot help it for health reasons etc, back off and leave them alone, because beleive you me young lady, what goes around comes around. Just look at some of these so called pop stars, who were once skinny and now are very overweight , i cannot remember their names, but i do remember them ignoring people like me as aliens now they got their payback. I hate and detest people who look at overweight people as dumb and stupid. There are a lot of very nice young caring and sensible young men and ladies out there of whom i have much respect for, but for the ones who only care for themselves, then they can go to hell, dont forget, you can all of a sudden pile on the pounds and you will get old, which is another thing that gets my back up, on this site a few weeks ago, a young girl described old people as people smelling of p..s etc, these poor old people that she described as smelling of p..s most of them fought terrible wars so that we can live our lives in peace, and that is the gratitude that this girl gave these old people. Whenever i see an old person who i identify as being ex military or even civillian because they did a lot for us as well, I approach them and take their hand and thank them for my life. No disrespect to our forces today, but they can sit in the UK and blow up iraq where these poor folks had to fight their way through, most like sitting ducks, but they carried on fighting regardless.

So before you run a person down who is old or fat or both, stop and have a thought for them, do you think they like the way they are? it is very hurtful, so come on have a heart.

Answer 10

Not a very Christian attitude to take, young lady!
Maybe it is you with the problem. She could have been jealous of your svelte figure.
...Had you possibly given her 'death stares'?..As I know you women can!
Who is to say what is ugly and what isn't?....You?
Who made you the obese police?
I suspect that you read your Bible a little more thoroughly and thoughtfully. And maybe in a year or two you would not be so judgemental of other people.
I'm not having a go. I just feel you ought to give people a chance to show you what lies beneath our flesh.
The chances are, she happened to be a very polite and pleasant woman.

Answer 11

Luke 18:10-14
10 Two men went up into the temple to pray; the one a Pharisee, and the other a publican.
11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men [are], extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican. (fat woman)
12 I fast twice in the week, I give tithes of all that I possess.
13 And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as [his] eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner.
14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified [rather] than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.