So many times people are afraid to ask for a divorce because of the fear of retaliation, or the costs involved, "losing the house, the kids, etc...." What do you think? If it was easy, would you have done it by now? or are you afraid of the unknown? Do you stay for reasons other than love? Are you numb to it and just live the same routine day after day screaming on the inside for a way out? Is there anyone else out there who feels the same way?
2006-11-26 01:01:41 · 13 answers · asked by catchernkeeper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES YES YES
I am so afraid of him being a jerk to me. He is the type of person who knows how to play the 'guilt card' and knows what will make me mad, and he's not afraid of doing it. He also has a big mouth and tells lies, so he'll tell the world I'm doing this or that when I'm not.
2006-11-26 01:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did. He tried to make it nasty, but I just never returned the nastiness. It's worked pretty well, with the exception of him delaying the paperwork. It did take courage though. I was willing to lose everything & move in with family members for a few months just to get the divorce. Many people, I think, are too worried of losing simple, yet important things like house, car, etc. to get a divorce. It took me a year to realize that it was more important to not be abused than to have my own house & car. Besides, I could always work my way towards a new & better home & car. :)
2006-11-26 01:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by kristalshyt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My answer is yes. I'm in the process of getting divorced after 25
years of marriage. I will most likely lose the house and many other material things. My happiness and sanity are what are most important to me so I thought about it for three years and decided it had to be. Even if there is no physical abuse, as in my case, the mental abuse is lasting and not worth putting up with.
2006-11-26 02:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by P K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 16:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all that was keeping me in a marriage was fear of retaliation, I would leave. How do I know? I did it. And there was retaliation. And I did it anyway. And I lived. It was the best decision I ever made!
2006-11-26 07:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 to tango. Meaning; it takes 2 to fight and for things to get nasty. You can get your divorce, get all that you want from the divorce without it getting nasty.
You just don't allow yourself to react. Very simple actually. And mine was long...(I waited it out).........mine was nasty (I didn't play the game).......I got everything I wanted........b/c I did not allow myself to get caught up in what, or who did not matter anymore.
It's called moving on with your life. Good luck to you. P.S. Sweetie, do not ever, ever everrrrrrrrr, in this lifetime "settle" for love. Your life goes by so fast and you will wish those days back that you settled for. Leave, and do it with dignity and let your attorney speak for you. Once you've walked out, you're done with it! You can begin to live again!
2006-11-26 01:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I walked away with nothing just to get out. I've lost $30,000 of my own and nearly 10 years. But at least I won't lose any more precious days of the rest of my life.
It's worth it.
2006-11-26 02:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Yes Yes no question asked.
2006-11-26 01:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anyone who had kids and found the Divorce process "EASY"
2006-11-26 02:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-11-26 01:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋