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I have noticed that very young teens, and even younger, are asking some very sexual questions on this site-should we, as adult strangers, be answering them?
Shouldn't these youngsters be directed to someone professional or a family member?
Do they deserved some of the trash that is handed out by a few, not all, but a few persons?

2006-11-26 00:56:31 · 17 answers · asked by dragon 5 in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

I do not mean for us to stop helping the younger folks, and yes, it is hard sometimes knowning the age of the asker, not to mention some who would take advantage of a younger person.
All the ans. have been great and caring-thanks

2006-11-26 02:00:30 · update #1

17 answers

I try not to answer the questions if I know it is from a younger person because I don't want to influence the teenagers. You're right, they should go to their families, but sometimes they fear they will be disowned and maybe that is why they want to post here. But, still, I try to stay away from their questions, all the same. They don't deserve the trash of the few people who are hateful towards them, it is bad enough we get the harassment.

2006-11-26 01:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 2 0

Sometimes I become a little uncomfortable answering the types of questions that young teens pose here. I'll pause and think, "Isn't this for mom or dad to answer?" But then I remember my own childhood. Mom wasn't willing to talk about such things and Dad was in no condition to discuss anything. (He was very, very sick.) My grandparents and uncles on my mother's side were just like Mom. If it weren't for my grandmother and aunt on my father's side (very open-minded and both medical professionals) I would have jumped at the option of having yahoo answers. So maybe lots of teens are afraid to ask their parents these questions. The same goes for a professional because their parents will be paying that professional and in many states, have a right to know what the kid is saying.

Yahoo answers is also pretty much anonymous and you don't have to ever contact the people who answer you again. It's good for getting a consensus or just tapping into a world of individual experience that would otherwise be going to waste.

I do not believe that they deserve some of the abuse that some people give them. Then again, I don't believe anyone deserves the abuse that is handed out, especially in this section. Teenagers are already going through a hard time. Add sexual issues and it's even worse. Add to all of that some jerk with an agenda and...it's enough to make me cringe. Luckily, there are more good people who frequent yahoo answers than mean ones. I just hope these kids who get such horrid judgement are able to ignore the jerks and focus on the helpful people.

2006-11-26 09:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 2 0

I hear what you are saying and to some degree I DO agree with your thoughts. BUT I also look at it that some teens are NOT comfortable enough with an adult that they are face to face with. As such they are much more comfortable asking a stranger. MORE so one they cannot see. I also feel that if the answer being given is a straight forward answer and is taking this teen in the right direction then there isn't a major problem with it. I have in the past answered some questions that most likely should have been answer by a parent or an adult relative. BUT thinking maybe this teen was shy and not comfortable in a face to face discussion I did answer it. If any teen has knowledge on any subject they are less likely to make a mistake that could change the lives forever. I know this does not apply to all teens as I lost a nephew to a heroin overdose several years ago. He was only 21 years old when he died and he was a nursing student. So it isn't like he did not know.

2006-11-26 10:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1 0

Good point but, considering that we have no real idea as to what a person's age really is(people do lie), should issues like that not be also addressed by Yahoo? While it may be seen as inappropriate for an adult male to address a 14 year olds question about sex, even though there are some that are homosexual, should Yahoo not endeavor to both provide them a section(segregated off for their protection) as well as protect them from some of the more virulent bashers on here? Heck, setting up your account on here leaves the option open to allow people to see your 360 page which is connected to your email address. Allowing something like that for a 14 year old seems as though it would make online predation quite easy....

Ah well..all we can do is hope that you would "police" yourself. After all, Yahoo will allow the same trolls back in here to harass time and again, not removing the questions for hours(if ever), so exactly what makes anyone think that they would worry if a child gets an inappropriate answer?

2006-11-26 09:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3 0

If you notice, once you get past some of the non sense, bible thumpers, and crazies a few people DO direct the kids to seek advice away from this forum.

Chris24, Puffy, Cando and a few others make an effort to direct young teens to responsible sources or take time to explain what is routine to most of us.

You know as well as I do, kids aren't going to ask the adults in their life these questions, if they could they wouldnt be here looking for answers.

Speaking as someone who is 18 and being out since I was 14, I understand where they are coming from. I also understand that they live in a sexually charged era, where there are few truly naive 12 year olds. They've heard the hate before, the BS before, they are looking for basic info.

The alternative is what? Close one more door to gay youth? I know in my short time on this board I have seen responsible adults pass on links to PFLAG, OUT Proud, Sex Etc and other sites geared to younger people.

We don't combat misuse by shutting down.

Thanks to those that actually do take the time answer intelligently, that don't get bored by the same question everyday. I hope they continue.

2006-11-26 09:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ax Me Anything 3 · 5 0

I'm always torn about this because sometimes an anonymous forum like this is the only place they have to ask questions.

I try to answer the ones I feel are serious, and I also try to encourage them to wait until they grow up alittle to make decisions about what they practice. I do always encourage them to seek out counseling if they seem to appear troubled.

But frankly exactly how does a 15-16 find a GLBT friendly counselor who isn't going to freak out,, or worse suggest there is something wrong with them if they want to explore some area's that are taboo for even GLBT? Gender reassignment and BDSM are two area's that most people don't understand and are threatened by.

I wish I had had someone to ask questions about S/m when I was that age. It took years to come to terms with my sexual responses, and even more to deal what it means to be a female Sadist. These are feelings and actual practice from puberty. Its not something I could have told my parents or school counselor.

So I don't really know, but as a parent, if my kids didn't feel comfortable coming to me, I guess I would want some place where they could ask questions.

And for all those morons who are so hateful and cruel to kids asking questions, did you ever stop to think that it might be your kid?

2006-11-26 09:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2 0

Most parent don`t talk about these things at home or even desire to talk. Teens use the net to find answers to they`re questions because they think they will find undiluted answers. the thing is that everyone has they`re own opinions about sex and sexuality, so it`s actually the same thing, but more talking. this can confuse teens even more. but occasionally there are teens with more experience or adult that will give them a helping hand. So, to answer you`re question, no, they don`t deserve some of the trash that some people give them, but this only means that those people know just as much or even fewer things about sexuality than the teens that ask. (if I aroused you`re curiosity enough to make you pose the question "who is this guy?", then my answer is "just a teen with some experience and a big I.Q.)

2006-11-26 09:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

It is not our jobs, as the unknown public, to be censoring or parenting these kids. They have parents, those are the people who should be restricting their use of such sites as this one. If the kids get bad advice, too bad for them. They obviously didn't feel comfortable enough with their own parents to ask them. It is the job of the parents to make an environment where their kids feel safe about asking the most difficult or even dumb questions. Parents should be taking care of most of the question asked by kids on this site, not us.

2006-11-26 17:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

They really don't deserve trash, which should be handled by the abuse button, but they do deserve answers.
The problem is that most of them don't have a professional or an adult that can help.
We are that adult.
And if everybody reports abuse, and some of us are wise enough, we can help some kids.

2006-11-26 09:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

A lot of times teens will seak out help to strangers because there is no obligation to follow up. But they really should talk with their parents and siblings. I just hope that they are given wise choices by yahoo answers peers.

2006-11-26 09:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Nostrebor 2 · 2 0

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