Me and this girl love each other to pieces and theres only a 2 and a half year age gap between us which i thought was acceptable. but her father seems to think otherwise and is calling me a peode.
I dunno what to do
2006-11-26 00:54:48 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I dated a 17 year old at 14 and it was to be honest really hard to keep the realtionship going because we were at different stages of life. You will also get a lot of critism obviously as you are at an age when you can legally have sex and she is not, people are going to worry that you are going to develop a sexual realtionship when she is not ready.If you are open about to her father about the fact that you are not going to make these advances then he may be more settled with the idea. My parents hated my realtionship at first but we discussed the sexual side and they became easier with the realtionship and really accepted him as part of the family until the point when we broke up.
2006-11-26 01:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by mintycakeyfroggy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is difficult. It's normal for parents to be protective of they're children and think of any reason that might make a relationship unacceptable. 2 and a half years isn't a lot even though you are both very young. My daughter was 15 and was seeing a 38 year old. He's no pediophile. She's just very mature. He's a great guy and loved and respected her and treated her very well. People get really bogged down with age sometimes.
However none of that is going to resolve your problem. It is really up to you and your girlfriend to demonstrate to her father that you are both mature enough to cope with the relationship. The best place to start is by showing him that you respect and understand his opinion even if you disagree with it. Remember he is acting in what he believes is he daugther's best interest and trying to protect her. If you show that you an he actually have the same idea, that his daughter is safe and happy, he may warm to you. Be patient though, these things take time.
Good luck
2006-11-26 01:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this country it is against the law to have a sexual relationship with a person under the age of 16. I am sure that you are aware of this and being told that your a paedophile isn't helping. You are in a very difficult situation and the only answer you should listen to is do not have a sexual relationship with this girl until she is 16. if you do and you are caught then you will have a criminal record, maybe go to be prison and be registered as a sex offender for the rest of your life, and this in the future will affect your ability to find employment etc. Very difficult situation to be in but unfortunately that is the way it is.
2006-11-26 04:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait. Be patience. Give this test to yourself. If you really love her, you'll wait. Concentrate on your study in the meanwhile. Path the way to make somebody of yourself. There'll be plenty of time to fall in love later and the field will be bigger for you to choose the right one. It may sound like a lot to ask from you now but trust me, you'll see the wisdom in this.
I agree with Dancin Queen 355 and she's 14? She's a lot mature for her age. Thank God for that.
I am 34 now and I was 17 before :P. I know the feeling of being helplessly in love. My ex was 1 year younger than me though but regardless, the point here is that you're too young to invest your emotion at this age, as I was. I sacrificed a lot for my ex. Had a chance to go to University but I blew it because I thought my love for my ex was everything. I was ready for everything for her but she was not. We were together for 3 years and it took me bloody 3 years to get over her also. I put everything on the line for her, my future and my family.
I'm a Banker now. Took me a long time to get where I am. There are many times I ponder on where I would be now if I had concentrated on my study. I'd probably be in the top management now, drawing a salary above $1mil a year. But time and age is not on my side. So, be patience.
2006-11-26 01:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about your future
When you turn 18 she will be 15 and her father can legally put you in prison.
Please don't sneak. Her daddy will get you
Then you are going to be listed has a child molester everywhere you go . Thats where you live, everyone will think you are a child molester and treat you accordingly, which is pretty bad.
But if you wait 2 and half years for her, her daddy can't do nothing because she'll be 18.
If your love is real it'll be real 2 and half years later.
Don't risk your freedom.
Analise the situation hard and choose freedom which is life
Or marry her if you love her and know you can take care of her because you have a good job or lots of money. (remember the bills) If you don't work you don't eat. that suck can't chew love and love won't pay the elevtric bill nor rent
2006-11-26 01:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by mapleavenue456 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
On the assumption you're talking about a non-sexual relationship I don't really see a problem with that.
People band words like "paedophile" around far too easily these days without really knowing what the word actually means.
According to the Encylopaedia Britannica, a paedophilia is defined as "a psycho-sexual disorder in which an adult's arousal and sexual gratification occur primarily through sexual contact with prepubescent children".
So as she's 14, you certainly can't be accused of being a "paedophile"!
2006-11-27 03:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by glawster2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 14 going on 15 when i fell in love with a 19 yr old bloke.my dad was not so pleased either!!! but you can make it work, me and my love are together over 5 yrs now and have a 2 yr old and another baby on the way!! just give it time and don't give up it. gets easier when the parents know you are serious, and not just using her.beware as well, it is against the law 4 u 2 shag her!!! until she is 16
2006-11-26 01:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is wrong at all...as long as you don't have sex or anything. You shouldn't even do that if you were both 14. But you're right...it is only 2 and a half year difference.
2006-11-26 07:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her dad is anoyed cos he didnt think to do that when he was younger. there is something about being protective
but the more people whos love spans age gaps, race etc the more likely we will get on together in the future.
so keep goin at it and listen to ur hear, not an old guy who is past it
2006-11-26 01:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, preople can be so pathetic these days, there is nothing wrong with what you are doing, as long as you dont take advantage of girl, anyway people get married 10 years apart and no one complains about that. carry on doing what you are doing at the end of the day love is the most important thing,
bless xxx
2006-11-26 07:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by LYDZII3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋