my wife and i have been married for 4 yrs now. we also have a kid. to make a long story short we were on the verge of divorce 7months ago. we started going to marriage counseling and everything seems fine. now we are more spontaneous, always joking around, helping each other through everything and sharing thoughts and feelins w/each other. the only problem is we're still not having sex. :( any thoughts on this?
2006-11-26 00:54:29 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well thats good keep staying like this....makeher fall in love with u again.....
smile at her.....
and when the moment comes when its very romantic tell her again....I love you....
and well u know...lol
2006-11-26 01:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Is Needed for a Successful Marriage?
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1999/2/15/article_02.htm
Can We Save Our Marriage?
- Trapped in a Loveless Marriage
- Why Does Love Fade?
- Is There Reason for Hope?
- Your Marriage Can Be Saved!
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/1/8/article_01.htm
The Bible Can Help Your Marriage
- How to Strengthen Your Marriage
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2003/9/15/article_01.htm
Perhaps you'll find something useful in these articles that your counselor didn't mention ...
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2006-11-29 21:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try for a second honeymoon just the 2 of you? Maybe a getaway from normal life where just only the two of you alone. Create some romantic moments like having a candlelight dinner near the beach. Bring along some flowers and say I LOVE YOU to her once again, tell her how much she mean to you and you need her very much. As a guy, you must make the next move. Keep trying until you succeed. All the best to you. Hope it works. Have a wonderful honeymoon.
2006-11-26 01:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by JENNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 19:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends does your wife like sex? Ask her hypothetically how many times a week would she like to have sex then tell her how many times you would like to. Come to a middle ground that is satisfactory for both of you. You may need the marriage councilors help again if you can't agree but it sounds like your communication is great you should be able to take this next step with ease. Now that your getting along in other aspects of your life together she may surprise herself and want more that she initially says she does. With a woman its more about the emotional gratification and closeness we feel when we have sex with out partners and now that your closer emotionally she may begin to respond to you more often. Good luck
2006-11-26 01:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by paulamcneil1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she doesn't find sex as important as you do, or doesn't want it very often. I would suggest bringing it up at marriage counseling. Definitely remember that lack of interest in sex does not mean lack of interest in you. A lot of women (& some men) lose interest in sex if they feel as though they are unattractive. It may be her own self-esteem that's eliminating the sex. Try to be sensitive about it.
2006-11-26 00:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by kristalshyt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women need a lot of things to be correct in their minds in order for them to have comfortable sex.....they usually screw things up all by themselves once the relationship gets serious and paint themselves into an emotional corner with no way out.....
The problem is women think too much, they always have to control everything on some sort of level and spend all their time figuring things out, what, why, how, when, who, where...etc and how they can affect all of it....
This is a problem with just about every woman on the planet and I know of no way to undo the mental mess they put themselves into that takes the fun and joy out of them simple things in life and relationships.
Good Luck....If you find a cure, bottle it and sell it, you'll be a very rich man!
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2006-11-26 01:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say lets give that time, sounds like you guys have started over and that is great. Just like the beginning of a realtionship most people of course not all, but most take their time with the sex part of it. Just relax don't put the cart before the horse. Good luck
2006-11-26 01:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you guys got over the worst part, I guess you didn't go over the sex part in counseling.
create the mood. do something romantic.. like send the kid to grandma and go to a hotel. set a date. trial rose petals from the door to the bed like in the movies and make hot passionate love to your wife.
2006-11-26 00:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are on the right track...things take time...talk to one another and talk to the counselor....if you are sharing thoughts and feelings with each other then you should be able to gently open a dialogue with her about your feelings on sex and how it makes you feel when you don't share that with her....good luck...be good to each other
2006-11-26 00:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes things are deeper than it appears to be . have you talked to your wife about this ? amybe you need to turn on the romantic side of life a bit again . bringing home flowers , have a date night with your wife etc........go out and eat without the kid etc..........
2006-11-26 00:57:48 · answer #11 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋