I'd like to be married, but it just hasn't happened yet. I don't want children because sex is too important to me. Isn't there anybody else out there like me? Are some people just jealous because I've thought things through more than other people usually do?
2006-11-26 00:46:17 · 10 answers · asked by charleston chew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Society has made us believe that getting married and having children is the ultimate goal in life. Because of this, sometimes people who do not make these choices are seen as underachievers. And you could be right... some people ended up married with kids and missed out on their other goals, and they could very well be jealous. Be proud that you know what you want from your life. And amen to the sex part of it!
2006-11-26 00:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Robin 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am just like you desire to be. I had a vasectomy when I was 20 or 21 (20 years ago). My long-term girlfriend is the same, and she got herself “fixed” when she was 27. Now I am 40, and still have never looked back on it.
The term is CF or Child-Free. Than means you chose not to have children. Why do people look down on us? That is simple. People don’t realize that having children is a choice. They actually believe it is some kind of unavoidable destiny. Why? I don’t know. I do know that you may be a labeled gay, communist, selfish, and other crap like that. It is such a shame that people don’t realize that they have kids for selfish reasons.
Don’t let morons bully you into changing your mind.
2006-11-26 11:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Marvin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you think is best for you. Don't let other people force you to follow the basic life script of getting married, having kids, etc if you don't think it's for you. However, be straightforward with any women you get involved with...tell them up front that you don't want children. If you are serious about not wanting kids, get a vasectomy and then you won't have somebody getting "accidentally pregnant" on you.
2006-11-26 09:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by Joyce H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 48, single and no kids...ever. I have many friends who are single, middle aged and no kids...over a dozen of us who hang out together.
I think people who don't get married and have kids are the thinkers of our society. Many serious intellectuals never get married, never have kids. Look at priests, nuns and other religious people...they aren't stupid or underpriviledged.
I don't think people have to join a religious organization to understand what a drain family can be on a personal goal.
I'm independent, strong and happy. I don't care what people think. I have friends, companions and privacy too...who could ask for anything more?
Sometimes I think that people in miserable relationships with children in prison are angry because everyone isn't as unhappy as they are. Almost everyone I know who is married at my age, wishes they weren't. The only ones who are happy about having kids are the ones whose children no longer live at home. whats with that?
The other problems is that many people will automatically assume you are gay. That's their problem. I'm not but the public's attitude about it makes me in favor of gay rights.
If I met someone right for me, I would marry but I haven't met anyone who wouldn't take away my freedom and I value freedom and independence more than love and security...Sounds like maybe I'm a true blooded American! I am!
The world is my lover and children!
2006-11-26 08:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. I don't see why anyone should look down on you for it. I don't. However, were you to have a child, you might realize there are more important things in the world than sex. Maybe they just want you to see that too, but they are unable to properly articulate it. I think the world is over-populated already, so if you choose not to have kids, more power to you. :)
2006-11-26 08:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by kristalshyt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people decide not to have children, and many people decide not to get married. These are personal choices, and as free will humans they are available for us. Some people are just closed minded and feel everyone should get married and have children. However, I think it is their jealousy and envy speaking. I would not allow it to bother me, if you are happy, live your life as you choose. As long as you are not hurting anyone. Who cares what others think or feel about your life. They are not taking care of you. Sounds to me as though they need to concentrate more on their lives and less on yours. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-26 08:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Society exerts a lot of pressure on folks.
Get married
Have a kid
Have another kid
I have a friend who got married, but had no desire to have children, and they get hammered on this relentlessly (especially the wife, as she is not fulfilling her 'wifely duties' by getting pregnant)
Personally, if you have made that decision, then that is your decision and I have no right or reason to dissuade you from it
2006-11-26 08:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are SMART.
Don't ever feel like you NEED to get married to feel complete because you are complete as a person just the way you are. If you find that special someone, then that person should complement you nicely.
As for kids, it's not for everyone.
Don't let people get to you. My saying is this "Opinions are like @ssholes.... everyone's got one".
2006-11-26 08:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
praise the lord & the sex he gives us
2006-11-26 08:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by RickeTy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
o poop on other people.... who cares what they think
2006-11-26 08:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by Dink 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋