I am in love with my best friend. I have been for a long time but I was afraid to admit it because of the possibility of losing my best friend. I eventually married someone else and now my best friend comes and tells me he has loved me all along as well. I don't want to hurt my husband but I believe I have found my soul mate. What do I do. Please give me your best advice!
2006-11-26 00:39:39 · 12 answers · asked by starrynight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well U r in a hell of a situation. That what happens when u don't try to speak ur mind. I don't know what to say!!!! Ask urself some of these quetions....Is my husband treating me rt??? Does he deserve to get the boot just bcos u and ur friend had a communication prob? BTW, where was ur best friend when u were getting married?? He shd have confessed his love for u at that time n not now.
Think carefully b4 u act so that there won't be any regrets later.
2006-11-26 02:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by garfield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you know it's wrong for you to divorce your husband. I also believe your best friend knows it's TOO late to tell you he's been in love with you all these years because you're another guy's wife!!! The best solution is to stop seeing and contacting him, and you should let him know your decision. If he truly loves you as he claimed, then he should leave you two alone and move to a place where you canNOT find him. I believe this will be the best thing for you all. You don't want to hurt your husband, that's just not right.
2006-11-26 01:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by patience s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything, you need to decide whether you want to be married or happy. If you choose to be with your best friend/soulmate, PLEASE be fair to your husband and end the marriage before becoming involved with the other man romantically. It will be unfair to him to cheat on him, and too many people do this. Also consider: do you have children? You need to do this in the right order, to ensure that everyone comes out alright.
I wish you good luck, but remember that you have no guarantee the relationship you are imagining with your "soulmate" will turn out the way you think it will. I hope everything turns out for the best.
2006-11-26 00:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your vows said "do you, Insert Name, take Whatshisname to be your lawful wedded husband until a better deal comes along?"
You need some time away from the "friend" and you need to work on your marriage. A true friend wouldn't do this to a married friend.
2006-11-26 00:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are fooling your husband and yourself, you should understand what you really want, because I think you should take a decision. Anyway don't be depressed, in this case you have the situation on your hands, your friend is suffering both because he's in love with you, and because you are married. make up your mind, as soon as possible. bye giovanni
2006-11-26 00:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about your best friend! Your married. Keep your husband happy by not even telling him about your crush. You can still be best friends with him but, never kiss him.Youd be breaking your vouls.
2006-11-26 00:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Alison R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that you are married, you have already made a choice. So I would put this idea out of your head. And keep the friendship, nothing more and nothing less. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-26 00:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you are married puts you in a huge dilemma. If you value your marriage, my suggestion is to end your friendship. It will hurt, but if your best friend is always around it will hurt your marriage.
If you don't value your marriage more than your friend, then it's time to level with your husband.
2006-11-26 00:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you still don't know what you want. Sounds like you married not for love but for convience. You sound self centered to me, marry a man you do not love. Self centered or Golddigger.
2006-11-26 00:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a wife's another god is her HUSBAND.i am sure dat ur husband love su so much..
may be ur frend is telling like dat for a joke.
dont leave ur husband.
2006-11-26 00:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋