i not me, i am trying to move on, i can't stop think about him.
i know he like me and just don't why it taking him so long to say some thing,
he like looking at me alot and he doesn't realize how much he does it.
i known him for months.
i woke up with him in my mind, it some thing i am not choosing to do and it killing me.
i want to tell him how i feel one more time b/c i did it before and he said he wasn't lookinf for gf. if he say no then i will totally stay away.
wat u think?
the feeling it just anouning, no choose to be in this position even if u try to forget about.
please help.
2006-11-26 00:20:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes it's hard when you want somebody who is not interested in you, but believe me, you are not dying. You are not even ill.....this happens to us all mostly. Try to think a bit more of the future.
2006-11-26 00:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by lou b 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with someone who isn't totally crazy about you too? Sounds like this guy just isn't that in to you, or you wouldn't have to be trying so hard and suffering so much. If you think it will help you move on to tell him your feelings, go for it. You have nothing to lose, since it's not like you are together with him now. It might even help you to see him in a new light and get over your feelings. Also, maybe you are being to aggressive. Men like the chase, maybe if you start acting like you are not so interested, he will notice you more. The best advice I ever got about men is this: What makes gold so valuable? It's not just lying around all over the place, it's hard to find. Be like gold, and not like any old rock. We step over rocks everyday and never even notice them. Sounds like you've been too much of a rock to this guy. Time to be gold.
2006-11-26 08:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by ruthie a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a great time to be creative. Get it out of your system by writing a song or a poem. Learn to enjoy the pain a bit, it will happen a few times in your life but you eventually find ways to deal with it. Going through this will make your next love feel even better....and remember theres always another door opening. At the end of the day anyone who busts your heart should be ignored till they crawl back on their belly or find someone who is not as good as you!
2006-11-26 08:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by b-overit 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All the answers listed are good ones and all of them smack of genuine intelligence and warmth. The people here in this community seem to care about you more than the dude you were chasing. Your heart is broken, so let it heal. You're sad, and lonely, so you need to get a smile, see your friends, and find joy in your heart again.
Accept that it's over, nothing occurred and you must move on. No cliche makes this better so just taking the change and move closer to yourself spiritually, emotionally, and hopefully... that is with hope in your head & heart instead of sorrow.
God Bless you.
Jaime
2006-11-26 09:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by El Santo Gordo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it will satisfied or confirmed how he really feels about you, then I don't see why not. But don't get disappointed, though, you might get the same no answer again. This don't just happen to girls only, but more often guys get this all the time. Keep looking for your mister right. don't settle for \just one person. Don't be really loose like letting any guys going to bed with you really easily just because you have fall under their love potion. Watch out for that. Good enough, yes?
2006-11-26 12:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by FILO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must set a boundary inside yourself.
He told you his honest answer.
It did not satisfy you.
You wish to change it.
Take your best shot, let it all out to persuade him that you deserve a CHANCE. That may mean a offer of sex, but that is sort of buying him. To me, just be as sexy, pleasant, and appealing as possible, leave nothing out. If you feel it, make sure that he knows!!
Maybe you will get a chance. I hope that you do!
Here's the hard part.
Maybe you won't. He turned you down once.
Have a support network ready, and a fall back plan, and if turned down again, move on.
You gave it your best try, no shame. Not in your control, not your (or his) fault.
If you can't do this, you will be a stalker - oh, yeah -
women can do it, too!!!
Don't.
That is your boundary.
This is my advice. Take it, or leave it, but if you leave it, where are you? This is Adult Land.
2006-11-26 08:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I understand you how are you feeling. you just can't do nothing to stop thinking about hi. But maybe this morning will be like this. I suppose you have daily obligations. Put effort on doing something that Worth's. For yourself...cuz the thought of missing him doesn't bring anything useful...still you are lucky that you know that he is not interested on you...but someone else might be...just smile and look around...maybe someone is "DYING' to osay I love you.
Take care, and don't worry.
2006-11-26 09:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by invisible1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear "I Am Dying"-
Dying can be very painful, but death brings peace of heart and the pain ends. You need to "lay this dying/dead relationship" to rest. Plant flowers, cry, sorrow, say good-bye; then get on with your life. Don't be foolish and treat something dead as though it were alive. It will stink and be uncomely.
2006-11-26 08:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the first time hedidn't like you but now that you told him how that might have changed so try again.
2006-11-26 08:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Phat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where do you see him? What is it about him that fascinates you? Are there any others like him?
Expand your horizons. Look farther, in different places. You will find another...
2006-11-26 08:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by thrag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋