im a 13 year old girl and i just started a new school and in the first couple of weeks i was fine but after a while boys started to pick on me and i dont understand it because i really try to be nice to them but they just do it worse. its not girls only boys and they call me stuff like a lesbian. ugly, fat, macho girl and that is just because i play football. they torment me and when i retaliate they just insult me more i have decided this has to stop but i need to know how to deal with them. im not going to go to a teacher as its not that serious and my parents would find out. Please help me!!
2006-11-26 00:10:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I was bullied all throughout school. Way back in the day, I was short, fat, and didn't have my Autism under control AT ALL. I was in special needs classes, and the only two classes that weren't special needs that I had were art and choir.
I remember, though, that walking through the halls brought on noises of people making retarded noises, telling me I needed to call Jenny Craig, or people blowing spit wads in my hair. I would have them waiting for me to get off the bus so that they could further my torment.
At your age, telling a teacher isn't going to help much. It's going to irritate your bullies, make you seem like a tattle-tale, and make your punishments from them that much more severe. Telling your parents may be therapuetic for you, but that probably won't help much, either.
Have you ever heard that saying, "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer."?
Befriending the boys who are making it hard on you may be the way to go. If you try to make an effort to be friendly, which I know that you have, EVENTUALLY they will chill out. In other words, they'll get bored with you. If you're not retaliating, you will become something that is "not worth their time", and they'll find someone else to pick on.
I wish I had some more helpful advice for you, hun.
2006-11-26 01:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, actually of all the questions someone could ask bullying is probably one of the toughest. I live in england and serious bullying is a huge problem in the schools here and its often on the news where some kid stabbed another or where some kid commited suicide because of bullying. The truth is there is no one awnser. Kids bully another kid because that kid is different to them. Even if you try to fit in you might look, sound or do things different to the rest and most people cant help how they are. As a kid i had occasional runins with bullies and sometimes you can fight them and win and othertimes you cant because there to strong or too many. Teachers here are useless and telling them wont fix the problem but atleast its some insurance, like if you do end up in trouble for fighting a bully atleast you will be able to prove you already told the school, so you wont get blamed. The best I can think of is that any guy who bullies a girl should be told how gay he is to pick on a girl and everyone should be told that, so i would think these guys would get so embarresed that they would quit. ITS TOTALLY GAY FOR BOYS TO PICK ON A GIRL, make everyone in school aware of this and i think it will stop the bullying for you.
2006-11-26 00:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by james l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie sorry that you are going through this. I was picked on a lot when i was younger, because I was always the tallest girl in the class. I am now 6 ft tall and love it. You may be going through a stage in life when you have not come into yourself yet. Do not ever listen to what they sat to you! Screw them! When kids or even people talk about others in a bad way it means they have a problem with themselves. I think it's great you play football, that is fantastic. I have two girls my husband is dying for our daughter to play football! Keep it up. As far as making the bullying stop, first try ignoring them, then try asking them "don't you have anything else to do with your time?' Also letting them know what I told you earlier, that when kids talk bad about others it is because they have a problem with themselves. That may make them self conscious about continuing. For me, I just dealt with it and waited it out, eventually it stopped. But remember do not let any of those kids be disrespectful to you! Stick up for yourself, if you don't they will notice that they can get away with bothering you. So always defend yourself! Take Care!
2006-11-26 00:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, ragging on the new kid. How rude and immature of them! Just think of it this way. Would you ever treat anyone the way they're treating you? Know this: You're better than them. You should be proud, you're a strong and beautiful girl with the guts to play football. Something most girls are not brave enough to do. Obviously, these boys are both fascinated and intimidated by you. Guys are like that. Don't worry! Boys are dumb and immature, especially at this age.
Who needs guys anyway? What makes them so great? You're great, and you know it. That's all that counts.
Keep on playing!
Chin up!
2006-11-26 01:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by [A] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them to grow up and ignore them .. they are probably just a bit jealous and feel like they are lesser men (boys) because there is a girl playing football and think that is a male sport.. I had the same with wood work and metal work at school after a while they left me be and actually saw I was just as good if not better than them and we became friends.... good luck ..
2006-11-26 00:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could do a couple of things. Like talk to your parents or talk to someone at school that might be able to help you.
The one thing I would tell you to do would smack the guy or guys that are bullieng you into a locker and tell them there is more where that came from if they keep bugging you.
Good Luck
2006-11-26 00:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went all 12 years of school being made front of, becouse of no other reason besides kids are very cruel.
The only thing you realy can do is ignore them unless they start touching you in ANY way wether they hit you or make sexaul acts then honey you realy need to tell some one but please feel free to e mail me to let me know how you are doing ok good luck rebecca
lindsi@yahoo.com
2006-11-26 00:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. One hand cannot clap by itself. Don't let them see that they can get to you and make you angry and sad. Be proud of who you are and what you do. They are just intimidated by you so they have to make themselves feel better by teasing you. But if it gets to where you can't take it, let your parents know so they can contact the principal to solve this because everyone deserves to be comfortable at school.
2006-11-26 00:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to **** off.....seriously...if they call you lesbian then they might have some hommosexual problems themselves...what's the matter with playing football???show them you're better at it then them...if they try to hit you...u know the kick in the groin...
2006-11-26 01:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from them or go tell a teacher as it won't do any good to keep quiet about it.
2006-11-26 09:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋