He says they are just friends but this makes me angry. I have heard him flirting with them. I got up the other morning to go to work and he was on the phone with one of them. When he heard me he said OK bye and hung up the phone really quick. When I got in the shower he called her back. I would like to know if there are any other people out there who have this problem and how they deal with it. When I mention I dont like him doing this he just gets angry and says he wont do it anymore then just sneaks. Thank You
2006-11-25 23:41:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seriously. I wouldnt have that crap. Tell him to change or leave him. No married man should be doing that. SHAME ON HIM, AND SHAME ON YOU FOR LETTING IT HAPPEN! You need to confront him today about this. Dont wait. This is not healthy!
2006-11-25 23:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
An emotional affair is defined as expressing thoughts, ideas, deep feelings, emotions, or sharing experiences normally reserved for spouse with another person. An emotional affairs differs from a physical affair in that it is not initiated for simple sex. Emotional affairs are often initiated when one spouse is not receiving emotional support from the other spouse and seek fulfillment from another person. In more rare cases there are others who engage in an affair purely for the sex. They do not want their relationship to end, they simply seek the thrill that being with someone else brings.
Most experts agree that you should confront your husband about his cheating. But you need to have a plan. Choose the time and place carefully so you can discuss the affair at length without interruption. DO NOT ask your husband if he's cheating. CHEATERS ALWAYS LIE. Present the evidence you've gathered that proves he's having an affair - names, dates, places, times, absences, phone calls, physical evidence, etc. Then ask him some pointed questions about his affair: why he did it, how it started, how long it's been going on, how he feels about the other woman, what he intends to do now that you know. Then you'll be able to make a wise decision about what course of action to take. Sorry that you must go through it.
2006-11-26 00:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess thats the internet addiction. All I can say is that I am sometimes the one on the phone an chatting on the internet. I am unhappy and I did not leave yet. Having smeone new to talk to is always exciting. I was always a fan for the begining of a relationship and when things settle down I am quickly bored. Maybe I am immature(33) but. Maybe he wants out like I do.
2006-11-26 00:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but hes cheating. Obviously he doesnt do a good job in hiding it. Hes not going to change either. Especially that he knows you know and still does it. These are not "friends" of his either. More than likely, these women dont know that hes married. Demand that it stops, or you'll put an end to it. Tell him if the women hes talking too is what he wants, give him the option of walking out, or tell him you'll kick him out. Threatening him hopefully will work. I wish you the best and hope you can work things out with him.
2006-11-26 00:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would he do if the shoe was on the other foot?He already has it in his heart and is cheating over the phone.It's just a matter of time before he acts it out.If he has not already?You have every right to get mad! I think you haven't got mad enough or his ear wouldn't be glued to the phone,Go to radio shack and by a recording device and after listening to one night of conversations and then you'll have the info you need to confront him.Good luck
2006-11-26 00:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to leave him and find a MAN, not a BOY. What's a MAN? Good question.
A MAN wants a long term relationship and family with ONE woman. A BOY wants to play with all the toys in the store. He gets angry because he knows he is wrong and got caught being in the wrong.
If you don't mind him cheating, then stay with him. If you don't want a cheater, then leave. If he is not cheating with them already, only a matter of time before he starts to meet them.
Go West young Lady, go West.
2006-11-25 23:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is emotionally cheating on you. He may not have done the nasty deed but it's coming-----He's lying and cheating and he's stealing time that should be spent with you.
I would delete all the chat programs off your computer---install a net nanny and make it so IM and chatrooms are not allowed! Change your telephone ### if you have to.
Give him an ultimatum!!!! Straighten up or he'll be receiving papers to divorce the situation!!!
2006-11-26 00:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pathetic, personally, I would not deal with it. He is cheating, and sooner or later will be meeting up with someone. How can he hold down a job and help to support the household if he is up all night on the Internet and the telephone. I would simply give him his freedom. Better to be alone without the issues of his infidelity. God bless****
2006-11-26 00:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AND UR condoning it HELLLOOOOO!!!! ur still there...dont ask about dont cry about...do something....ummmm hes cheating on u and u know it...face it....hes a dog...yup and by u being there still ur degrating urself....dont u have a bit of self esteem???? do u love urslf??? why r u putting up with this???? leave and find urself a REAL MAN that deserves u for u...dont settle for ****...this guy ur with will get what he deserves in the future...move on with life....
2006-11-26 06:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by truthgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is cheating. He is in a relationship even if it hasn't been consummated yet. Since you have already confronted him, and he has already promised to stop, and hasn't, its time to get a lawyer.
Get the lawyer's advice before telling Mr. Cybersex....he doesn't deserve a head's up. Good luck.
2006-11-26 00:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋