I am asking because my husband has changed. He goes over his "best friend's" house EVERY weekend with out fail to make music (thats what he says but I don't believe it). When we first met, His *** was tight (very athletic). Now it giggles!!!! I never saw a man's behind giggle and be soOo loose. When he goes over there for the weekend he turns his phone off or puts it on silent. and when he finally answers the phone, he whispers. He says its because their working on lots of music but when he gives me a copy of their music, it's only like one song on the cd.
One day we were watching RENT and on a particular scene between the gay lovers, he began to cry!! That day I went and took an AIDS test. I am happy to say that I am negative and since I took the test, I haven't had sex with him and its been 3 months. I don't even look at him the same way. I feel that something weird is going on... what do you guys think???
2006-11-25 23:09:30 · 23 answers · asked by need help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hire a private investigator or have someone follow him to see where he is going or just be plain honest and open and ask him the truth. be accepting and open... that does not mean that you have to stay with him, but be understanding of his wishes and take it from there
2006-11-25 23:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He very well could be in the studio that long working on music. That is not unlikely or unheard of. However, the fact that the two of you are not having sex, and he is not bothering you. Would lead one to believe that something is going on. And you should follow your gut (instincts) you know him better than anyone, if you think something is going on, it probably is. I am sorry for you and your pain. Why don't you go to the studio with him and see how he and this other man interact with one another, this would be the way to tell. You can look at two people and see if they have been intimate with one another just by the way they look at each other and interact with one another. However, most likely if you think something is going on, it probably is. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-26 08:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think there's a problem, there's a problem. Follow your gut instinct. If you haven't had sex for 3 months and he hasn't complained, that's a huge red flag. I don't know that its important that he's gay, so much as either way, he's obviously involved with someone else.
I don't think you need a private investigator, I think you need to have an overdue sitdown with your husband and ask him to tell you what is going on. Don't back down. Tell him your doubts, and fears (you were tested for HIV). Tell him you need to know because you cannot live this way anymore. Tell him to either come clean with the truth or you want him out. Good luck to both of you.
2006-11-26 07:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok,
Something weird could be going on. First, I would approach him on your thoughts to see what he says about your insecurities. If this does nothing to help them then you need to follow him when he leaves home, or have him followed by a friend. Do some detective work.
There are people who cry over Rent that are guys, so I wouldn't read too much into that.
2006-11-26 07:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jay S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm....there is definately something going on....I'm not sure I get how the "*** jiggling" fits with all of this....but he is probably fooling around....not sure if it's with his guy "friend" or another woman. But, I would go over there the next time he does and find out for myself. Then you will know what is going on and you can decide how you want to handle the situation. Good luck
2006-11-26 07:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES something is definately weird Your a girl you can be nosey get more personal in his life maybe call his friends house phone and block the number and see what you can hear in the back ground maybe go by his friends house and see if other ppl are there you gotta outsmart him
But if he catches you he can turn it around and say what you dont trust me ect. and it could start a fight
So maybe just try talking to him about it ...?
Good luck!
2006-11-26 07:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by sarahhxoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds pretty suspect. I think he is on the down low. One way to find out for sure is to setup a fake email or I'm and start corresponding with him as if you were someone else. I had a friend in a similar situation, she wanted to find out if her brother was gay, and sure enough it worked.
2006-11-29 08:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by freida1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step up to the plate and accept the reality of this situation. First off why would you want to spend YOUR LIFE with a man that feels the need to spend his weekend WITHOUT you. You deserve better, move on, life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death.
2006-11-26 07:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the evidence is circumstantial, but it is suspicious.
Make a list, make an appointment with him, after a meal, (men are much more content after they eat) and have a serious discussion about his sexual proclivities.
If he is gay, you don't want to waste more time in the marriage.
2006-11-26 07:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. It sounds like something is going on. It may or may not be that he is on the dl. But to cry at a gay scene? We cry at movies when we can relate. Hmmm. Ask him. I would. As for the but jiggle, i would find that unattractive. ask him y his but is soOo loose.
2006-11-26 07:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by keysopendoors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a delicate question! hm according to what you're saying i'd say that he's probably turned gay! girl it's been 3 months you guys didn't have sex! there's definetely a problem in your relationship! you have to talk to your hubby about that and fix it or leave him! you deserve to be happy! don't waste your time with a guy who doesn't love you anymore! good luck sweety!!!
2006-11-26 07:18:28 · answer #11 · answered by hellokitty24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋