My best friend has fallen for a married man who has also fallen for her. She has already left her husband & he is trying to leave his wife ; but his wife is putting up a fight. The man told her he was not in love with her anymore, no kids thank god, but why wont she leave?
2006-11-25 21:14:13 · 13 answers · asked by Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, this is one of the worst situations to be in, and no matter what course of action you take, there are downfalls to both sides. It's easy to get caught up in it and toil back & forth over whether you should get involved or just stay out of it. If you get involved, then you will be in a mess with your hands dirty and could potentially lose both friends depending on how you handle the situation. Those kinds of things have a way of getting sticky really fast, and you'll find yourself right in the middle of a situation you wished you would've stayed out of in the first place.
However, if you decide to stay out of it, you'll feel regret that you didn't say or do something about it when you could...especially if someone gets hurt. The upside to it is, that when it's all over and done with, you'll still be friends with both parties. Ultimately, that's most important considering you stand to lose both of them as friends if it backfires in your face...and one or both of them might spite you for getting involved in what they felt was THEIR business and not yours.
The best thing to do is, bite your tongue and back away. If one (or both) of them come to you for advice, simply tell them that you love them both and would like to help, but you think it's best if you stayed out of it. They are adults who got themselves into this situation, it is up to them to figure it out from here...you don't want to wind up being the escape goat if it all falls apart from them following your advice, because they will blame you when all you tried to do was help. The best help you can give them is to leave them no choice but to figure it out on their own. In the end they'll have no one to blame but themselves if it all goes south, and you'll come out smelling like a rose. Then you can make up for all of that useless guilt for not saying anything by lending your ear to listen and/or shoulder to cry on...and you'll feel better that you did, and no one will hate you for getting involved.
2006-11-26 01:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by chrisalee38 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to let go. For different reasons. But for your sake you might want to just try to stay out of it and let them handle it on there on and maybe just be there for support if someone comes to you and needs to talk or else you'll just get dragged into the middle of everything.
2006-11-25 21:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't he leave-or if it was his place before he married her then why does he not find a way to make her leave. Maybe he is not in such a big rush after all. Let them work it out.
2006-11-25 22:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be his wage packet, the house, the company pension the two cars, the holidays or am I just being cynical.
2006-11-25 21:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question should be to your friends. Why are you putting me in the middle of your love fest with another married person? Please leave me out of your personal life
2006-11-25 23:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its said that friends make the best lovers. Good Luck
2016-03-29 09:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bcs she is a good wife, she accepts tht sometimes people makes mistakes....why did they get married if he was not in love? marriage is no game
2006-11-25 21:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to appear rude, but what business is it of yours what your best friend does?
Just be there for her to help pick up the pieces.
2006-11-25 21:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to them to find out there ur buds they'll understand your consern
2006-11-25 21:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by RIO10GAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it.
2006-11-26 01:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by bobbysgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋