Hey gay guys, I'm also a gay guy and have acne scars and feel really self conscious about them. Please be honest and let me know, would you date a guy that has acne scars? So many gay guys seem to be superficial, but I really want to get an idea of how much of a difference this would make in your decision. Also, what physical things are most important in finding what is attractive about a guy. Is clear skin number 1? I mean I've dated guys and even lived with my ex-boyfriend for two and a half years (I'm 27 years old, came out at age 24, and I live in Chattanooga, TN), so I'm not a virgin or anything, but I am very self conscious and feel ashamed to really get out there and meet a new guy. It really affects my self esteem but I would rather guys be honest to let me know where I stand and what my chances are of meeting that special guy.
2006-11-25 20:56:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It really shouldn't be a problem for you - in fact the only thing that stops most folks finding their ideala partner is self-confidence.
There are plenty of people who, physically are REALLY not the most likely to win any supermodel awards - and yet have loving relationships with people that think (rightly) that they are great folks.
BUT - If you are the sort of person who constantly draws attention to them (a bit like heavy guys can keep going on about how much they weight) then you might put folks off - NOT because you have acna scars - but because YOU are clearly not comfortable with them.
It is hard for someone to love you if you don't love yourself. Corny but ever so true.
I am (I am ashamed to say) a little shallow - there has to be SOME degree of pysical interest for me to take the time to get to know someone. Otherwise, what do I do - try and get to know EVERYONE in my age range?! Having said that, scars - acne, accident, operation etc are not something that bother me in the slightest.
I think the good news is, it should not proesent much of a problem for the vast majorty of people - and if filters out the REALY shallow ones, then great!
The not-so-good news is that I suspect there is someone who has a real problem with your acne scars - and that person is you! :)
Might be worth working on your self-esteem a tiny bit perhaps.
Good luck
2006-11-25 21:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mark T 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dry and/or greasy skin due to poor oil composition of the skin. Thick greasy oils clog pores, lack of oil leads to dryness and irritation. You need thin oils to moisturize while dissolving and clearing gunk in your poors. Try fish oil or seafood. 2 tsp fish oil a day or 4 servings of seafood a week. Stick it out for at least 2 months; it will take a long time to replace all your oil. Any effect after 1-2 days is temporary or random; so even if it makes you break out a little at first, you haven't given it a full try yet.
In the short term you can wash and moisturize well, but that will only go so far. Plus excessive washing can be drying and excessive moisturizing can be clogging. Use a small amount of a light moisturizer, made with oil not jelly or grease. Often that means soybean oil or mineral oil. Mineral oil means mined from the ground. So soybean oil is usually better, though mineral oil won't cause too much harm. Clean with soap and water, not a harsh acne cleanser. Even then they only work so well. So you really need the seafood.
Antibiotics aren't really good for bacteria long term, they'll come back in force after. Short term they may help. After you get off them find some kefir with acidophilus listed first or 2nd to replace the friendly bacteria they destroyed. Studies show less illness when you have these bacteria, even outside the stomach in places such as the lungs and elsewhere. You want friendly bacteria to fill the void when the antibiotics stop, not harmful ones.
In the short term you might also try 100,000+ iu retinol vitamin A (a megadose, and too much for normal use) or one of the acne drugs that is similar to retinol vitamin A. It's some minor harm to your organs, but it helps against bacteria on your skin. At least it doesn't have the other long term drawbacks to your skin that antibiotics and many scrubs do.
If you would like to learn how to treat your acne permanently and regain your health and wellbeing, without drugs, without typical acne treatments, and without any side effects, then this will be the most important letter you will ever read.
Weird Trick Forces Your Body
To Eliminate Your Acne
Giving You Beautiful Clear Skin
In 30-60 Days?
Make sure your sound is turned on!
2016-05-16 00:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not a gay guy, but I am attracted to guys, being a straight woman, so I think I can answer this, too, if you don't mind.
I think it's really gross to have really big and red acne scars. It's just revolting to me.... but, if they are just some scars, you know, not the swollen, puffy, red, greasy scars, then it's okay.
You can go see a dermatologist to see what you can do to minimize the scars. It's possible to do that without plastic surgery. Also using facial scrubs or something like that once a week, only, might help a little too.
But that's just me! My husband has flawless skin, and I think one reason why I don't like acne scarring is cuz I used to have bad acne and I HATED it beyond hate! I didn't scar too badly, lucky me, but since then I've been traumatized by acne skin.
2006-11-25 21:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own little biases when it comes to choosing a bf or gf. Personally I prefer a clear complexion but finding a mate close to my own height and who isn;t too hairy is way more important. In fact the eyes do more for me than any of those in that some people have eyes that I want to dive right into the depths of. But the one most vital factor is personality; I can live with a tall guy who is a buit overweight and has acne if his personality and mine mesh and we trully enjoy each other as people.
So, whether you are tall or short, fat or thin, black or white, clear or with acne, makes no real difference overall. Just relax, be yourself, keep in good cheer and good health and enjoy every moment of your life. After all, life is way too short so it isn;t worth wastign time being self-conscious or having other negative feelings of self.
2006-11-28 03:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JOrdan, I'm going to be honest with you. personally it wouldn't bother me in the slightest as I always have based my relationships on more than the superficial. However there is some superficial people out there who will purely judge on looks and that is the way of the world. If it were me I would go out there and be proud of who I am and ignore the jibes. It can be incredibly difficult at times, but as you have said, there is more to you than purely physical scars. There are men out there who can look beyond that. I am half caste or mixed race. I know it is not exactly the same, but some would think that were terrible and might make racist jibes and taunts. I wouldn't then go and hide who I am. I guess I go by the philosophy 'You can take me or leave me!'
2006-11-25 21:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I'm really weird and think that acne can be really sexy. It depends on how it is though. My boyfriend has alitbof acne on his face (we are 16) and I freakin love it. I only like it when it's just flat little red marks though.
2016-03-29 09:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for asking this question!
I dated a wonderful man with quite a lot of acne scarring when I was in college...about a million years ago.
When I think of Blaine I remember his incredible eyes, his grace (he was a dance student) and his quirky humor....also remember fondly some things that would just get me deleted here.
I don't really remember the scars unless someone mentions them.
So, yeah, I think you will do fine.
2006-11-26 02:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well hes gotta hav nice arms--biceps and a hot body, acne scars arent that bad
2006-11-26 12:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by LuvU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a real man will love you for who you are. some people are superficial and will judge by looks, but you don't want those shallow air heads anyway. they're young and pretty, but beauty fades quickly and they're left with nothing to sustain them. be true to yourself and the beautiful person you are. when you're confident and you love yourself unconditionally that inner beauty and strength will radiate like a beacon drawing people to you. confidence is sexy! xoxoxoxo
2006-11-25 22:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only people who won't are the one's that base everything on looks. looks fade and one day those people will be alone. and the ones with less than perfect skin or bodies will have found someone that loves them for who they are not how they look. so don't worry you will find happiness one day
2006-11-26 00:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ron N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋