please anyone help me?

Question

Please advice me?
i had a friend but not a boy friend.he is one year elder to me.i love him a lot as a friend.but i haven't met him.no one in our home know that i have a friend like him.i kept it as a secret.i used to talk to him daily.but from 2 weeks im out of country i couldn't talk yo him.i missed him a lot.i now returned to my country.in my home they won't allow me talk to boys especially unknows. but im very upset without him.in his house also same type of restrictions.now in my house they knew that i was talking to other boy.they r suspecting that may be he's my boyfriend.i said that he was my friend's younger brother who is 4-5 yrs younger to me. but now my position is too worst and not allowing me atleast lift the phone.but i had only him as a friend to share my feelings and everything.wat shall i do now shall i continue friendship with him or not?noway in my house encourage this.please advise me

one thing i forgot to tell that im agirl

i cant move away from my family

Answer 1

Hmm.......first of all, how old are you? I can understand that some parents in the eastern culture do not allow male/female friendships. I had same issues when I was a teen. The only solution to your problem is if you get a cell phone which seems unlikely unless if you're working and can afford one. I mean I can understand it's tough. How is that before you were allowed to talk to him and now you're not? I didn't understand that part. You have to be able to communicate with your friend in order to continue this friendship. Is there any other way to contact him such as e-mail? If you can come on line then surely you can chat with him on line? That's the only solution I can think of at the moment or otherwise you'll just have to sneak and call him. I mean there's no way you can try explaining this to your parents because they won't understand. I can understand your situation and I'm sorry I couldn't help you further. I hope you find a solution. Good luck and best wishes........

Answer 2

i can understand what your going through, its tough but there a few things you could try. First you can attempt to talk it out with your parents, however i'm guessing this won't work because it appears they aren't too understanding. Make it your goal to just tell them the truth and not to persuade them into something. Your job is to at least be honest with them and in the end it's their decision whether or not they want to trust you. I suggest to not rebel against them because that can easily make the situation worst. If this guy has email, you can try communicating through the computer? or another easy thing to do is to go out and use the payphone. If nothing seems to work for now, you could try other ways of letting your feelings out. You could go to another friend (it can be hard to find someone you really trust), or you could try keeping a diary and writing out how you feel. Well Good luck

Answer 3

If u have to live where u are then u may want to do like u r told. If u don't have to live there then move out and do whatever u want.

Answer 4

Yes continue your friendship. Friends are important and you may never know what may happen