i keep worrying and obsessing about the fact im alone and lonely. and i cant stop torturing myself looking at the young happy girls on myspace who look happy wishing i could get one...ive left quite a few ' intitial ' messages but none of them respond to me..and if one does, i dont no what to say next after the, hi my names...and how are you..because i have such low self esteem...i keep tormentin myself with the thoughts of, ' how could i ever get a girl now at this point intime, living in a small crappy flat, with hardly alot of materialistic possessions and dealing with psychiatric problems and just the circumstances being the way they are....it seems mighty impossible right now, im 29
2006-11-25 20:28:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I say don't worry. If you're looking for "someone" be patient. It will happen.
2006-11-29 08:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by jp_457 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bit of a slump, a bad patch bubba, don't be upset about those people on the myspace. Actually most of them are either arogant, soliciting for money or very low esteem as well.
Go out and meet people in general. There may be a new friend that has a friend and so on. Get around a full house of people to cheer your moods and lift your spirits. You will run into someone if only as a friend for now. Have patience with yourself, and others. Watch a good flick or get a hobby one where you meet people, don't be a shut-in. Get up and seek companionship, you will see there are many others just like you out there and that one you are looking for might be there as well
2006-11-26 04:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all I suggest you work on getting yourself better from someone who has had deperession and found it hard even to say hello to someone on the street (I live in a small country town so saying hello to someone is the done thing!)
Try to find a place where you are going to meet real people and go from there do you have any hobbies? Or something that you may like to try in the near future? Go along to something like that and see if you can meet some more real people not everyone is as happy as their picture.
I wish you luck!
2006-11-26 04:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't look to make friends on myspace. You can't really trust anyone to be totally honest online. Material possessions can't bring you lasting happiness so don't worry about the things you don't have. Try to make friends where you work. Maybe your coworkers could introduce you to a nice girl. Good luck!
2006-11-26 04:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Robert G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and work on whatever its is your having trouble with. Be confident, exercise, it helps your mind to think better and clearly and your whole body will feel great too. When you meet women whether its in person or online, just be yourself and dont worry what to say to them. If you act too much like a nice guy, you will sound fake. Every guy gets rejected every now and then, you cant win them all, but learn from your mistakes. If you keep putting yourself down, you will feel worse everyday.
2006-11-26 04:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by ernie_casarez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try finding a woman in one of your therapy groups
2006-11-26 04:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋