Why do some people (especially the guys..) abuse women?...?

Answer 1

Yenny, women are not the only ones that are abused. Oh society would like to have us think that only women are abused and only men abuse them but it is far from true.

Did you know that men are the victims of domestic violence as often as are women according to unbiased research. Even the Department of Justice states 39% of the victims are men and this is after we consider that many men are arrested because they are beaten. Many state attorney generals have even said they will not prosecute a woman for domestic violence. This is because of the Violence Against Women Act which radical feminist fought tooth and and nail to keep from being the Domestic Violence Act.

How do I know this? I am the founder and director of Shattered Men. We however do realize women are abused and we do not turn anyone away who seeks help from us. Most women shelters would not even tell a battered man where they can get help but I assure you, they would not find it there.

One of our members is totally blind from his ex wife and there were NO charges against her. Others have been stabbed and they were the ones that were arrested. No they were not abuseing their wives first.

There is so much more to say but not enough time or space to say it but come to our group and we will be glad to help

My main concern is that if we do not look at BOTH sides, more women will be harmed because many of the women that do get seriously hurt are harmed when the person they are battering gets tired of it and hits back.

Answer 2

There are several reasons, but most have to do with control. Many women growing up were controlled at a level that bordered on abuse. It could have been religious, generational, or any number of given beliefs. The essence is that they believe that in order to be the "correct way" they must surrender to this control so they tend to attract men who are dominate and agressive. They learned at an early age that their importance is only decided by men, may it be fathers, brothers, uncles, bosses, you name it. Therefore, they have extremely low self esteem, no self respect and feel that they don't have a right to deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Of course, you also have the socio-economic problems of poor social skills, lack of education, poverty, etc. Frankly, women in these situation MUST get out on their own if the pattern is to be broken. That is not to say that helping is not an option, far from it. The one characteristic of battered women is that they are very, very, strong. They have to be to endure this treatment, but try to convince them of that. If you can suceed in convincing them, then 75% of the war has been won. The remainder is just getting enough money stashed, someone and somewhere to go to, waiting until the time is right (if possible) and go. Finally, one of the biggest reasons is the kid's. Many mothers feel like they can't provide enough to take care of the kids without the batters help. Hence, the socio-economic factor. But, that is just NOT TRUE. If you really feel this way, report the abuse, every single time it happens. She may not press charges every time, but eventually someone will get to her and she will find the backbone she has and make a stand. It also may give her the one opportunity she needs to get the kids and get out. You should be very proud of yourself for being so adament about this and some day your wife will be very proud of you as well. If you are a young girl, then be very careful of who you choose for yourself. Subconsciously, you may be drawn to them yourself by what you have been witness to. I am guessing you are one of the children/relatives of this woman?

Answer 3

Anyone who abuses someone else has their own mental or emotional problems, and is taking it out on the person nearest to them, but the reasons can vary widely, and couldn't possibly be addressed in a single answer.
Men and women can both be abusers, and can both be abused, by either the other sex or the same. Abuse by men of women is possibly more widely known and publicised, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's the most common.

Answer 4

That is prejudicial! Did you know that single mothers are 4 times as likely to kill their children as single fathers. They are three times as likely to abuse their children. They are ten times as likely to try and prevent a healthy relationship between the father and the child. I have been abused by two different women, and have never hit them back! I may have grabbed them to prevent further harm to myself, but that was it. I was raised by a single mother, so I don't hit women.(even in self defense) Some people are just angry and hateful & I don't believe we will ever be able to answer the question WHY! That may be a good thing, just don't be like them. Be better! The first abuse of kids I mentioned is called Hostile Agressive Parenting. It is well documented in seperations and divorces.

Answer 5

more than likely something to do with power, however I know of this man who's constantly being abused by his wife... he's constantly got black eyes and other cuts and abrasions... He's never laid a finger on her, yet she's abusing him full on. I feel sorry for him. I think it's unfair with the sterotypes of abusers being male and the victims female...

I am, however, a little confused as to the relevance of this being in the lgbt section :S

Answer 6

first of all not all guys do. and hey, some women do abuse men.

anyway, according to Freudian Psychology men who abuses woman could be attributed to an unhappy childhood. one or both of their parents (or handlers) might have been a neurotic person. chances are that neurotic influence would have promoted or a a proponent of such abuse.

Adler would say that abuse to women is in fact an overcompensation to the inferior complex of men. the need to reassert our masculinity would somehow be converted to an abusive behavior towards woman.

last of all, i wish to apologize to all women who had been treated badly by men. please don't generalize.

Answer 7

Its a control issue not a abuse issue, that's why more men than women do this, they need to feel in control!

Answer 8

well, the basic answer you would get from, lets just say Sigmund Freud, would be the fact that they have sexually desire for their own mothers which they suppress and vent through abuse.But that's CRAP!!. Its all about the way your raised, its that lack or abundance of affection you received as a child.........i think.

Answer 9

maybe because they feel unaccomplished for some reason and unsuccessful in life
they know they are superior to something and that is women
at least physically anyway well usually
so to make themselves feel empowered and conquering
they hurt womenh

Answer 10

Zero respect, And not just to women.