My fiancee is in another country right now waiting to come here on a visa which is probably going to take atleast 6 more months. When we are together we have great chemistry and good sex that when we are apart it seems that it kills him. He always tell him how much he needs me and stuff but there is not much i can do becuz i am in the U.S. We are planning to visit each other again in January but only for two weeks but then we will be apart again for another three or four months. And I dont know if he can make it. Today he said that he is not happy and that all this is too much for him sometimes. That sometimes he misses me so much that he cant stand it and hes tired of feelin so helpless. I asked him what does he want to do and he said he doesnt want to end it but he knows that he is not happy. Its hard for me to but the thought of losing him is harder so i jus pray and hold on. I know one day we wil be together.
So what should I do?
2006-11-25 19:57:01 · 11 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your fianee is being very unfair on you. You have to wait as long as he does after all. It isn't your fault you have to wait and after all 6 months really isn't very long when you are planning to spend the rest of your lives together is it? Ending the relationship clearly isn't the solution. If he can't bear to wait for you for 6 months then how much worse would it be to never be with you.
Obviously he must love you very much to be so distressed at the thought of being apart from you which is wonderful, but if he's really that in love then enduring a few months of waiting shouldn't be so difficult. Love is eternal after all.
Perhaps you should tell him that you understand how distressing it is for him but remind him that it is equally difficult for you and having to carry the burden of his misery is making it doubly hard. Tell him that you both need to be strong, and patient, during this difficult time and if you can come through this together, supporting each other, then the rest of your relationship and other problems you will encounter during your lives, should be easy to get through.
all the best
2006-11-25 20:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him as much as possible by phone or on the net keep telling him we are one day closer together .It is very hard for both of you but being a man I see it better from my side and by keeping in touch daily helps if the time difference allows you this privilege .You see I have been through the same thing so I know what a man needs constant reassurance and knowing you would never cheat on him. Best of luck ..john.
2006-11-25 20:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is this guy from and what country are you from? If you are from the same country it's good. However if you're not- One word you might want to keep in mind- PRENUP if you met this guy online. As for what do? Honey, there is nothing you can do accept for wait. This is not something (the visa) in either of your hands. If it's meant to be things will work. If not and either of you decide to go a seperate way. That's fate. You must accept that
2006-11-25 20:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Miss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him.If you two only see each other for two weeks every three or four months,there's really no relationship there.He says that he is not happy the way things are going-that should tell you that he is planning to end it.Get out of the relationship now-it will be the best thing you have done.
2006-11-25 20:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by the_silver_tin_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him to the point that you will sacrifice happiness, and are willing to face the pain you will feel if his "unhappiness" causes him to break it off, then wait. You are right. You might eventually be together. But you must both be of the same mind.
Abscence makes the heart grow fonder.
Otherwise, if you believe he is human, like most males and his desire( or yours for that matter) will compel one of you to betray the other. Save yourself the pain. Break it off. Be grateful for what you had and allow life to take you in a new direction.
2006-11-25 20:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by messier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even do not comprehend why it truly is taking place, yet i'm particular you do not favor to marry this guy. someone said "administration themes", and that i'm prone to agree. sturdy individual or not, this is clean you 2 have different expectations for what constitutes a healthful relationship...."obedience" appears to be like intense on his list. dishonest appears like an proper answer, yet deep interior you comprehend this is not. this is extra powerful to be rid of the total situation than to stay dishonestly. concern of the unknown will shop you in position, yet you ought to comprehend there are a selection of healthful, non-controlling unmarried adult men who ought to cherish having an attractive and vivid lady round to spend their time with. you say you've it sturdy there? In what regard? Creature comforts? Do you own them, or do they own you? no matter how luxuriantly that's embellished, a cage remains a cage.
2016-11-26 22:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truley love each other - the only thing you can do is be together - so that means one of you / would need to take the step and move to the other - by the sounds of it you live far away from each other - so alot would be required.
2006-11-25 19:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six months is nothing to wait to be together forever. Try to go and see him before then if possible. Peace.
2006-11-25 20:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you must end it.Long distance relationships rarely last and he is showing you signs he will cheat on you once he gets here and uses you to stay in the country.
2006-11-25 20:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by godzilla99s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on and watch his signs. If he starts to seem distant you get ghost becuase someone else is in the picture
2006-11-25 19:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋