me and my fiance both drink a lot. so tonight we both drove to the same bar and had drinks with some friends. after they left (they had started drinking before us) i wanted to have another drink but my boyfriend told me no that i'm done. he grabbed me by the arm. pulled me into the parking lot then threw me on the ground. i'm thinking he must be drunker than me but he drank a lot less! but he was acting paranoid! i only had a few drinks! I didn't even drink that much. Some of my friends are like, "see, i told you so." and wanted me to ditch him and hang out. but he never did anything like that before. i was embarrased so i went home. we live together. do you think it was right for him to tell me what to do?
2006-11-25 19:54:31 · 8 answers · asked by anonymous 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like he may be controlling.
Think about what your friends said. "See, I told you so". Does he have a generally controlling pattern of behavior?
You need to examine your relationship objectively- before its too late.
Its easy to be unable to see that your boyfriend is controlling in the beginning- everything seems so great and you guys get along really well. When everything is so great its hard to past that and recognize bad personality traits.
Start listening to your friends...
Also, Check out this article I found:
http://wehow.ehow.com/how_2004116_identify-early-warning-signs-disastrous-relationship.html
2006-11-29 07:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by want2knowsoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I am sorry that this happened to you. Not only do I think he was wrong for telling you what to do because he should trust your judgment. The fact that he threw you on the ground is horrible, that makes me feel so bad for you. I would be embarrassed to but he was wrong. Not only should you be worried if you were wrong right now, I am and you should be worried if you are in a violent relationship and if you are about to marry someone who will abuse you. In my opinion throwing you on the ground is abuse. I hope that he didn't hurt you physically when he threw you down, but I am sure that everything he did tonight must of really hurt you emotionally. I am so sorry and I hope that this helped you feel at least a little better.
2006-11-26 04:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by cks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both acting like idiots. Why do you do these things to yourself. Do you not understand the risks you are both taking regarding your health and your well being. Not to mention a good future together. I feel sorry for any children that you may have or are thinking about having..It has all the ingriedents of a nasty future for both of you.. You need to have a very close look at the road your going down girl. I think there is a very steep cliff at the bottom of that road.. Sorry for the harsh words girl but someone needs to give you a reality check..
2006-11-26 04:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sign of what your in for, take the warning . Once you let him get away with treating you that way it will only get worse. I only wish someone cared enough to give me the same advice when I was young and needed it.
2006-11-29 18:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he shouldn't tell you what to do unless its in your best interest. If he thought you were too drunk then maybe it was okay. But him throwing you was totally inappropriate and you should talk to him about why he choose to do that. I would say its time to get out. No man should ever grab you or throw you.
2006-11-26 04:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you need to get involved in a more healthy hobby. He could be a mean drunk, and he shouldn't be putting his hands on you...intoxicated or not.
2006-11-26 03:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by мooи sнiиe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he goes to AA (you might go too) and gets help, or you need to get away from him. He abused you once and will do it again... and most likely it will escalate. Those things happen in common patterns.
He pushed you down once.... he may hit you next time..... eventually... who knows?
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-26 03:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't right for him to put his hands on you
2006-11-26 03:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by cweetepye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋