i'm a grown woman 32 i took my baby to the store with me and my cuz my baby was well wrapped up i'm not gonna do anything to endanger my baby i was only gone for 3hrs is this a crime because he has gotten on my last nerve mind you i have an 11 yr old son i think i know what i'm doing
2006-11-25 19:43:36 · 13 answers · asked by k2u 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
he already has 3 other daughters 13,12,and 3 but more i think about it the more i feel he's trying to control but its not happening
2006-11-25 19:53:23 · update #1
I don't think it's wrong or a crime as you put it. My fiance and I worked second shift when my daughter was a baby so we did a lot of late night grocery shopping because before work we did doctor's appointments. I feel that some times it's just needed to get out at night time(not go bar hopping or anything just get out and walk around) and after the last question about your ex-fiance I'm assuming you live alone so he wasn't there to watch your daughter. Also, you said you were there for three hours, so that meant that you left at 7pm which is still a reasonable evening time. Heck, 10 pm is still considered prime time on TV so how could that be late, late is after 11:30 pm according to TV networks. I think you know what you are doing and I would just ignore him.
2006-11-25 22:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by a1dermommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the child is his, on a quiet nice day try explaining to him that the baby is 2 months old and that is the reason the baby needs you more and that is why you take the baby with you. Tell him it is a mother thing, a bonding that you feel inside that the baby needs to feel your presence.
If the child is not his, explain to him everything as if it were his and perhaps he may learn something from what you tell him.
It should be a concern not to marry a man who considers you a criminal. The word that you express such as a "crime" is a very stern word. You must be at the very bottom of his list. I suggest you do not marry him, till you can pass a month without him messing with you unjustly. Does he always tell you that you don't need that or this, or does he make you feel miserable more than he makes you feel happy. If this is the case than dump or leave him.
See, there are things that maybe a man feels that a women does not need but it takes a man to understand and respect that a women has her own feelings and needs.
Perhaps he meant that it is a crime to leave the other children unattended at home, or maybe he felt overwhelmed taking care of your other children for those 3 hours if this is the case then you both have to work this out before you both get married.
2006-11-26 04:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not take a two month old child out anywhere late at night, for a couple reasons:
It is colder at night, giving the baby a higher chance of getting sick.
Someone could sneak up on you easier, hurting you and the baby.
Obviously every once in a while is ok, I just wouldn't recommend doing it too often.
2006-11-26 03:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bballoakie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having your baby out late with you every once in a while isn't going to be particularly bad for the child. Occasionally I had my son out with me (not at any bars, but once at a new years party) when he was less than a year old and he didn't suffer any adverse affects. At that age they sleep. As long as they're fed, dry, and loved they'll be OK. My son turned 22 yesterday and he's a perfectly well adjusted young man. Being up late occasionally didn't do him any harm.
2006-11-26 03:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by mztreasure999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a crime, and if it worked for both of you then why not. Only thing I would say is that if you start getting into a kinda bath/feed/bed type routine for night times she may take to sleeping all night a bit better when shes a few more months old...up to you really.
2006-11-26 09:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a crime but a bit silly at that time of night
you didn't say if you went out at 10 pm for 3 hours or got home at 10 pm
BUT you are a parent for 11 years so you know what you are doing i assume
2006-11-26 03:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's his first child, be patient. Be happy he's over concerned rather than not concerned at all. It shows that he's a good parent and protective of his child. Just let him know what you just told us. Tell him to calm down. If you had the baby with you at some bar until 2 am that'd be unacceptable, but not at the store with your cousin. He'll calm down. He's just a new parent.
2006-11-26 03:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14 and 15 year old, they came to the store with me when they were very young. Is there maybe something happened to his child/ren or even to himself/family that could make him so finicky? It could be a personal feeling (that he has gone through before) to make him so over protective.
2006-11-26 04:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by prairie_babe74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little babies haven't got settled sleep schedules. We used to go out to eat kind of late when our kids were under 5. They didn't have school. They took naps. We ate when we were hungry.
What's his problem? Does he want you in by 9?
2006-11-26 03:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you take a 2 month old baby out till that late. Think about it...
2006-11-26 10:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋