I don't hate him, or even really dislike him. He's my best friend. But I'm done with him. Our relationship doesn't work on this level. I've tried everything to fix it, and we've been married a while. But I'm afraid he will hate me.
2006-11-25 19:19:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to the idiot--
I don't want kids, a big house, vacations, etc. I don't know what you mean by all of these things anyways. I am really against divorce, and I hate to do it, but I don't think I will ever be happy with him. This comes to me with great pain. But more than anything I hate causing this person I love so dearly, my best friend, pain.
2006-11-25 19:56:22 · update #1
Yes you can remain friends after a divorce. It pretty much depends on the reason for the divorce and the emotions of both partners during the time of the divorce. While I really don't like my ex any more (spent the last half of our marriage not even loving him) I don't "hate" him and I can't say that I really dislike him. I am cordial with him because he is the father of my daughter and I have often thanked him for that gift. But I don't like him as a person and he wouldn't be in my circle of friends the way he is now. Years ago when we first met yes he would be. I was quite attracted to him, but life changes as we get older, our priorities change and sometimes we end up with different priorities all together.
2006-11-25 22:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It'll take a much longer time to accept when you're on the receiving end and being told that the marriage is not working out. Especially so if on his part he didn't see it coming. Whatever reasons you give after are just excuses to him. He will be confused and may wanna know the real reason, but whatever you say will seem unacceptable. So there maybe a slim chance that it'll be hard to still maintain the same level of friendship after the marriage is over.
Many couples still remain friends after a divorce for various reasons. Mainly for the benefit of kids. If your husband is matured and understanding, i believe that you both can still be friends, but not best friends anymore.
2006-11-26 05:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by ikusburples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it matter if you remain friends? If he wouldn't want to be friends with you, would that keep you from divorcing him? There's no way to predict what will happen. Just be true to yourself, do what you need to do, and if you are loving about all this, you guys may end up friends. If he doesn't want the divorce, he'll be hurt and angry. You'll need to give him his space until he wants to be friends, if that's even possible. More than likely though, he'll find someone else who won't be into her honey being friends with his ex. You need to really figure out what you want and if you let him go, don't have any expectations of him. He deserves to move on just as you do.
2006-11-26 03:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You speak of this level though he is your best friend. On what level? Sounds like you are a post modern typical female that wants diamonds, self-fulfillment, kids, the big house and vacations to Hawaii and Europe with no struggle. Trust me, Hate would a welcome emotion on your type. If could tatoo your type, A big "S" for Shallow would be on your forehead.
2006-11-26 03:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Henry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most couples are still friends after divorce.The ones that are not are just angry people.You would know if your husband is an angry person. If he isn't then he wont hate you. He will be hurt and mad, but with time and give it to him. you will be able to remain somewhat friends.it wont be the same, but it will be OK.
Good luck, its still wont be easy, even if you are done
2006-11-26 03:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my ex and i are great friends! it took some time but we wanted what's best for our son. we even spend holidays together with our new spouses
2006-11-26 03:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by cweetepye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a perfect world, walk carefully there maybe unerlying hurt
2006-11-26 03:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by laizeedaze 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes may b
2006-11-26 03:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by sunflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can, or when you guys see each other in the future, it will be awkward
2006-11-26 03:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is in love with you, probably not.
2006-11-26 03:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋