My girlfriend of 3 years and I made love today. She just told me she is ovulating and knew it. She told me before the intercourse that she was almost on her period and could not get pregnant. She chose to trick. We used no protection. Now I love this girl with all my heart but I feel so betrayed…we talked about kids, but having them years from now. I am 23 she is 24
2006-11-25 19:12:59 · 16 answers · asked by Jerry W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
its not a baby i am scared of. Its someone i trust so much lieing to me like that...
2006-11-25 19:19:56 · update #1
i dont know if this is clear or not...she planed this. Of course i am responsible for this to but...to be tricked into it
2006-11-25 19:25:34 · update #2
Ask her why she chose to lie about her feelings and about ovulating rather than simply tell you how she feels. Why did she feel the need to lie about something so important? Is this a big enough issue to bring to a counselor, os should you consider this betrayal a reason to move on? Maybe she feels like she needs a reason to get you to stick around for sure; kids would be a good way to get your attention. There's not muxch you can do other than get a couple preg tests, ask her why she betrayed you, and keep on the watch for her period. Best of luck.
2006-11-25 19:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been betrayed yes.. but you also should know that you can get pregnant at any time of the month..
Go and get the morning after pill and tell her that you are not ready to have children yet and ask her to take the pills and then maybe you both need to sit down and have a chat. If she wants children get her to talk to you and maybe you can both start trying when you are both ready and have talked about it properly. You have 72 hours after intercourse for the pill to work but the chances of working properly decrease all the time.
2006-11-25 20:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by shellhiggs07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah,I can see how you would feel betrayed. What would I do? 1) Tell her how you feel....but not with anger or sarcasm. Say something like, "I love you so much and would very much like to have a child with you,but I feel so hurt and now find it difficult to trust you." .After 3 years,Yall should be able to have an intimate conversation like that. 2) Chalk it up as a lesson learned. Any unprotected sex can result in a pregnancy. If you ain't ready,protect yourself. 3) Work on your communication with her....Are you sure she does not want a kid NOW?
2006-11-25 19:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't be mad at anyone but yourself, you knew she was ovulating. Almost on her period doesn't count.
She probably feels after 3 years in a realtionship, pregnacy is only logically is next to occur.
You need to keep talking to her about how you feel regarding kids, your careers, and where you two are in your relationship. These are three factors very important to each of your futures. Which I'm sure you are concerned with.
Once again let her know how you feel about what happened, and what you feel what may happen next.
2006-11-25 19:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Johnathan S-C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that everyone's going to tell you to always use a condom, right? I can understand feeling betrayed by her doing that. After 3 years with someone, you should be able to trust. I think she was so wrong to lie to you about that. Let her know how hurt you were by what she did. I think it is terrible to use sex or children to manipulate your partner. Is she trying to make sure you stay with her by making a baby? Try to find out what her motivation was to do that. I think, for now, you should try to focus on healing your relationship with her and not worry about a pregnancy until you know for sure. And start using condoms since she wasn't truthful with you about her cycle (the rhythm method of birth control is pretty ineffective anyway). I hope everything turns out good for you.
2006-11-25 19:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what u mean and i think it is an act of betrayal...........if you really love her i suggest you sit down and have a serious conversation about it and let her know how u feel and where u stand. And if she loves u then she will respect and come to a compromise. But advice from a woman.........she either did that out of desperation, or totally immaturity if it was desperation then find out whats the cause of feelin so desperate. If it was immaturity, then u need to talk to her about the seriousness of having a child and rather you to are really ready for that.
2006-11-25 19:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman can become pregnant anytime, including during her period. If she has a baby then you will be made to pay child support. Use a condom or else get your willie fixed. It's done right at the doctor's office: why should the woman shoulder all the responsibility, all the time? You can get your willie "un-fixed" at a later point in your life should you choose to do so.
2006-11-25 19:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by thebirdlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never put your life and future in someone elses hands, if you know that your not ready to become a dad then always use a comdom. Even if she is on the pill. Play it safe, because every time you have unprotected sex means your willing to be called daddy in 9 months!!!!!!!!
2006-11-25 22:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by mommy of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like condoms and one shouldn't have to use one with a girl you love. Instead have her take birth control or some other form of birth control like a diaphram and when you *** pull out and *** all over her back or stomach or even her face or mouth and she can swallow. Thats a fantastic feeling and totally safe.
2006-11-25 20:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 3 years of being your gf she probably feels she has been tricked and betrayed too!
2006-11-25 19:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋