we fight all the time about dumb stuff, and we have 3 kids? we fight about cleaning, jealousy, but nothing big!! what the hell is going on?? But it feels like he don't like me anymore.
2006-11-25 19:07:50 · 7 answers · asked by blue_lollypop4422@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like there is an underlying problem that's not being brought to the surface. Usually people split because of money, sex or children. Sit down together and talk openly and see if you can bring out what's really going on. The final thing to discuss is should you get counseling to find ways to solve it if you both can't come to that conclusion. Are you guys married? Is that the problem? Is he jealous, or maybe you don't have time for him? Is he tired of being the only provider...do you work outside the home? Could be lots of things going on there...don't guess...ask.
2006-11-25 19:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With three children you likely have a lot of stress. I don't know how old your children are, but sitting down as a family and talking to one another about how this fighting is affecting each one in the family. When you fight it's easy to say things that you really don't mean; get help before you say things that will damage each other. Find a good counselor that you both feel comfortable with. If you have to go alone, go alone. Neither of you wants to feel that they aren't loved by the other, so you need to learn to communicate. This is an important time in your life. When your children hear you fight it is so bad on their self-esteem and it can be real scary for them. They need to be re-assured that everything is going to be alright. Then you need to take the steps to make it alright. Holding your relationship together will be the best thing you could do for your children. It's worth the work that you will do. Good luck and learn to take a deep breath. Maybe you both need some time alone away from the children for an evening.
2006-11-26 03:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kyra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married?
Even if you are not, this seems pretty small to turn your life upside down.
You two need to sit down and take turns talking, no talking over what the other person is saying. Talk about what is bothering both of you.
You mentioned cleaning. Do you have an agreement over who is responsible for cleaning what? A better division of household chores may be needed. Write down who is responsible for what each week. Set up a schedule to trade duties so you both have a chance.
Good Luck!
2006-11-26 03:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by jpbofohio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest family counseling because fighting over "little things" usually indicates a much larger issue that isn't being addressed.
2006-11-26 06:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help. That person can mediate the differences you two are having and get down to the really problems at hand.
2006-11-26 03:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough call.
you would be better off getting counseling
2006-11-26 03:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by 987654321abc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's small stuff just get counseling
2006-11-26 03:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋