Any ideas to cheer her up? She has everything money can buy (that I can think of).
2006-11-25 19:06:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She had a traumatic family experience at Christmas time ,so yes, it is a bad time of year for her always.
2006-11-25 19:10:37 · update #1
Take her somewhere... plan a special day. Make it all about her. I get depressed during winter because it's always so cold and gray. Just try to brighten her day a bit!
2006-11-25 19:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christmas time is a joyous time we all know, however, it is medically known that people who have been diagnosed with depression have an episode at this time, even if their life seems perfect. They themselves do not know why it happens and do not know what to do to help matters. And this does make it hard for the loved ones in our lives. The only thing you can do is to be patient, understanding, caring and lend your shoulder when she needs to cry. Don't ask why she is crying because she probably doesn't know. Do tell her, you are here for her if she needs someone to talk to or unload on. Hold her if she needs and leave her alone if she needs that, but keep an eye on her from a distance. Someone who is depressed can commit suicide though they don't really want to die. If she isn't seeing a Doctor, she should go. There are some really great medicines out there to help.
Money doesn't buy happiness. Just because she has "everything she could ever want" doesn't mean she will not have depression. It is a chemical inbalance in the brain and should be taken VERY seriously.
2006-11-28 03:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Q'S & A'S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, money doesn't make the world go around....people do. She may have all the materialistic things she needs, but she's lacking some emotional needs somewhere. You need to find out why, and then work on changing it. Something had to have happened in her life to make her view Christmas in such a depressing way. I was like this for a few years, but it was because I lost my mother. It took me awhile to get use to not having her around (she made the holidays so special), but eventually I realized that for the sake of my children and those around me, I needed to carry on my mother's legacy and make holidays a joyous time. In other words, I took all that energy I spent on being depressed, and turned it around. Holidays around here are happy again, but it took time. And I'm sure if you took the time to talk to your wife, the two of you can work out a solution to bring her around. Just be patient hon, it's not going to happen overnight.
2006-11-26 03:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to sit down and talk with her, help her through this difficult time. Communication is the best way to keep a relationship healthy.
You could say something like "Dear, I noticed that you've been (down, depressed, sad, etc) lately and wondered if there was anything you'd like to talk about." Reassure her that you are there for her if she needs to talk, possibly express your concern that It seems to come up during the holidays. Most women would appreciate the thoughtfulness of your concern in this situation. It says a lot that you have noticed and you want to help her.
Good luck!
2006-11-26 03:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it might help if you took her away for awhile. A different place, different scenery might help. Though everywhere you go will be celebrating Christmas. So that will be a hard one to get away from. Though a good thing is to have her see a Psychologist and be able to talk to a professional about this on a regular basis. She may need that extra help and support to assist her during this time. But make it something for you both to remember.
2006-11-26 03:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do, too, so I have an idea what you are going through. It has nothing to do with things. You can be there to support her, talk with her, etc. but some times we just need the space to deal with "stuff" knocking around in our heads and hearts. I think it would be good to plan a few things to do with her - driving around to see the Christmas lights, go to see a carolling concert - things like that, interspersed through the holiday time.
2006-11-26 08:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much detail there....Is she from a state that has 4 seasons living in a state that doesn't? If she seperated from her family? Do you spend Christmas with family she doesn't enjoy? Do you have many added activities that could cause her to feel overwhelmed, planning gatherings, shopping, decorating? If you can get to the root of what is causing the blues it will make it easier to assist her with the way she feels.
2006-11-26 03:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by shannonscreativechaos 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that you think that by buying your wife something will cheer her up. Sorry mate, but you need to find out why she gets depressed and help her by supporting her and comforting her. Material things do not do as much as a good cuddle and let her cry if she wants to. Just be there and help her through whatever is upsetting her.
2006-11-26 03:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by k1e9r6r3y 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I tried to end Christmas but it didn't work. Them Who's just went on celebrating....
Seriously make plans to do stuff besides X-mass stuff that will distract her like going to the Theater on X-mass day,
Taking her to dinner when Xmas's shopping, or "money bags" how about taking her on vacation to some warm island over the week?
Or
are you being selfish and want her to "get over it" so you can enjoy the holiday?
2006-11-26 04:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by justpatagn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her sit on her own and think too deeply to start with. Hold her often. Kiss her affectionately every opportunity you get. Make lots of love to her. :-)
Besides the above, to make her feel that she is so fortunate to have you and everything she wants, she can do some charity (for orphan children or sick ones and for old people). It will make her feel blessed and lucky, and she will appreciate the Christmas spirit.
2006-11-26 03:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by happykat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people do, at this time of the year. It is usually cold outside and or rainy, snowy....
Money wont help this.... Do you have florescent lighting in your house? Does your wife eat fish such as salmon? Vitim D is good!
Living in the Pacific Northwest all my life these are some of my tricks for not getting the blues this time of the year.
Wish you and your wife well....
2006-11-26 03:12:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋