My financee is working out of the Country, he gets a 21 day R & R. every 4 months. Twice in 16 months he chose to take it somewhere other than with me. We are getting married in 4 months and I try to understand, yes I am working and it would be more fun vacationing somewhere more exotic. I am feel like I have a cyber boyfriend. I love him, but it is hard to ignore others asking me out and the attention. He seems to be enjoying himself. He is touring Europe on this R & R, last one he vacationed in Australia. He calls daily telling me how much he loves me and misses me, and I am the best thing in his life. I try to understand, but every night I sit at home alone and ignore others asking me out. I love him and this has been going on 2 years and I am lonely.
2006-11-25 19:02:49 · 15 answers · asked by 2cool4fools 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he loves you enough to ask you to marry him, why would he want to be anywhere else when he could be with you?? I think you should really rethink this whole relationship and ask yourself if anything would change after you married him, and if not, do you want to spend the rest of your life like this?
2006-11-25 19:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJulie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
You should first talk to your fiancee. It seems like you are loving the attention you are receiving from other guys. When your fiancee is not there you are getting the attention from somewhere else rather than your fiancee because he is not present. It does not seem like you want to settle down you still want to date around. I'm sure your fiancee would of loved you to be there. You should talk to him b/c your wedding is right around the corner, girl. If you leave this unsolved you are more likely going to have doubts before the wedding and after you two get married. You do not want to cheat be honest. It is better to break it off then cheat. Go out w/ your friends and be positive that you have someone who cares about you so much. Marriage will be about having each others back when the other isn't around.
2006-11-25 19:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to consider dating when you have a wedding in 4 months, then you may want to reconsider your commitment to this man. Long distant relationships are difficult at best, but you are talking about a commitment in marriage to this man, how would you feel if he decided to date while away from you? How will you feel when he finds out about your dating while he is away? Stop and consider what you're doing first....on both accounts.
2006-11-25 19:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by shannonscreativechaos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dam girl that is crazy. I know lol I've been there. Its not funny though not at all especially when you realize how much time you wasted. How much of your life you wasted not getting what you want and deserve.
Life is short girl you better go out there and get what you deserve and want,well unless you don't think you have one life and you will have another chance at love one day after death.
Remember No one is going to give you what you want you have to get it. Don't wait for him to give it lol by the time he decides your eggs might be dried up and he'll probably have his kids overseas anyway. Honestly.
2006-11-25 19:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some upstanding girlfriends that wont encourage you to cheat, and stop focusing your attention on your lonliness. This distance is tough, but should be strengthening your relationship. Think of ways to celebrate his safe return- keep a journal -together with him, keep the lines of communication open. Marriage will be great and a lot of people dont get the opportunity so DONT BLOW IT!!!! >:-/
2006-11-25 19:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Not In Kansas? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi 2!
I am an experienced divorce attorney. I see what you don't. Why are you marrying him? That will clearly be a major mistake. You are putting your life on hold for a dream that will only disappoint you! I know this situation. I have seen it numerous times, and it always turns out the same way. It doesn't matter what he tells you. His actions are clear, and he is "playing" with you. You are not even in love with him. You are in love with an image that you have created that you attach to him.
I hope that you will e-mail me and we can review all aspects of this situation. I wish to spare you from even more unpleasant disappointment.
2006-11-25 19:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by sochiswim 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're thinking of going out with other guys then you do NOT love your fiance. If you TRULY loved him the thought of dating someone else would not cross your mind. I suggest you break off with him and let him find a girl who would be willing to wait without whining about it and who would be true to him since you obviously can't.
2006-11-25 22:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do not feel comfortable marrying this guy, then i think you shld tell him before the marriage or it wld ruin both of your lives. as for the cyber bf, i suggest that you think twice of it because, are you sure that he is really who he seems to be? be careful abt cyber ppl becos u wld neva know wad kinda ppl they really are. good luck!
2006-11-25 19:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by mapgal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
End the engagement and find someone in your area. Two years of this is ridiculous. You need a real life with a real man who can see you, talk to you and hold your hand.
2006-11-25 19:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes if you don't call off the relationship first. And it sounds like he is enjoying his life without you. I would just call it off!
2006-11-25 19:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋