I'm really having a hard time right now. I'm thinking of doing very bad things to myself and I can't control the feelings. I feel so alone. Earlier this week, I told my "wife" that I wanted to leave to Colorado to be with my ex. Our marriage was falling apart anyways and we both agreed way before this that we aren't happy. I know that my ex and I still love each other and want to try it again. My wife threatens to strangle me, to take the modem to school with her, and to block her number on the phone from being able to call me. She wants me to leave and I want to leave but yet she stops me from making plans to do it because it says this hurts her so much. The cops have been called twice this week and have made her leave. Tonight, she went to her sister's house to drink and smoke weed as a minor (20 years old). She just left me and my daughter here like it was nothing. She looks at me and tells me that "you're going to leave anyways so what's the difference." Please help me.
2006-11-25 19:00:21 · 16 answers · asked by sornelas26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds out of control.
1. why did you split with the 1st Ex in the first place? (maybe you should get your life straight for you daughter before you drag some other woman into your daughters life and your own, fix whts broke first!!!!!!!!! )
2. regardless if you go back to her, doestn sound like the 2nd is an option, adn you and she both need counseling.
3. Get that child into a serious stable household setting maybe even till you can settle your decision on what you are doing.
4. What exatly do you want help with? You need to make a decision. You know you are in an abusive relationship, GET OUT! AND GET COUNSELING.
CONTACT HER PARENTS MAYBE TOO.
2006-11-25 19:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by **twin** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very difficult situation. Think about your ex. There's a reason she is your ex. You are unhappy and confused. What you need is time alone to find what makes you happy. Don't worry about your ex or your wife right now. Do worry about your daughter. How do you think all the fighting and hearing her dad is leaving is affecting her? Make a life with you and your child first, that will be more fulfilling than any relationship with a woman. Make yourself and your child happy and the rest will fall in place. Good luck you will be in my prayers
2006-11-26 03:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by summertime 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Take the opportunity while she's gone - pack your stuff - and get out. You want to leave, she apparently wants you to leave, and being in the abusive relationship (threatening to strangle you) isn't doing your daughter any good - especially if she hears anything going on (no matter what her age). I don't know what "wife" means - are you married or not? Either way - it appears it's not working out - and the mental health of a child is at risk here!
2006-11-26 03:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by playing_shy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problems are everywhere dude. The thing is to recognize the problem and come up with different solutions to solve it or make it better over time.
OK so y'all have problems right?
Don't you think you and your ex will have problems too eventually !
Will you leave her too?
It could be a cycle if you allow it. Please don't I understand how you feel but like i said how many women will you go through because y'all have problems?
You have to work on the problems.....remember that vow for better or worse. Life isn't always fun. Life isn't always good. Make the best of it.
Good Luck.
2006-11-26 03:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, all I've gotta say is if you need someone to chat with, they do have help lines. I know that marriage is a commitment for life and if the two of you felt enough for each other to parent a child, the childs best interest should be in the forefront. You need to decide quickly, what is the best thing for your child! Losing either of you, will be devastating. Do nothing negative until you have saught help. Promise us this! Good luck to you!
2006-11-26 03:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can email me if you like.....Sometimes it just take taking a time out to think semi-clearly. There is an obvious breakdown of communication here. How did it begin? You both need to vow to sit and not sceam- and talk it out for 30 minutes at a time. Sign an agreement, 30 minutes no walking out screaming cursing allowed. What brought you two together? When did it fizzle? Say to her, "I started feeling this way when we....." Dont accuse, or be caustic-offensive.
I have read your other questions, you seem to have a love hate relationship, I think you both need to grow up.
2006-11-26 03:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Not In Kansas? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go....but don't go back to your ex. Flip-flopping back and forth isn't good for anyone. There's no reason why you have to be with a woman. Take some time off from relationships to get your life together, especially since you have a daughter who needs a stable family life. Get a professional family counselor for yourself as well as your daughter.
2006-11-26 03:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by SuperJulie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave your wife going back to your ex-g for good, instead of allowing someone to break your heart and to integrate yourself again. there'snothing in leaving ur wife. Anyway, you can come back to her the moment you are both ready again to accept one another.You must live by love and make the most of it while it last. Think of your daughter also.
2006-11-26 03:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by wilma m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said "She left me and my daughter like it was nothing."
Your battle is over. Get your daughter and go, work out the details later with your wife. If she still trying to party chances are your baby is better of with u any way.
And if your ex doesnt accept you with your daughter, then dont accept your ex back either.
2006-11-26 03:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sky81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very bad situation. Remove your children form this situation immediately. They have nothing to do with anything , it is not fair to them. If you really want to leave than do it regardless on what she does.
Stay in a hotel or friends but you need to leave for your children's well being as well as your own.
2006-11-26 03:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋