depressed, and lonely?

Question

for the past month or so, i've been feeling extremely depressed and lonely...i think about my future and i really see nothing. even when i have people around me, the company just isn't enough. i always find myself thinking back to a time where i was happier and comparing it to my situation now, which always makes things worse. i feel like nobody in this world loves me, or even cares.

i'm wondering if this is just a phase, or if i should seek medical help? can anyone else relate to this?

i've had periods like this before, but it's never been this bad...

Answer 1

You shouldn't be in a mood like this, because you deserve so much better. Your depression has been going on for a while and if I were you, I would talk to a doctor about it. There are different kind of medications for this. So, what are you waiting for!

Answer 2

Hi there -

This is unfortunately quite common during winter months and holidays. I definitely encourage you to find a professional to talk to because they will be able to help you sort through why you feel this way right now and steps to come out of that place.

Also, find a trusted friend to talk to inbetween sessions. Just get it out and vent sometimes. Sometimes hearing it aloud or forcing your mind to think through and unravel what's going on really does help. If some people around you are being insensitive it might just be because they don't know what to say or how to help. Which is why it helps a lot to talk with someone like a counselor, pastor, therapist, etc. who knows the quickest path based on your circumstances.

They can also help you identify what is at the root of these feelings (you mentioned sometimes it has happened before?) so you can resolve that completely.

**Important** If you try out a counselor and they don't work for you, please do try another. I am sorry to say but there are not-so-good people in every profession or it could be that your personalities don't mesh. Try again... Me and my family have been through this and had to try other counselors - please don't give up if you have a "lemon" the first try. :-)

I really hope this helps.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear that. You should seek medical help. YOu may want to consider talking to a social worker or a psychiatrist for help. They will talk to you and help you get through this depressing time. If you have insurance call them and find out who will accept your insurance. Try to get help by talking to someone. It really does help by talking to someone if you can not talk to a family member, friend, spouse or partner.

I am 21 and I am suffering from depression and loneliness. But I know what my problem is and I can not do anything right now until in about 2 years. The way I'm handling it is by talking to my friend who is a very positive attitude. I also talk to my boyfriend who helps me keep me strong and to keep my head up. Try not to be around pesimist people. Trust me they make the situation worse. I cry almost every day b/c of my problem I am facing and I can't go to my family b/c they are the main problem I am facing right now.

If you have any questions you are more than welcome to email me.

Answer 4

That sounds like how I was feeling a while ago.
The best thing to do is try to be a little more optimistic and always remember that you're not alone in the situation. 1 out of , i'd say every 10 people struggle with the same feelings.
I'm not completely over it yet, but i'm working towards that. It'll be better for you if you had someone to talk to. Keeping all of those feelings bottled up inside can be really bad for you.

Answer 5

yes ive had that. most of my life. i just tried to hang on for years. i did zoloft for a while; they thought it was depression... and other meds. it didn't really change anything. i just felt drugged. i stayed indoors a lot and hid in the winter. when i was in seattle it was a good excuse...it was always raining. but in hawaii, it's a dumb idea. i've heard that if you get more sun, you feel better. it's true. i don't get seasonal affective dissorder any more. but i feel a little agoraphobic and depressed just the same. i dread ever having to leave here. the only things that have made any real difference have been to go to church and make friends to hang out with. they seem to understand the best. also i go to the beach. and i play video games but that just makes me feel better it doesn't really help in the long run. i love to read but sometimes i forget. shopping is a great way to get out and to eat out helps a lot.

to tell you the truth, the only thing that has really helped has been prayer. prayer with other people about other people. i'm better off thinking about others and praying for them so i don't dwell on my problems. they will be there tomorrow anyway.

Answer 6

Having been treated for clinical depression for about 25 years I can really empatize with what you're going through.

There's a lot more to depression than just feeling "down." Google the phrase "depression inventory." This should bring you to several questionaires that you can take on your own that will help you determine if you're actually ill, or just having a rough spell.

If the test shows you are, in fact, depressed get thee to an MD pronto. The meds work, but it may take a bit of expermenting to find the right drug for you.

Best of luck.

Answer 7

I had the same problem in high school. If you can’t make your self snap out of it you should seriously consider at least talking to a doctor, depression is never any fun and even though the idea of being on meds isn't much better it's worth it to experience life without a weight of unnecessary bad things on your shoulders.

Answer 8

I've had friends that definitley relate to this. Maybe you should seek medical help. That's the only thing I can think of. You should just try your best to not think of it. And wait till time passes first to see if you got any better, if not, see a shrink

Answer 9

If you have had depression before then it is NOT a passing thing that will just go away if you make yourself think of happy things.

I have Bipolar II and I have a lot of problems with depression. With help you can feel so much better. Please don't try to fix it on your own.. You can't because it is a chemical imbalance in your brain..

See a psychiatrist as soon as possible. Depression will continue to worsen if it is left untreated..

Answer 10

I understand you totally,I've been there.Trust me,it gets better try doing new things something you would never think of doing.LIVE, take chances,and if you have to talk to a counseler,I did,it helps but know this YOU ARE NOT ALONE things will get better life is so beautiful despite all its ugliness you just have to look for it.Smile when you can't,laugh when you dont want to and soon things will change.If they dont then come find me and kick me in the *%$@#!!!!youll be O.K.!!promise!!!people do love you ,I DO!!and I care ,even though I dont know you, I do!!