Mature answers only please- Trying to conceive, almost lost hope!?

Question

My husband and I are ready for a baby. We are very excited with the thought of starting our family. We both want a full house, and want to get started...now... ;0)

I have been off birth control for a year now. My genoygolisigst is a long time family friend from church and he keeps telling me to wait for God. When I am suppose to be pregnate, God will make it happen...

I was wondering if there are any "natural" was to become more fertail. With out fertility drugs... ya know...

I have heard things like only have sex every other day. Put your legs up after sex so the seman have a easier time finding eggs. Buy a cycle fertility chart thing from the local drug store... I have tried all of these things... but nothing...

I am only 23, but I am feeling my internal clock ticking...

Answer 1

My wife and i had a similar problem!
we had been married for 2 years and never used any child proofing (contraceptives) at all! And my wife thought it funny she never had been pregnant in all that time!
like you , we wondered also and started the same ritual you have tried and still nothing!
then like you , we were told some secrets like the heat for you hubby may be giving you problems (boxers) , i went farther with it and went commando! still nothing!
So i went to the best place on earth to ask the same question you have asked! My mother!
her answer was close to the one you have received from your minister..but with out the church reference......"RELAX" when its time you will have one! After some fast checking , it seems she was right! in more than one way!
nervousness can cause many problems that the doctors wont find...
it can cause the cervix to temporarily seal so the sperm can not enter the uterus. (note here..this seems to have been the cause of us not having children for the 2 years ....my wife was frightened) (also note we dated for 2 years prior to marriage)
it can close the fallopian tubes so the sperm can not reach the egg!
create an "acid like" chamber where the egg can not survive.
cause a situation where an egg is not developed at all.
create a very low to non existent sperm count.(this is also caused from extreme heat )
these are just a few of the reasons i was given...wives tales? i don't think so , we have had 2 , one of each (boy/girl) over the last 31 years.
As for your clock ticking ......RELAX you have PLENTY OF TIME!!!!!

Answer 2

A year off birth control and not getting pregnant isn't a panic situation however it is a red flag that something could be wrong.
If you're concerned and feel that your gyno may not be giving you the answers that you feel are appropriate, get a second opinion. That doesn't mean going to a fertility clinic and taking drugs, I just mean another gyno.
You're 23..... if there's a problem, at least you have plenty of time to work with. But, chances are you're putting way too much stress on yourself and that will not help you concieve.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Princess, the first thing you must do is, don't stress yourself or your husband. Have both you gone to see a specialist to find out whether there is any problem? Find out early, so both of you can at least know what you're dealing with.

Does your husband drink? If he drinks, tell him to "fast" at least a week before your anticipated fertile period. My wife and I had problems conceiving also. Then we followed the Natural Family Planning which is a programme sanctioned by the catholice church. I'm not trying to sell you the catholic faith by the way but it worked for us and we're not practising catholics. Do your research. There's a link here to WIkipedia on the subject. You decide:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natural_family_planning

Additionally, I stopped drinking for 2 weeks before that "date"(as dictated by the Natural Family Planning routine) because I read somewhere that alchohol actually reduces the sperm count. I can say personally for me that it worked. We have a beautiful 2.5 years old boy now. Would plan for more if not for the fact that my wife is 35 years old now.

So I'd say good luck to you and go go go :)

Answer 4

I have heard great success stories with pre-seed... It's completely natural and works as your Cervical Mucus... It's a lubrication...Completely sperm friendly... But it helps a the sperm have a smooth trip to the egg... Don't use Saliva as a lube because it can kill sperm... or anything else for that matter... Umm... I have also heard to put your legs up after sex for a while... Or even just lay in bed for a while... Use ovulation tests to pin point your ovualtion day so you can have sex and be ready... They say its best to have the sperm waiting for the egg to be released... The Ovulation test will tell you 12-24 hours before... so you have to time to "prepare" yourself... Umm... I have heard some types of tea making you more fertile but I'm not sure about that... I hope somewhere in all this I helped... Good Luck TTC... I am also and know how difficult it can be... Your in my prayers...

Answer 5

Waiting on God's timing is actually the only "natural" way. From experience, I can tell you that all that other stuff is nonsense. I was off the pill for 4 years before I conceived. I was told that I would not be able to conceive because of other complications...I decided to allow God to do it in his time. My husband and I are now the proud parents of baby Samuel (8 mths).

Your creator knows what best for you (you can only hope to have a faint idea). By all accounts, you don't seem to have my complications...Listen to your Gynae!

By the way, I'm 33.

Answer 6

If you can put the problem aside temporarily, and just concentrate on enjoying the sex, that can actually improve your chances of getting pregnant. You will tend to become aroused most easily, when you are most fertile. That is nature's way. You may actually be sabotaging the process, by trying to substitute your calculations for what nature is trying to do already.

Answer 7

I have heard that the uterus responds to multiple types of sperm. So if you slept with 3 or 4 different men on the same day, odds are you would get pregnant (if it were the right time in your cycle).

I have heard that some sperm banks are inseminating women with a few different men's sperm at the same time to increase chances of pregnancy

Answer 8

it particularly is amazingly solid that u have lost that wait so far. Congrats on that. the reason u can no longer get pregnant is bc u weigh somewhat extra effective than regular. Being obese would reason u too stop ovulating and it could reason iregular sessions or maybe stop all of them jointly. yet another clarification why your healthcare expert instructed u that u could lose extra weight is because of the fact obese women human beings have a extra physically powerful hazard of haveing preclampsia, unsure a thank you to spell that even though it particularly is extreme blood presure and if u get that it could kill u and the baby. additionally if extreme blood rigidity occurs and u r no longer finished term or maybe close to to being finished term they could take the baby out to diminish your blood rigidity. i'd do what your healthcare expert suggested. i'm going to no longer would take the beginning administration yet i does no longer actively try for somewhat one untill I lost extra weight. I desire u luck hun

Answer 9

I think you should calm down and forget about getting pregnant at the moment. I want you to please concentrate on something different for now and continue to wait for God's time. Also if you have it at the back of your mind that am doing this to get pregnant forget it it's not gonna work. Do something different don't think too much about getting pregnant, and you will see what God will do for you. Don't forget he is a surprising God.

Answer 10

sweety you are only 23 and if all is right and every thing is in account (if he works right and if you work right) then sex is the only natural way to do the job..
here is an idea go and get tested OK your gyn says what so he knows that you work right but what is with your hubby, (is he shutting blanks or is every thing hot to trot....)

sorry for my graphics but the answer is in there some where...
Good luck and happy baby (s)...