There is this girl I love. It started out as a friendship when I was 16 I am now 24 and over this time I grew to love her. I have allowed her to break my heart in the past. She recently came back in contact with me and was talking about how lonely she was. When I brought up the time that I confessed my feelings for her she seemed to be excited that i still felt the same way. We kissed that night for the first time and she invited me to come stay with her(she lives in another town). When I went to see her we hung out and then she wanted me to sleep in her bed with her. I was making moves but she didnt responed in bed(I stayed two nights both nights I tried) the last day she seemed to retract from my kisses. I asked her if she wanted to start a relationship and she said it wouldnt work because we live in two diffrent towns. I am hurt again and dont know what to do. I think she likes to make me suffer am I wrong?
2006-11-25 18:32:25 · 13 answers · asked by kindaworried 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it may be that she is (or was) lonely and her actions were due to that fact. She may have realised she needed attention, moreso than wanting you and was afraid or embarassed to admit that to you and so simply rebuffed your "moves" later. I think she cares about your feelings & enjoys your company but did not want to hurt you because she realises she doesnt beleive a relationship cld work between the 2 of you.
I doubt she likes to make you suffer, though it may seem that way, shes just trying to spare your feelings and does not, most likely realise that she is hurting you in another way all the same.
2006-11-25 18:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by kinduvabrat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that she really likes you but she is afraid to start a relationship with you because she thinks of those days and nights that she would want to see you and can't cause you live how many miles away from her? She is thinking about how she won't be able to see you when she feels like it.
If you come up with say a plan for it to work i think she will consider having a romantic relationship with you.
Like you could see each other on weekends or certain days. She could spend a night at your house like 2x a month or vice verse. i hope i gave you some ideas if you need more let me know. Good Luck
2006-11-25 18:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can convince her to give the long distance relationship a try. You're grown adults with an income. I know you guys can afford to visit each other often. When my husband and I were dating I was 22 yrs old and lived in L.A. and he lived in Las Vegas. We lived in different states and we were able to see each other often. 10 months later, I moved to Las Vegas and shortly after got engaged and we've been married for 3 years now. Give it a shot before you call it quits. Hey, just tell her what I told my husband, "Let's give it a try, if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out." Good luck!
2006-11-25 18:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you can see and even though you love her , this girl is not for you. She was probably desperate and knew she could come to you any time she felt like it, and the reason why she didn't react in bed was probably because she didn't want to lead you on or anything like that ,but all I'm telling you to do is to not give up your perfect match is out there some where waiting to meet you!
2006-11-25 18:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by takira h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine she likes you plenty yet not a similar way you want her. there is of route no 'magic', no electrical energy that a lady ought to get from someone she's rather interested in. perhaps this is because you've been acquaintances for a lengthy time period that one way or the different, it isn't difficulty-free for her to take your relationship to a distinct element. in case you rather love her and characteristic the staying power to look ahead to her to experience a similar way as you do, it really is your decision. in spite of the indisputable fact that, i advise you try to move out with different women people for a at the same time as. you comprehend in certain situations, after we finally get what we've waited to lengthy to have, it nonetheless feels empty. perhaps you've psyched your self too a lot that that's her that you adore that you're overlooking 'the only' rather meant for you.
2016-11-26 22:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't like long distance relationship coz i want my bf to be at least near me, to soothen me when I'm down.
That might be the reason she's running away from you.
The other thing is .... if a woman likes a guy, it happens right away. You don't need to wait that many years...
She might not have a real interest in you after all.
2006-11-25 18:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by cally cally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off.
Minimize contact.
If something is meant to me and she wants to then she will take action and communicate with you.
Pour into someone as much as they pour into you. If you are chasing her and she is running the other way, then there is a problem.
Do not get physical with someone unless you know what their intentions and feelings are.
Concentrate on moving on and enjoying your life with the friends and family that will always be loyal to you.
2006-11-25 20:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by purpleklipse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are different from men. she may not have responded because her instincts probably made her feel that it wasn't the right man. in order to feel less hurt. you shld stick to the friendship thing. i know it hurts but you have to put a boundary to your feelings or you wld feel even more hurt. and you shld probably move on. good luck!
2006-11-25 18:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by mapgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be scared to commit to a relationship. I think she definitely likes you but is being cautious. Goodluck!
2006-11-25 18:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by charmed one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like shes interested at all ... maybe she just got out of a relationship and is using you as a rebound but you never know it might just be that she is scared of her feelings for you ...
2006-11-25 18:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by love_ridden_85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋