I like this guy and i think he likes me too, or did but ..?
heres what happened:
this guy at this job i started at ,makes me buss his table competely , i am suppose to be a hotsess and he is a server and the only time iam supposed buss a table if we are busy and we were busy so i was bussing his table but then we were dead and he wanted me to clean his table while he was sitting on his *** talking to other co- workers-i confronted him about this along with another co-worker- he is a nice guy but i felt along with the other co worker that he was taking advantage of us ,so i confronted him, i told him i dont mine doing my job as long as i am doing only what i am suppose to do
would this decrease the chances of him liking me or GUYS WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF THE GIRL YOU LIKED PUT YOU IN THIS SITUATION?
2006-11-25 17:22:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I reckon you should date him... from the information so far we can see that he wants you to run around and do stuff for him... if thats what you aspire to in a relationship go ahead.... i reckon it might be better if you forget about him and go out with someone else though, he sounds like a douche... you don't make a girl work for you if you like her, you buy her roses and take her out...
2006-11-25 17:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'd be a bit pissed just because you called him on it. Even though it sounds like your in the right here.
Remember, your not the boss of the place just an employee. Some people get quite offended when other employees point out their wrong-doings. While others will realize their wrong doings and change their ways. Even if it's for just a short time before they might relapse back into bad habits.
The better way to approach it would have been to talk to a supervisor in private about what happened, instead of confronting the offending server, and let him deal with the situation.
The double edged sword here though, is if he ever found out that you talked to the supervisor your situation could get much worse.. So be careful on that front and pick and choose your battles wisely. Ask yourself is it all really worth it?
Just remember, sometimes life's not fair at all.
PS One last word of advice. Never, and I repeat never, chew out another employee in front of all the other employees. That will guarantee a negative response times one hundred toward you for a long time to come. If you ever confront someone (someone sane that is), do it in private.
2006-11-25 17:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Microsoft Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry im not a guy and i know that you wanted a guys opinion/advice but, i think that u could also use a womens opinion/advice as well ..there is nothin wrong with what you did you just went up to him and stated what was on your mind and thats good i applaude you for that.. beacuse you should be doing what you are suppose to be doin and not someone elses job when they are capable of doing it themselves..you said that he wanted you to bust his table did he insist that you do it or ask you if you could do it? cuz if he asked you and u accepted then he really didnt take advantage of you cuz you could of turned him dwn unless he lead you to beleive that he wasent able to bust that table and you found him sittin on his *** talkin to his co wokers when he could of been bustin his table then in that case he was takin advantage of you..but if he insisted or made you feel that you had to bust his table when he could of done it himself then in that case also he is takin advantage of you.. i dnt know the whole situtation but, either way its good you did what you did and if he holds that against you and dislikes you beacuse of it then he is not worth it..if he really likes you then he will not hold what you did against you he would instead be very understanding and supportive...
2006-11-25 17:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you make it too obvious that you like him and he is taking advantage of your fondness because he knows you'll do anything for him. What a loser, move on from him. It starts out with him wanting you to buss his tables and then eventually you'll be doing his laundry and cooking his meals.
J
2006-11-25 17:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all you are the hostess. he's the server. you are right to ask him what is happening. the impression i got was that he's almost making fun of you. if he's talking and asking you to do it, he doesn't see you as important. but you see him as a friend. if you are a good person, and i think you are, then he doesn't deserve you if he's so blind to how sweet you are. don't play games to find anything out, don't become a conniving girl that has to trick her best friend to find out what kind of man he is. just wait. he will reveal what kind of person he is over time. what is the hurry? just wait. i believe you will see he is an idiot. he should be worried about what you think of him as well.
2006-11-25 17:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by just a carpenter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could decrease your chances but considering he's lazy and inconsiderate at work, he's probably the same way with his relationships too. But if you like him purely on a physical level , then it doesnt matter what you did. Guys are reactive to the last impression you give us. If you go up to him then tell him you were hurt by seeing him that way but you didnt mean to lash out....and that youd like to make it up to him *wink*- then you got him again.
2006-11-25 17:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a control freak. He gets off pretending he is in charge. See the manager. You do not need the mind games from this jerk.
And yes, many women do this too.
I had a coworker who was a secretary and she told everyone she was "in charge."
2006-11-25 17:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You messed up you should have teased him and told him to get to work so you can take a bread but oh well good luck in finding someone else
2006-11-25 17:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by The gr8t alien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would kinda look at a chick who did this to me as a ***** casue either shes too lazy or dosent like me but in your case. i think statistically it may have dropped your chances of him liking you by atleast 20 percent. just throwin it out there
2006-11-25 17:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by toreyjw1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋