Two weeks later after proposing she tells me the carot of the ring should have been larger and now she isn't wearing it.
2006-11-25 16:47:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her behavior is a good indication of what she really wants in life. You need to tell her that you want the marriage to be important, and not the material things. If this is how you truly feel, you need to break (or at least postpone) the engagement. Engagement (and marriage) should only be entered into if you have NO feelings of uncertainty. This is not your circumstance, so act now - before it's too late.
2006-11-25 16:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Memphis qt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I could say wrong woman. But, I don't know her to really tell. But, I would never complain to my fiance about the size of the carot. Thats pretty selfish, ungrateful and insensitive.
On the other hand, women kinda fantisize about this stuff. The dress, the wedding, the ring, etc. And, we may have a picture in our head of what our ideal ring would look like. So, she I could see where the disappointment could come from if its not exactly what she dreamed of.
I still think thats pretty wrong of her though.
2006-11-25 16:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey thats bad, i am sorry about that. Maybe you can ask her why the ring is so important to her, she should realize what you mean with it.
If she really loves you she wouldnt care about the size of the ring or diamond, its the meaning behind the ring. She shouldnt be so materialistic. When I got engaged I told my hubby he could have got a plastic ring out of a bubble gum machine and I would have worn it with pride, because its not about the ring. The ring is just to show off in front of other people. Its just a metallic thing..a symbol...but what really counts is what stands behind the ring or when you ask her to marry her....you express your love, your feelings your comittment for her and that should be more important than the size of a ring.
The ring will fade during the years, it will get scratched and will not look as beautiful as it was in the beginning but your love for her wont fade, it will grow into something beautiful and only thats what counts..and if she really loved you she would understand that.
2006-11-25 17:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by sweet28muffin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong Woman!!! She should be proud to wear your ring. I don't necessarily like my engagement ring or the band that I have. But I never stop wearing them. My husband picked out a beautiful ring he thought I would like...he tried. In my case the ring is too big and flashy for my tastes. He knew after seeing it on my hand that it wasn't quite right and said to me "this is just a starter ring and if you want a different one later, just let me know. Maybe a custom designed ring for an anniversary?" That showed me that he was in sync with me and allowed me the option to change it later if I wanted too.
It has been 6 years (I have not replaced them yet) and I only take my rings off to put on hand lotion otherwise it is on my finger 24/7.
Try talking to her about it and let her know that it hurts you that she won't wear the ring.
2006-11-25 16:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there really is such a thing as luck, good or bad. It's just easy to blame when things don't go our way or to reason with when they do. As long as you won't have a negative feeling towards the ring knowing where it's coming from, it's completely fine. Just because that marriage didn't work, it doesn't mean the ring is cursed. It's better the ring be used for what it is meant for than sitting in someone's drawer or in a pawn shop somewhere.
2016-03-29 09:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong Woman!!! I would be grateful for a ring at all! I suppose it's a good thing to see what high maintence this girl is before you walk down the isle with her...
2006-11-25 17:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe her expectation of you is too high she can't believe the outcome when you give her a diamond in a lower carat that did not surpass her standard?
are you sure you know your fiancee? it seems both of you is in doubt stage, hers for the quantity of the ring and you for the quality of your lady?
that seems wrong to begin with, its not a good sign, both of you need to talk about it before it ended with regrets or might as well , before its too late to back out...
maybe both should reconsider what is the most important in your relationship, materials or personality? it needs awareness or familiarity of each other before committing to serious business that so called marriage?
2006-11-25 16:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by salome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I got to say is the wrong woman.
2006-11-25 17:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by iceblue2011 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely wrong woman.
2006-11-25 16:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That's rude! Might be the wrong woman. I'm sorry to hear that.
2006-11-25 16:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by Daisy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋