how bad is it going to hurt my first time having sex? i guess it depends on his size but am i going to need a pain killer? am i gonna walk funny? i just need to need to know!! thank you!!
2006-11-25 16:25:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
do not do it until you are married and you wont have to stress yourself now wondering about all these questions.
2006-11-25 16:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by seapc_laos 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Waiting until you are married is unlikely. And it doesn't feel "better" if you wait until you are married. Waiting until you are married is usually what Catholic women want their daughters to do because they were pregnant when they themselves got married.
Anyway, Some women have a little pain when they first have intercourse and some don't have any pain. You should not need a pain killer at all. As for walking funny, if the person you chose for your first experience can give it to you so good that you walk funny the next day, give that man my number. LOL.
Really, it's not scary and painful when you are with a caring, loving, gentle partner. Someone who can laugh with you as you fumble thru it. Someone who is concerned with what you are getting out if it.
But 17 is pretty young. There is nothing wrong with waiting until your body is a little more developed and until you meet a guy who will go really slow with you until you feel willing and ready.
The amazing thing is that when the body and mind feel ready, it makes sex so much more wonderful.
So don't worry, it's not bad, it's not usually that great the first several times but that's just because it's a new experience that has to be learned and has to be practiced.
2006-11-26 00:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by ssssss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a trusting relationship where you feel comfortable, and if you are definitely ready for sex, then it shouldn't actually hurt very much. If your boyfriend is gentle, and the aforementioned conditions are met, you'll feel at ease, making the whole process a lot more comfortable.
My first time didn't hurt at all, but it is different for everybody. I would suggest using lubrication to cut down on the pain, and if it still hurts, take it very slowly. You can take an aspirin or some Tylenol afterwards if you feel a little discomfort. I really don't think you'll walk funny; chances are you'll be self-conscious and feel like you're walking funny, but nobody else will be able to pick up on it.
Also, try not to have very high expectations. It may be that your first time is thrilling and enjoyable, and it may be that it is awkward and you'll find yourself wondering why people enjoy sex at all. It takes a few times to be comfortable enough to truly enjoy sex.
2006-11-26 00:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about trying to keep up with the crowd. What the crowd does not "THINK" will happen to then will such as STD's and the worst thing that can happen is catching a disease that you WILL never get rid of. I wish I could have waited until I was older. One of my friends lost her virginity at 23 and i wished i would have waited. PLEASE do not be in a hurry cherish your "virgin" status and if anyone tells you otherwise they are jealous. No one will judge because you remain a virgin, they will respect you more. And to answer your questions, it may hurt and it will depend if the person knows what they are doing, NO PAIN KILLER, you won't walk funny (but you will feel funny), AND LIKE EVERYONE SAYS, WAIT TIL MARRIAGE or at least until you are old enough to assume responsibility for your actions like pregnancy or STD's.
2006-11-26 00:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Zulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anyone who can answer that for you. Everyone is different. Men do come in different sizes, but so does a woman's canal. You won't walk funny, or you would be able to spot every girl's first time wouldn't you? Some girls don't experience much pain especially if they are active in sports. Some girls have a rough time of it. There is only one way to know. I hope that if you go through with this that it is your decision to do so and not due to pressure from a boy you like. Be careful of disease and remember that with sexual activity comes great responsibility. After all, you are the one that will end up pregnant if you don't take precautions. Good luck.
2006-11-26 00:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at first it will sorta have a slight stinging sensation and will be awkward but you will soon start to enjoy and on movies when you hear those women yelling and going uhh uhh that is just the feeling of enjoyment and an orgasm coming along!it isn't the sound of them in pain!!!and on your first time you don't want to rush or go to fast because your body isn't used to so it might possibly hurt.but i think the best advice i will give to you is:don't feel so pressured into sex then it wont feel right at all and you will only be doing it for the wrong reasons.you want to be in love and at the right time you will go for it and it will be amazing!besides think about it condoms are only 75% sure to keep u safe and you never know if there are any microscopic holes....any holes in the rubber the sperm will find and wall la your pregnant!!!so just wait at least until your 23 when your out of school.
2006-11-26 01:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by cow_luver10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to need a pain killer. and no you aren't going to walk funny. It hurts a little, just make sure it is with a guy that cares about you, and tell him that you are a virgin. Hopefully he is gentle
good luck
2006-11-26 00:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till you r married. virginity can only b given once. make sure it's with someone deserving and who loves u. yes it will hurt. you'll even bleed a little bit. i don't think it will require pain killers.
2006-11-26 00:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by beccaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the person how bad it hurts. depending what you have already done as for as oral can depend on this also. but when i had sex for the first time (byt eh way i was 18, so its normal to wait). he told me it would be better if i got on top first. and i had no pain at all.
2006-11-26 00:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Eden 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to the wisdom of all these people. Don't rush it; wait until you're more mature. I never had sex with a woman until I was twelve. And even then we waited patiently until we were entirely alone.
2006-11-26 00:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different for every girl. Some of my friends said they barely felt it, but for me it was very painful. I wouldnt worry about the pain too much, instead, prepare for alot of blood (again, different for every girl). Just remember it only happens once, and you will never forget it.
2006-11-26 00:31:16 · answer #11 · answered by chanel217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋