why is it that some people get their feeling hurt really easy and some people don't ?

Answer 1

Depends on thier personality type and mental condition. I myself am hypersensive. I feel other people's emotions around me or coming at me. When I was less secure of myself I would often take what other people said to me to heart and felt like a bad person or an inadequate person. People who are more secure will often realize that words are only words and the way others react around you doesn't really affect you or mean anything about who you are as a person.

Answer 2

Thanks in large part to different experiences growing up (and possibly to some extent to biological differences as well) everyone experiences and deals with emotions differently. One of the biggest reasons that some people get their feelings hurt easily while others do not is that people think differently about the same experiences.

For instance, perhaps I give a paper I have written to a peer reader, who tells me that I need to remove a certain paragraph. If my train of thought tends to run along lines such as "that paragraph is terrible, the paper must be terrible, and I'm a terrible writer" then I'm going to get my feelings hurt. However, if I think about it like "that paragraph may not have been as good, but I can still turn this into a great paper" then I won't get my feelings hurt.

The way that we each think about the external events in our lives is thanks to a huge number of factors: how others have treated us, our history with criticism, our self-images, and many, many more.

This is actually a big reason that people everywhere are so diverse when it comes to just about every aspect of life. Society is such a complicated mess that it influences everyone differently, and we end up turning out really differently.

There is also an argument to be made for biological differences, but as a sociologist I'm biased towards thinking that everything is societal. I think that different people experience emotions differently on a very neurological level, but I can't really say much for it, not having studied it.

Answer 3

it's not really important why.Not showing your true emotions nor pretending nothing hurts you doesn't make you stronger.True strenght and true courage is being able to accept such feelings without caring what others think.Being able to cry isn't really a sign of weakness,it is being true to yourself and your body's way of venting out too much stress,That's why a lot of people just explode(kinda like that guy from Seinfeld who's been in the news these past days)

just think of the pressure STEAM builds up,sooner or later it will find a way to VENT out,otherwise it will EXPLODE!

do you actually believe just because somebody says "i don't care" or appears tough,that person isn't hurt inside?be true to yourself:criticisms,insults,hateful words may hurt,yes but foreach time you face them,it slowly builds up an emotional "shield" making you able the next time to handle a similar situation better than the last time.But everytime you ignore and pretend it doesn't affect you,the longer it will take for you to "toughen up"

Answer 4

Good question- because some people are attached to their feelings and their body and mind. We are not these bodies or minds, we are spirit soul, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul. If one thinks they are the body mind and emotions then they will be attached and react to any criticism because they Identify with that. It is a matter of consciousness. one has to raise their consciousness and understand the truth and see things as they are. This world is illusion and full of misery. One has to come out of illusion to understand the whole picture. When they see things in truth they are no longer effected by criticism and other worldly pain. For more information contact me and I will give you a web site address

Answer 5

Some people respond differently psychology views. for me I like to say,"nothing you say can ever hurt me." But some people are more sensitive that others.

Answer 6

Some people were taught
Sticks & Stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me!!

Answer 7

there is a thing called a mental block some have it and others dont ones who do not are upset really easy, others can block it out on what you say or do to them...

Answer 8

Some people just don't understand why everyone wouldn't like them. I wish I were one of them.

Answer 9

some people are more insecure & can be easily insulted while others are confident & dont really give a **** what anyone else thinks anyway-

Answer 10

Some people are tuffer than others,,life teaches you that.