I cant explain how much this person is into his job. He's in law enforcement & a lot more intailed than being a street cop. Hes federal & has actually had a bomb blow up on him ( bomb squad ) . He guards VIPS all over the world & when the phone rings he HAS to go. He really needs to be focused when working & he tells me that I very easily distract him. He has also made mention to changing to another form of LE. Do you think that he may be worried that something will happen to him & he doesnt want to leave someone behind? Maybe he's worried that I will leave him as she did 10 yrs ago? I try vey hard to reinforce the fact that I totally understand what his work means to him & Ive been here all these years- Im NOT going anywhere. But,honestly I think that he is worried about that.Not that I dont want women to answer, but I think that men can understand where he is coming from more than we can&can give me a mans insight. I appreciate everyones input.Thank You. This is a REAL struggle4me
2006-11-25 16:16:01 · 7 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Easily distracted by you.I think the man is trying to tell you that you are always on his mind/in his heart.He is in love with you.He goes on assignment his heart/mind are not in it .Because all he is thinking about is you,In his line of work that could cost him his life or the lives of others.He wants to change LE because he wants to be able to devote his time as well as his heart to you. I think he is testing the water ,feeling you out for your thoughts,feelings for him.I think he wants you to reinforce>What he means to you?
2006-11-25 18:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's common procedure for people (not just men) in law enforcement to be told they'll be "distracted" by love interests, esp. in high-danger jobs. If you really love him and you're young...then wait. Also, you're dealing with a previous love who left him? Big, bad medicine! He may not be over her.
Unless your "biological clock" is hammering away (as in, you're in your late 30's!), and/or you want to get on w/your life, with or without him...I'd put the whole "I love you" thing on hold, for both your sakes.
Tell him later, when he's out of danger and see what happens.
Personally, I wouldn't want to get involved w/someone who could die any time. But then again...I DID, in a way...so nobody can tell you what to do.
If he hesitates, take that as a cue to wait some more, unless you don't WANT to!
2006-11-26 00:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by SieglindeDieNibelunge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a mans perspective(and as a child coming from a family who's Dad was a work-a-holic), if his job is more important(which he claims you very easily distract him), you need to find a family man(if you want a successful long-term relationship).
Nothing, and I do mean NOTHING is as important as it seems except FAMILY...
It's one thing to understand where someone is coming from, but to sacrifice yourself for a "job" would be foolish at best.
2006-11-26 00:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just continue to love and support him, and give him time, he is still wounded from his past and has never really dealt with it, it can take a day or ten years or never! it all depends on the person dealing with their inner struggles 1st.
2006-11-26 00:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ... wait 4 him 2 say first
2006-11-26 00:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep enforcing the amount of love you have for him in everyway. it really is the little things that count.
2006-11-26 00:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by ptk381 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. Wait for him to tell you 1st.
2006-11-26 00:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋