As I have many lovers in which I was able to enjoy the company of, one of these amazing women... has become PREGNANT. I know for certain that I use protection and this has never failed me, not once! She is terribly depressed, and I am not certain on what to do. If the child is not mine, I'm not certain that it is. I always use protection, I have never went a time without it. I am not one to abandon any woman, they're just too wonderful, precious and delicate and need protection, especially during such times of pregnancy. Is there anything anyone can tell me to help me with this sticky situation that I currently find myself with?
2006-11-25 15:37:18 · 15 answers · asked by Liam Stone. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have a friend who got pregnant on the pill with her husband using a condom...TWICE...so just because you use protection religiously doesn't mean you can't get someone pregnant. Maybe instead of having "many lovers that you enjoy the company of" you should be a man and commit yourself to just one. Any idea how many diseases you can catch from being this way??Condoms don't protect you completely from those either. I hope you'll learn something from this and stop now before it's too late. As for the baby, if she doesn't want it, convince her to give it up for adoption so it can have a chance with parents who will love it instead of with people who were selfishly having casual sex and not caring about the consequences.
2006-11-25 15:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by rdnck_grl_ms_007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No protection is 100% effective against pregnancy. Take care of her throughout this and get a paternity test when the baby comes. Then support it. Maybe your feelings will grow for each other over this time - you said she is amazing.
2006-11-25 15:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, 'protection' is never 100% guaranteed. The only way to be 100% sure you won't get someone pregnant is to NOT have sex. Secondly - you play, you pay. If you don't know if the child is yours, get a paternity test to find out for sure. If it IS yours, be a man and take on the responsibility for it. If it's not yours, you may want to reconsider your 'many lovers' because eventually, one or more of them WILL get pregnant.
2006-11-25 15:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you always use protection, then you need to sit down and have a serious talk with this woman and ask her specifically if she has recently slept with anyone else. It may be hard for her to admit the truth, but tell her that your going to do a paternity test as soon as the baby is born. Maybe telling her that will force her to tell you that she has had relations with someone else.
Otherwise, you can choose to accept responsiblity and deal with it. If you feel you want the paternity test afterwards, you can always do it, but it is going to be very hard to learn that precious baby isn't yours if you get yourself attached to it.
Wish I could be more help, but it's really a personal issue and you need to use your best judgement.
2006-11-25 15:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by oxosasoxo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if she is pregnant just comfort her and tell her it'll be alright..then when the baby is born get a DNA test done in the hospital...ask how much it costs first there are cheaper places nowadays to have it done
http://www.dnatestingcentre.com/
and I hope you know...since you have all these willing woman condoms provide considerably less protection against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) than they do against pregnancy.
That's because a girl can get pregnant only at ovulation time (that's two to three days each month) but STDs can pass from partner to partner at any time of the month.
STDs are frequently passed through "skin to skin" contact even when condoms are used. This can happen because the bacterial or viral germs that cause many serious STDs (such as human papillomavirus, chlamydia, herpes, and syphilis) do not infect just one place on your body. They may infect anywhere in the male or female genital areas.
So, even if the virus or bacteria isn't passed through tears or holes in the condom itself, you can still get diseases because condoms don't cover or protect all areas of the genital region. That means condoms don't prevent many of the STD infections that take place during sexual contact.
STDs are very tiny organisms, minuscule in size compared to sperm. These super-small viruses can get through a hole in a condom much more easily than sperm can. For example, HIV (the AIDS-causing virus) is so small that two million of the disease-causing agents could crowd on the period at the end of a sentence.
In 1993 the University of Texas analyzed the results of 11 different studies that had tracked the effectiveness of condoms to prevent transmission of the AIDS virus. The average condom failure rate in the 11 studies for preventing transmission of the AIDS virus was 31%.
One reason condoms fail in preventing the transfer of AIDS is that latex condoms have tiny intrinsic holes called "voids." Sperm is larger than the holes, but the AIDS virus is 50 times smaller than these tiny holes which makes it easy for the virus to pass through [Source: Dr. C. M. Roland, editor of Rubber Chemistry and Technology]. To give you an idea of how easy it would be for the virus to pass through these holes, just imagine a ping pong ball going through a basketball hoop.
GOOD LUCK...... :o)
2006-11-25 16:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by geekieintx 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a paternity test. Protection is not 100% reliable, so the potential is always there that it could happen. Only a test would rule you out.
2006-11-25 15:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by bigej65 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a paternity test done, and then see what the girl has to say for herself, as for her other "lovers." Also, stand by her decision to either carry or abort. Support her as a friend, and who knows? You might just fall in love, despite your fear of fatherhood...
2006-11-25 15:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Roosterkroozer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well condoms are not 100 percent effective. maybe ask her if she has had anyother partners and be there for her. Dont stress over it. If she is depressed then help her through this. How old are you guys? If you are over 18 then dont worry because everything will be okay.
2006-11-25 15:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by psyko 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a test done to know for sure. It can be done at 4 months.
2006-11-25 16:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by mybabyslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you take her to the doc wait for an answer then if she is as soon as possible get bolld test done . if it is you guess your off the market
2006-11-25 15:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by k dog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋