Well, she used to be my friend. But then slowly after awhile she just changed. I know she has a bunch of weird issues with anxiety and a bunch of other problems between her parents. But at the begining of the year we got along great. I just dont know what happend! She is very rude and obnoxious now. Not to mention extremly moody! I thought the best idea would be to just ignore her until she gets her act togther but thats pretty much a hard thing to do because i see her at school every day! And we both are on the same colorguard team. We always have to be partners when we practice spinning flags and stuff so the ignoring her part doesnt work. Not to mention when i am ignoring her everyone on the colorguard team thinks I am the mean one! When really just dont want to talk to her because i cant stand her insults and im scared she will randomly say another one to me! What sould I do till she gets nicer?
2006-11-25 15:27:03 · 11 answers · asked by Krissa D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She doesnt seem to notice that I have feelings too! She never listens to me. All this drama is just so annoying!
2006-11-25 15:36:38 · update #1
...Im in middle school. Sad all this had to happen so early.
2006-11-25 15:41:17 · update #2
Bring her aside..and ask her what the deal is...
2006-11-25 15:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have anxiety disorder myself and I want you to know its hard as hell living with it. Chances are she never meant to hurt you and maybe she didnt even know she did. It may be a side effect of her medications. You should talk to her in a nice way and let her know how you feel. Give her a chance if she really has anxiety she probably cant help how she is acting. She most likely needs all the friends she can get right now.
2006-11-25 23:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg, i'm going through something SO similar. I'm in my senior year of high school, and I'm not on speaking terms w/ two of my former best friends. it sucks b/c i really didn't want to spend my last year in high school w/ them like this. they have changed so much, and make of fun of me and do so many immature things that make me cry all the time. But the best thing to do is get over it. There's nothing you can do. If you've tried talking to her, and she didn't listen then know that her friendship isn't worth fighting for. I had to give up trying to reconciliate w/ my two ex-bffs. it hurts a lot, but life goes on. and here's another thing: if it looks like she has moved on, don't be the girl to linger in the past. why should you care if she doesn't?
2006-11-25 23:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just going through a rough patch and could really use your help. I personally would just ignore her rude comments, not her. It's no reason to lose a friend and have your whole team upset with you. The comments will probably stop after awhile.
2006-11-25 23:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by depplover8990 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well anxiety is no reason to be insulting your friends. anxiety just puts you in panic mode. anyways you need to ask her why she's acting like this. say "we're really good friends but all the sudden you start insulting me & i don't know why. i want us to stay friends cuz we have so much fun together & that's why i wanna work this out." hopefully she will take it as you just wanting to save your friendship. i'm only 11 & i may not know much..but i do know that friendships are a really important thing becuz you're at the age group where you get friends & keep them forever.
2006-11-25 23:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a heart to heart talk with her. Ask her straight out what her problem is and tell her how you feel about those insults. Ask her if there is anything in her life that is making her feel/act that way. If that doesn't work, move on with your life without her. You don't need all that negativity. If she keeps on... then you might have to just drop kick the bitc*
2006-11-25 23:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by farharringsingslia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to develop a working relationship. Be cordial and that's that. Don't just ignore her, kill her with kindness. But, she's not your friend. I know we all go through rough patches in life, but that's no excuse. Don't worry about offending her and don't take everything personally.
2006-11-25 23:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lori H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your friend are victims of he said/she said high school. The best thing you can do is ask your friend directly "what is bothering her" She may or may not answer you. If she does, then listen to her and have a mature conversation with her.
2006-11-25 23:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by goobersandpopcorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is she is hurting inside and afraid of letting others know that the problems between her parents are getting to her... i know hugging a porcupine is painful... but usually it is the porcupines that need it the most.
And most people can't handle the pain that goes with reaching out to those who need it but don't really realize they want it.
2006-11-25 23:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Wolf_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could always ignore her for alittle till she gets better or talk to her about it
2006-11-25 23:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by emily b 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋