Have you or a friend gone through a teen pregnancy?

Question

I am doing a questionire on how teen girls deal with being pregnant ( financially, emotionally, socially, ect). How did you or your friend deal with the pregnancy (abortion, adoption, or keep it)? How did your decison effect you months or years later ( finacially, emotionally, socially, ect)? What advise would you give a pregnant teenage girl?

Answer 1

Both of my cousins did. One was 14 when she got pregnant, she turned 15 before the baby was born. She ended up quiting school. Her and the father are still together but they're not married and they're fourth child is on the way. She's 20 now. Finacially they just get by with a lot of help from the gov't. She cried a lot when she was pregnant, but she wanted the baby so bad she meant to get pregnant you see. She cried because her dad yelled at her. Socially well there's not much of a social life after that ya know. But she doesn't regret her children and they're the cutest sweetest kids you could ever talk to. Her sister was the first out of the two to get pregnant she was 17 at the time. She ended up getting her GED and eventually went to community college. She got married at like 21 to a real loser, who was not the baby's father and had another child with him. Socially she was still active. Of course the emotional part was very rough. And Finacially they still struggle but that is because her lazy husband won't keep a job for very long.

Answer 2

I got pregnant at 17 with a guy i had been dating for only a shirt two months. We both were incredibly excited. I came from a VERY large middle upper class family, and he come from a poor upbringing. We both still lived at home, and had little end jobs. We moved into an apartment, he started a well paying job, and i stayed at home with our daughter... a year later we got married. two years later, we bought a house, and then a year after that we had our son. He become very successful at his career, and we are very well financially off. I am a stay at home mother , and im 22. He is 25. I love my life, and couldnt have been any luckier. Its scarey being pregnant so young, i really had no idea our life would turn out as well as it did. But i know for most teen moms they arnt thatlucky. I guess i would just tell them that this sounds shallow but, money truly does make the world go round. and get educated so you have a good job, and do anything to achieve a good career so you can be financially happy, and then everything else will fall into place, ♥

Answer 3

I went through a teen pregnancy at the age of 15. When I found out I was pregnant, I cried for hours, but after a while, I realized that I cant cry 4-ever so I stopped....It didn't hurt me or my family finacially, b/c they have money...Socially I lost basically all of my friends, but sum still talk to me and come around...I dealt with the pregnancy by keeping her...It didnt effect me finacially, but emotionally i cried when she was born b/c i thought it was kool how a human being can live in another human being for 9 months...And socially my family still helped and helps with her today,so its not really hard for us, and my friends barely come around, but they talk every now and then...

The advice that I would give a teenage pregnant girl would be think b4 you bring a baby into this world, and make sure your ready financially, emotionally, and socially...Make sure your gonna be able to afford this child and be able to give it the best life possible...! It's hard being a mother at a young age, b/c you have to balance school, a job, and your baby all at the same time, and its not easy...! Make sure you stay in school...Dont let anyone make choices for u, make them yourself...and I would wish them and their family the best of luck with everything...!

I'm now 17 and my daughter is a year old, and i'm glad that i made the decision to keep her, b/c since shes been here shes taught me alot of things...She taught me to appreciate life and everything to it...She makes me happy all the time, she makes me laugh constantly...I just love her with all of my heart and I wouldnt change or trade her for anything in this world..! Her daddy is also still in her life, so that makes things easier also..He's been there since day 1..I got lucky, b/c most guys run as soon as they find out....He stayed like a real man should...

Answer 4

A good friend of mine got pregnant in 11th grade, but didn't tell anyone. She "claims" that she got her period the whole time, and that she had no idea she was even pregnant. She hid it with baggy clothes and didn't even tell her mother. Then one day she was at home and started having pains. She told her mother she thought she was having a miscarriage, so her mom took her to the hospital. To her parents (and EVERYONE else's amazement), she gave birth to a little boy. I can't believe she did this...she lied the whole time, never telling anyone, even her best of friends and family.
Now, she's screwed her family's life up. They raise the kid all week while she goes to college 2 hours away; she pays for nothing and does nothing for him hardly. She just likes to walk around saying "Ohhh here's my son Ty" all the time. She's an idiot for what she did, regardless of how good of friends we may have been. She's no mother, and I wish she'd told people and given the kid up for adoption. I still wonder what she was thinking; like did she really think it would just go away?

So my advice to a pregnant teen, is to grow up and do right by your child. If you don't feel you can support a child (and I don't just mean financially, I mean emotional, etc. too), then give it up for adoption. There are a lot of great couples out there who really want a baby but can't have one. If a pregnant teen decides to keep the baby, just do right by them....don't hide it, tell your parents, and do everything you can to make sure that child gets everything it needs. Work hard; if you at least make an effort, people will support you, regardless of how disappointed they may be in you when they first find out. I just think that no child asks to be born, and if a teenager chooses to have sex, they better choose to do right by their child in one way or another. It's not so much "teen mothers" that people judge as much as "bad mothers".

Answer 5

A bit fixated on this subject aren't we?

Both I and a friend have experience it. Financially? Both of our families have helped us out the whole way through. Emotionally? That right there's the toughest part. How did my friend deal with it? Her boyfriend. How did I deal with it? My fiancee. Easy.

Socially? I got pregnant after I was out of high school, so I didn't have to worry about the social stuff so much. My friend got a bad rep quite quickly though. Let's just say that she was popular and after getting pregnant, she wasn't anymore.

Advice? Stay strong. Keep it. Don't ever let yourself get caught up in the emotions of, "I'm such a screw up." Or "This was the wrong decision." Keep strong.

Answer 6

I got pregnant when i was 15 years old it was hard having to deal with people at school.I decided to keep my child and i am so happy i did he is the best thing that has ever happened to me.It is by far the hardest thing that i have ever had to do. I was very lucky to have a man that stayed by me , we are now married.Financially it has been hard but we got through it were doing great now . When you become a teen mom you learn to grow up fast nothing is about you anymore its all about what you can do for your children . My advice that i would give to pregnant teen mothers out there is that being a mother is very rewarding but its not for everyone i think that being a parent is the most difficult job out there. There are some really trying times so please think long and hard about keeping your child or giving them up to adoption because there are so many people out there that can not have children that can give your child a wonderful life.

Answer 7

yes i have.
i have a beautiful daughter who is now 7. I had no help fom family and ened up working 2 full time jobs while still trying to get my high school diploma which i suceeded at. I joined the army shortly after graduation and i havent really had no problems since then. some teens grow up and other do not. some have people who do it all for them and some are left in the dark every teen pregnancey is diffrent and it affects the teen diffrently. but looknig back on my life now i would have waited or tried to anyway.

Answer 8

ok i got pregnat at 13 and turned 14 like a week later im still with the daddy and we plan on getting married after i turn 18 i had support from both of our familywe didnt really have much money but we got by as we could im still in school and my baby saved my life i was doing bad i skipped school and ect. but once i found out i was prego i stopped he saved my life

Answer 9

Well i got pregnant when i just turned 16 i think its proably one of the most hardest things to do in life...I had been with this guy for 5 years haha which seems like a long time then...i thought he was going to be the guy i was going to marry.....yeah i was big time WRONG! he was okay about it at first and then when he went home to think about it he was like how do i know if its mine...its a black baby its my freinds baby its my cuzins baby...it was completely horrible..he even went as far as to tell guys at my school if theyd punch me in the tummy he'd give them a 100 bucks....i had to have a teacher or a principal with me at all times to all my classes or the bathroom....after i had my daughter with no one there....i sat up at the hospital for 4 days and balled my eyes out. I had no idea what to do with ababy i didnt know how to change her clothe her burp her feed her ......but it was like after the first month of it i got the swing of it.....and you just forget who you were before ...and as the years go by it doesnt ever really seem like you were that person. I had a really bad breakdown after i had her...and was on depression pills for a few months..because i felt like my whole world was being yanked out right beneath me...i had my daughter on a thursday and my old freinds called me on a friday night wanting to know if i had had a babysitter to go party...i couldnt even walk let alone go party...after they figured out i wasnt going to get to go out and party anymore all of them pretty much deserted me...everyone i went to school with all the girls i had hung out with....i havent talked to anyone since...none....ive made freinds iwth other girls who are parents but its not the same......i got a crappy fast food job and luckly met my husband and we've been doing pretty great since....my advise proably would be wait til your done growing up...make sure you dont have anything else left you wanna do such as staying up late and going to parties because once you have a baby...there your whole entire life.....

Answer 10

properly a large variety of girls human beings in my family individuals have had babie particularly early on so I even have been experiencing it for the reason that i exchange into approximately 3 years old whilst my 18 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old brother have been given a fifteen 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old pregnant and then my 15 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old sister have been given pregnant. Then whilst i exchange into 9 my different sister have been given pregnant at 15. i think of it particularly is tough and that if a teenager comes to a decision to have intercourse they could understand the concequences that comprise it and take duty for their movements. i exchange into disillusioned whilst my one sister have been given pregnant because of the fact she and that i've got been close and she or he have been given pregnant and moved out yet i exchange into excited approximately yet another neice or nephew. 3 of my neices have had infants of their youngsters and that i exchange into supportive of them because of the fact being judgmental and unsupportive merely stresses the mum out and impacts the baby, i certainly see no clarification for that. I found out that some youngsters are solid dad and mom merely as some adults are sucky ones.