All of the girl friends that I ever had always stab me in the back. I treat them like a good friend should and never stab them in the back, but they stab me. They take advantage of my trust and my loyalty. I"m sick of it and I don't know how to make a real friend that won't do that to me. The only friends I have that aren't horrible to me are guys. Help me.
2006-11-25 15:23:50 · 14 answers · asked by toxic_raptor8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
These people are not your friends at all. Best friends are always there for you vice versa, they listen to your problems and try to help you. Why dont you just have boys as friends for now- not all girls will stab you in the back.
2006-11-26 06:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Little Minx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey i am with you all the way on your question I mean most of my friends are guys!! For me I just was being nice to the girls that were the most popular and I have been more than back stabbed. My theory is that they think they are better than you but inside they are jealous of what they don't have that you do. But when you explore a different group of people that can change. Now I have a fifty-fifty number of guy friends and girl friends. Good Luck
2006-11-25 15:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by esther n 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey you have the same "story of my life" as me! You know, I've never figured it out down to the whole science of it. In general I will tell you that the general population is pretty dumb and that they don't have your well being in mind. It's hard to find good friend, they are very few and far between. You could have a case of the "you're just too nice" and that happens to some people- I have a friend w/ that problem. Women are not nice creatures when it comes to friendship, men are much more laid back. Keep yourself reserved until you actually get close to a friend. You never know someone 'til you know someone, and you never really know someone. You only know yourself. I've always just had tons of guy friends and very few chick friends who I knew weren't going to be as good as a friend as I wanted them to be, and for the time being I just had fun w/o getting hurt because I knew what very well might happen... then it did... and it sucked a little but "oh well" *shrug*
2006-11-25 15:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the girls back stab you, hung out with those that don't. A person's goodness is like a flame that can be hidden but never extinguished. It doesn't matter about gender, true friendship and kindness is what counts. They are probably jealous because you are such a kind person. But remember don't let them take advantage of you, you are your own boss!
2006-11-25 15:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by * Akosua* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I think a girl that whose only friends are boys and are being back stabbed mostly by her female friends... is like (you're) a b*tch... to them. When there's smoke, there's fire. You might not see it for yourself but others might but just couldn't figure it out really well because it's overwhelming; or/and they're afraid to say it to your face. No offense, it's just my opinion 'cause I also had a friend who has the same situation. She's a good person but really hasn't got real girl friends (but I don't let myself get included in her situation). The intimidation might be really overwhelming to them... I guess you should find the things more in yourslef what's wrong--if it's really just you (because you're just being yourself), or it's they who have problems... but they wouldn't do it for no reason if majority of them feels the same way towards you. Why don't you aks one, two, or three of those girls whats really wrong? Why they were treating you like that? What were you doing wrong (if ther's any)? It's often better to hear the side of others than just guessing. You might also learn lots of things for yourself. It's part of growing. Hope I made sense though... good luck! Sorry if I offended you in any way. It's just my personal opinion.
2006-11-25 15:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you seem like someone that girls can get something out of but u let it be known that you're not someone whos gonns make sure you dont get taken advantage of...then you're gonna get takn advantage of....I mean cmon.....if you juss stick up for yourself and tell someone this and let them know "listen, im not gonna deal with this, so if this what you wnat, let me know and i'll walk away", whenever they start to act even a little bit shady, then you'll be good. Just stop worryin about being a girls best friend, and make sure that when you're lookin out for them...you're lookin out for yourself too
2006-11-25 15:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by JayJay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these girls are extremely jealous of you. guys are the only ones that want anything to do w/ you cuz you're pretty....whereas girls can't stand to see someone gain more attention than them. it's a difficult situation to be in but i'm sure you'll face these same difficulties in the rest of your life cuz of jealousy. girls are very vindictive...yes i'm a girl but we are very vindictive & can be so jealous sometimes. it's awful but just hang out w/ the guys. i have to do that & so did my mom when she was in school...cuz she was really pretty too. i'd just hang out w/ the guys & ignore the back-stabbing girls. good luck!!!
2006-11-25 15:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are being to sweet. Some sick people might think that they can treat you bad since you are so sweet that they can hurt you and you wouldn't care. Try being not so soft with people, but you seem like a nice person, so don't change your personality.
2006-11-25 15:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive had friends like that... but I think they were only that way because they didn't know how to be a friend... they only knew how to efficiently use others.
I've found my best friends seem, at the time, to be the most unlikely friends... Be willing to make friends with those you normally wouldn't talk to.
2006-11-25 15:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Wolf_Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
forget approximately them. make new buddies. in the experience that your in user-friendly college then watch for highschool. Which shoudnt be that a approaches. And in the experience that your in highschool then its uncomplicated to make new buddies
2016-10-17 13:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋