I just don't understand why. If the formula feeders know that breastfeeding is the best why do you hate the breastfeeders so much? Why the hostility? Why hate on a mother who succeeds in breastfeeding, is proud of it and says it loud and proud? Do formula feeders feel like failures and feel that the breastfeeding mothers throw it in their faces? I think the breastfeeders have every right to feel proud, they are giving the best for their babies so what is so bad about that? I don't see breastfeeders feeling bad that they don't formula feed. I know some of the formula feeders say they "tried" to breastfeed but for some dumb reason it didn't work out. Well that's not the breastfeeders problem. If formula feeders feel bad about their failures then don't take it out on breastfeeders, take it out on yourselves for failing and not trying hard enough. Yeah I know some of you might say you tried hard enough but you didn't.
2006-11-25 15:23:45 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
yea i got that too.... i think they are just jealous, or pissed they didnt stick with it.
2006-11-25 15:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 10⤋
I don't hate anyone...except crazed people like you. If you breastfeed that's wonderful and I'm happy for you but you're the one who's "hatin" on the rest of us when some of us have actual reason why we couldn't nurse. You think we didn't want to? Some of us just feel that a healthy mommy and no breast milk is better than a hospitalized mommy and no breast milk. You think we're jealous? Bah! I'm healthy and happy and so is my daughter. You on the other hand seem to be full of hate and unhappiness. You think I feel like a failure? HAH! I'm a great mommy and I'm not the one who's probably teaching hatred and meanness to my children. I didn't try at all and I'm glad I didn't. Without my meds I would stop functioning as a human being and oh I'd be producing breast milk but I wouldn't be able to feed her, maybe I'd have been able to express some from my bedridden state in the first few days before her father hauled my butt to the hospital but who knows maybe those 3 days of breast milk would have made up for the 2 months it would have taken me to recover. But either way I still did what was right and best for my child...you on the other hand are belittling everyone you can find for some reason...which leads me to believe you feel deficient as a parent.
2006-11-26 08:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you are wrong I don't think people who formula feed hate you because you breast feed that is just plain dumb and shallow to think that way. You are also wrong about women who try and breast feed and they can't you said they never tried hard enough. Here is are the facts some women's nipples are not right for breastfeeding and some babies just simply can't latch on properly after trying for weeks a mother must do what is best for there baby. THE BABY HAS TO EAT NO MATTER WHICH WAY YOU CHOOSE TO FEED IT SO GET OVER IT. I wish you a healthy baby but you really need to seek some advice from somebody other than where you are getting your facts at the moment.
2006-11-26 05:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
i agree with some 30% of this i think the other is way to much trash. I am a mom of a 9 and 11 year old 35.5 weeks pregnant. I do respect women who CAN breastfed successfully i think it's a beautiful natural thing. I DID BREAST fed my 1st child until he was 3 weeks old. I totally take GREAT offense at the comment: tried" to breastfeed but for some dumb reason it didn't work out. My DUMB reason was a fever that reached 106 degrees i was in the hospital for 9 DAYS my milk was totally ruined dried up. I felt like a FAILURE people like you made it worse. YES we had established a great latch no issues he was gaining weight i was happy with breast feeding. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE ISSUE WAS THAT CAUSED EVERY MOM TO STOP & YOU HAVE NO DAMN RIGHT to say it was a dumb reason. This baby i will bottle feed i have two kids a demanding job i will not feel bad about the choice to use a bottle. I will still envy a mom who has the time and proper HEALTH to breast fed. my 2ed child was breast feed till 8 months. Whatever the reason it's a personal choice you are not HITLER stop acting like him.
2006-11-25 15:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by mandie_darkness 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋
If I wanted to waste time on this I would go through all your rude answers and paste them here.
Calling people (in this case formula feeders) "stupid," "careless," and just being down right mean is exactly why anyone wouldn't like you. It's not an issue with all breastfeeding mothers--just with you.
I mean just look at your questions. It's like you think you are superior. Yes, breastfeeding is best. Not only do you use facts to back that up but you are rude. It's sort of funny to see how hypocritical you are. People aren't nice to you because you aren't nice to them and you just go all up in arms. Get a clue lady--it's not breast feeders they hate. IT'S YOU!
The funniest thing about this whole situation is I heard about you from three Y!A users--two of which breastfeed! I'll give you a quote: "...and I am ashamed of women like her..."
2006-11-25 23:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I am also an advocate on breastfeeding. With my first child, I when through sheer agony, but I stuck with it and again with my second. I also had a friend that didn't even try, she lied to her husband and told him she physically couldn't, which was bs since she later let me know. There are a few that cannot, but for most it is a choice, and alot will make comments about breastfeeders. The friend A for which I talk about had the nerve to tell my other friend B who was breastfeeding to leave her baby at home when she invited her to friend A sons christening because Friend A did not want to be embarrased in front of her family when Friend B decides to breastfeed. Friend B still came to the christening and breastfed her baby and did not care what friend A said, good for her. Why should breastfeeding be something to be ashamed of. God gave us breasts so we could feed our children.
2006-11-25 15:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by MRod 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Actually I am a formula feeder and so are my cousins that just had babies...and none of us "hate breastfeeders." Breastfeeding just wasnt for me. I think that all of the breastfeeders have to stop thinking we are jealous and all that maybe we just dont want a baby hooked to our boob all the time! And BTW yea breastfeeding is best for the baby but ya know what as long as they are being fed why doesnt everyone just lay off each other!
2006-11-25 16:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by green_eyes_323_02 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Why are yo so angry about other woman and what they do with their children? Don't you have anything else to do with your time and effort? Some women really cannot breastfeed! It is just not possible for ALL women. Not all babies want to or succeed in latching on. You can not call that a dumb reason, that is unfair. Unless you have taken upon yourself to conduct a research study on hundreds of thousands of newborns and their ability or inability to breastfeed and all the variables, than you are not a professional, so don't act like one. Do yourself a favor and get a hobby!
2006-11-26 01:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jm 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I guess I fall into both of those categories. I breastfed my first son for 14 months. When my second son came along I was determined to nurse him to. SO I did....and he wouldnt grow. I met with a lactation consultant...and he wouldnt grow. He was hospitalized at two months for failure to thrive, and while there they tested my breastmilk. I had a blood infection that was infecting what little milk I was producing. I was LITERALLY poisoning my son. I stopped nursing and he thrived on formula. I nursed the rest of my kids for the varying lengths of time..from 6 weeks to 10 months(I have 7 kids) I never felt like a failure for not nursing. I think its very sad that you have this nasty attitude towards people who dont nurse. Why is it any of your business?? You do not know if one day you wont be able to nurse...how would you feel if someone came up to you and gave you a nasty comment? I actually have a friend who had a mastectomy..then had a baby(which was a miracle) then had to put up with the arrogant better than you attitude when she formula fed her daughter. She actually quit going outside with her daughter to avoid the confrontations. Thats really irritating that these women had the nerve to come up to her and judge her. Its very sad that mothers..whether they nurse or formula feed...cant just accept each other, and the challenges we face as moms.
2006-11-25 17:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Because the breastfeeders look down on those that can't or choose not to breastfeed. They take every opportunity to chastise those that aren't doing what they feel is right. They never bother to think about valid reasons not to do it, like mastectomies, or multiple births.
Even your question is biased and 'digs' at those who don't chose to breast feed. "Everyone knows it is the best." Yes, you throw it in their faces. "Yeah I know some of you might say you tried hard enough but you didn't."
The very phrasing of your question explains exactly why they hate people like you so much.
2006-11-25 15:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Aggie80 5 · 11⤊ 1⤋
You are entitled to your opinion how ever wrong it may be. Your comment on some people saying they tried to breastfeed but in your opinion they didn't try hard enough also missed the point. What do you say to a mother who tried so hard and long to breastfeed but her milk flow was so strong and fast, regardless of the feeding position, that it caused the baby to choke and become stress. When because of this situation she was advised by medical personnel to stop trying to breastfeed as it was causing potential harm. This is fact not fiction - it happened to me with two babies. Where is your argument now that a mother did not try hard enough.
2006-11-25 15:40:21 · answer #11 · answered by Born a Fox 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋