Believe or not believe - a most patient, tolerant, faithful, caring wife to be cheaten quietly for 10 years by cunning husband, a naive wife trusted husband to be sick, and then find out he visited brothers to have sex once a week, a month.... Husband always says that with his wife "I am a one woman husband"..Please give wife good advices - What should wife do?
2006-11-25 14:59:23 · 19 answers · asked by Naivegirl J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe this case, the whole marriage was only a big lie, he loves you with his head - calculated head - not with his heart, some husbands only enjoy the other sexy women's bodies, because they know how to fantasy in sex, and wife is too busy with lots of things to do, If you love and stay in this marriage, you only wait for punishment from his conscience, his conscience will punish him until he die.....
2006-11-26 08:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you must do is pray, then you should ask your mate to pray with you. You both need prayer because the cheating mate has a problem. Through God you both can over come this, but you must both want a change. If the cheating mate does not want to make an effort you are allowed to leave the marriage. But you must have tried through the Lord Jesus Christ our personal savior. The mate who has been cheated on also must make a serious effort not to use this power over the needed to be forgiven mate. Not to use this in anyway of control. If you forgive you must forgive as God as done. Once forgiveness has been asked it is clean off the slate. This is something that you will have to ask for help with.
There are only three reasons that your will be aloud to leave a marriage under God's law.
1. Death
2. Abandonment (this is an tricky one because before you can claim abandonment you must first attempt to work it out. They must have completely chosen a life that surely does not involve you)
3. Adultery
The mate that has done the cheating, if he/she leaves without one of these reasons. There next marriage will not be blessed because you have not followed the Lord's rules.
I hope your marriage survives such a tragic situation.
2006-11-25 15:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by ronnell1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll hear lots of short term advise on this board. Leave him, burn his stuff, etc, etc, etc.
Long term is a bit more tough. Are you certain that this is what is going on? Are you able to support yourself on your own? Do you have family/friends you can turn to, move in with? What religion are you and depending on that answer do you have a support structure or will your religion persecute you for leaving? Do you have health insurance? Since he has been sleeping with prostitutes and you, have you considered getting tested for STD's? Do you have Children? How will you manage them in this situation? Does he abuse you or are you in an otherwise safe relationship? These answers will help you determine if you need to take drastic, immediate action or if you can bide your time, make preparations and make some smart moves.
You are going to get a lot of advise on what to do but if I could leave you with one thing it would be that if you are a good person, don't stop being a good person because your husband has choosen to be a bad person. There's lots of things that you CAN do but chart your course carefully to take care of yourself and/or your children without becoming as bad or worse then he is.
Hope this helps.
-Rob
2006-11-25 15:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole marriage was a lie, if she can get him to go to counciling, if she still loves him, maybe it might help. if she doesn't love him anymore she should leave the marriage as soon as possibble. she will never be able to trust him again, and it won't be easy getting over the hurt. personally i would leave him, and find someome who i could have peace with, who wouldn't betray me even if i loved the cheater.
2006-11-25 15:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None. Humans were not meant to be monogamous.
This wife needs to go find herself her own lover, or dump this husband in the trash.
2006-11-25 15:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave a cheater you will never be happy always hurt,once a cheater always a cheater,but he will get his in time to come,because what gos around comes around.
2006-11-25 15:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer is just to leave him... That is no good marriage and never will be...It just no right to keep been his wife...Have pride!!!
2006-11-25 17:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be calm then get enough proofs and then file for a divorce.
2006-11-25 15:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by steve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should dump the lying bum before he bring home something that antibiotics will not cure. there too many stds out there for him to be cheating and then coming home to give you something and besides its not right for him to be cheating you.
2006-11-25 15:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to dish out punishment to him, make sure you understand that you are allowing more punishment to be dished out on you. Haven't you been punished enough?
2006-11-25 15:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋