Or is it better for both of us to stay away from each other ????And if it is better for both of us to stay away from each other will there ever be a chance for us to get back together?I hope so but why?at the end of our relation ship he beat on me and and actually acted as if I were his worse enemy,I did my share of mistakes ,I dont think it was ok for him to beat on me for any reason or even talk bad about me to people, inother words he spoke very bad about me to people {women and men}why is that ?does he hate me?Whats wrong with me why do I want him back?Why d I miss him so much ?Am I that lonely?how can I move on with my life?I cant fall assleep with out him by my side and when I do I wake up reaching out for him...I miss him.Please help me!
2006-11-25 14:44:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In case you dont know it.....Girl you are worth sooo much more than him....Lonely and sad are feelings.....and they will pass with time......It is better for the both to stay away.....We always want to keep what is familiar and predictable....even if it is bad for us.......Be strong girl....it will get better....Love your self enough to demand the best .......Dont EVER let a man beat on you, physically, mentally, or emotionally.....HELL no.......that aint even cool.....
Dont lay your woman power at the feet of an undeserving *** head!
2006-11-25 14:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told anyone about the fact that he was abusing you? Because if you didn't, you should, ASAP. That person can help make you strong and help you to see that a scumpile like that is BAD NEWS, honey. If he ever said that he would change, then he's lying. The reason he does these things is probably because he feels like an inadequate loser, which of course he is, so beating on a woman makes him feel better about himself. If you invite him back into your life you are asking for more trouble, and you will have no one to blame but yourself. If you ever see him again and he ever tries to lay a hand on you, call the cops and get a restraining order. You don't want to be one of those women who gets brutalized by some psycho. Failing all of this, if the need to see him is incredibly strong, seek some professional help, maybe you have issues that you can't resolve alone.
2006-11-25 14:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you make him your whole life? Sometimes ladies and guys make their significant others their whole worlds. You spend every single min with that person. Than when that relationship ends you go into a deep depression because you feel like your life is over. However Hunny your life is just beginning again. That "man" beat you and you do not deserve that. I don't think you want him back, its just that you don't want to be alone. That is a bad feeling, but trust me, i would rather have you alone than be beated on. Take some time to do things for YOU. get some good girlfriends to lean on, do something fun or volunteer for something you are passionate about. Than when you are ready and learn to love yourself, you can date someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. wish you well dear/
2006-11-25 14:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, oh, if he beat on you, you should not take him back. most guys who beat on their girl, don't change and always do.. you're looking at a miserable life if you get back with him so i say no. find someone better, you dont want to get the wrong guy and then him leave u and u be all depressed because he sounds like the type of guy that would unexpectingly leave someone. there are many guys out there that can treat u much better than this guy is.. don't give up!!
2006-11-25 14:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Whatevahh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are missing is "self-love and self-respect". If the guy beat on you, then I don't think it really is him that you are missing. What you need is to build up yourself. You don't deserve someone beating up on you, or talking trash about you. Whether he hates you or not... I wouldn't know. But more importantly to note...he did and does not love you. He might have said it and pretended to show it, but if someone loves you, they don't treat you like that. Yes, everyone has their share of mistakes, everyone has their share of arguments in a relationship, but none are deserving of getting slapped, or beaten, or kicked around, or threatened in anyway. You need to do some self examining of your life. Who is the woman that you really are and want to be? Is it someone who is proud of herself, respects herself, and who children can look up to and admire her strength and grace? ...or do you just want to be a woman who can only know her worth from how a man treats her?
You don't need this man anywhere near you, and I hope you do stay away from him and start a new chapter in your life. You deserve so much better, but you have to believe that first.
2006-11-25 15:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by oops_ididitagain65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a gal who doesn't like herself very much. Why would you want a man who doesn't want you, beats you and hates you? Not only can you not change him or force him to love you but you need to run the other way as fast as you can. Talk to someone who can help you to better understand yourself and why you feel and do the things you do..............you are worth much more than you believe!
2006-11-25 15:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite him over to your house, apartment, where ever you live, and both express your feelings open and honestly. I explain why you did the things you did, and see if he'll tell you why he was so harsh near the end of your relationship.
2006-11-25 14:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mayday Cay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You let him beat you once - he'll do it again. You NEVER let a man beat you, FIGHT BACK! People will only treat you the way you let them treat you.
2006-11-25 14:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by iboughtanightmare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a large pillow to sleep by. Why would you want to be with someone who hates you?
2006-11-25 14:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a good time to move on.... And don't look back.
2006-11-25 15:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by drivingi75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋