Im the dad of three boys (a teenager! an eight year old and a three year old) and a 7 month old girl..any tips or pitfalls ??
2006-11-25 14:38:18 · 13 answers · asked by weedraker 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ok, I am the mother of four, ages 21,20,17 and 15. Three girls and a boy. My advice is to be consistent. Children get confused if it's a no-no to eat in the livingroom on Sunday, than it should be a no-no on Thursday too. Otherwise they never really learn the difference between right and wrong. Be loving, attentive, affectionate and strong. Be a good role model, act like the man you hope your sons will become. Teach them morals and respect. Protect them with everything within you. When they get older give them the chance to fight their own battles so they will learn how to solve problems or suffer consequences. Good luck and God Bless You....all!
2006-11-25 15:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cinner 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some rest.
Re: Teenagers. There came a time when my daughter, I guess around 16, started talking about her friends and drinking. I asked her if she wanted to try something. She wanted wine coolers. I bought them. From that point on she could have wine coolers at home.(No, amazingly she did not wander around the house drunk.) She worked, went to school, bought a car (with my assistance) and would have an occasional wine cooler. Her discretion. The rule was: No drinking outside the home, no driving with a drunk driver, no sharing with minors. Never had a problem.
Eventually she wanted to stay out later than I wanted to stay up. She'd call at my bedtime and let me know what time she'd be home. Then, at the appointed hour, she and her friends (who didn't have to be home) would come tromping thru my house. The hazard here is that she was not sneaking and I KNEW when they got in. (Giggle, laugh, shhhh, tromp)...We got along just fine. No HS trauma for either of us.
When dealing with your oldest, calculate how long before he has to be on his own. Help him put the tools for independence in place: he needs to be able to make responsible decisions, he needs a part time job and the ability to handle money, he's going to need a car....Be smarter and more accessible than his best friend. See the young man who will leave to live independently in a few short years. Help that person become reality.
This set a great foundation for the kids that come up after the eldest.
You go, Dad.......
2006-11-26 09:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep them all VERY active. Whatever they are drawn to... sports, dance, clubs, activities. It's the best way to keep them occupied, and eventually out of trouble. The busier the better I always say. They will thank you for it when they're older. I put my son into any sport he wanted to play when he was younger..kept us hopping, but he eventually narrowed it down. As a teen, he has wonderful friends who are part of his various teams, I have met other great parents & it's a win-win for all of us. My daughter has always loved dance ... and it sure came in handy when she hit high school and was going to formals, etc. She has a few friends who are 'embarrassed' to dance because they feel they don't know how. :) Good luck -- just follow your instincts, but those are some of my personal preferences in keeping your kids happy & you sane.
2006-11-25 23:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
teach them that sex is a loving thing and that its beautiful and all that mushy stuff. have your wife help too. my parents did that and for a long time i actually thought sex was bad so that might be good for a parent.
also tell them that if they do have sex that it should be safe. you can still show your distain for sex before amrriage, but it tells them that if they are going to go against your will that they at least do it safely
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make sure you instill a great work ethic that will carry throughout school and sports. i never stopped working in my sports but my work ethic dropped around high school and my grades went down. make sure you lead by example with this.
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2006-11-25 23:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by program dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me boys are easier.
3 stepdaughters 22,20,13
1son 12
1stepson 16
1 daughter 5
2 granddaughters 5+1
and we all live within 200 meters of each other.
I'M only 42, I just feel older.
2006-11-25 23:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by manthintall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very patient, they are all at different stages in life...be on guard for any fights or arguement that might happen between the boys and as for your daughter...you won't have to worry much until she is a teen, then you will have to prepare yourself for all the guys that will be calling for her :)
2006-11-25 23:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have only experienced a daughter, but would love to have a son! When your daughter is older, if she looks like she is in a mood, don't disturb her! Girls can snap for the stupidest reasons!
2006-11-28 15:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say let your older children help out as much as you can especially the 3 year old. my 3 year old is always trying to help with my 9 month old. he finds it exciting and he is learning alot from it also. It helps the children feel less left out.
2006-11-25 22:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teach them abt sex and tell them what feels good is wrong
Take it from a teen teach them early am=nd you wouldn't have to worry
2006-11-25 22:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if they are still alive, you are doing fine
2006-11-25 22:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋