My husband and I although being separated for 6 months still talk to each other everyday. We fight alot but only because he will not let me know one way or the other if he wants to work on things or get a divorce. He says he doesnt want a divorce, but he just wants time away to miss me. I have been not so nice to him in the past, name calling, pushing, being very mean. I have taken care of my anger issues and he even says he knows how much Ive changed. Now he has changed into the person I used to be. I have recently caught him in quite a few lies and when I confront him he gets angry and wants to hang up from me. I have been nothing but good to him since the split. He says he loves me but hes not "in love with me" what does that mean? Should I really just leave him alone? Hes depressed and does not have anyone else. I need alot of help...What should I do?
2006-11-25 14:14:20 · 10 answers · asked by Confused1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are both separatly in counseling. I am on medication. He is the angry one now.
2006-11-25 14:27:15 · update #1
Loving someone and being in love with them means two truly very different things. Think about being with someone for the rest of your life that can not give you that unconditional love because it's just not there. The both of you will have to want to work it out..not just one of you, and being in love plays an important part in making a marriage work. It's not your problem he has no one else to turn too. Is it fare for your life to be in disarray because he is confused? He will not (as long as you let him) tell you if he wants to work it out or not because now he is having his cake and EATING it too.. you make the decision and watch his reaction..always remember A MAN WILL DO WHAT YOU LET HIM DO. so if you let him keep stringing you along HE WILL. good luck with that !!
2006-11-25 14:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by lovingodtoolife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot blame him for being hesitant to enter back into a relationship with you. What was the source of your problem with anger? How did you resolve these issues? Having been married to a man with a temper problem, I know that it would be very difficult to trust that he's changed in such a short period of time. Needless to say, his anger caused me to leave the marriage and I am happily divorced from him. Let him be. If you're still fighting everyday, I'd guess your anger issues aren't quite in check yet.
2006-11-25 22:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by 2blessed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he say he love you but not in love with you mean he love you as a person but not as a wife.and it sound like you both have angry problem and you said you are on medication lol to control your angry and you said you push him a around,name calling,being very mean,i wouldnt want you for a wife either i would divorce you in a heart beat no wonder he left you.if i were him i would divorce you.but i bet he scare to tell you that.but one day i hope he does.good luck
2006-11-25 23:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between loving someone and being "in love" with them. Loving them means you care very deeply about them and their well being...being in love is in a passionate, romantic, don't-want-to-live-without-you way. It's best to move on and let him do the same
2006-11-25 22:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sounds like You and I have the same spouse. I know my wife still loves me and I still love her, But in love??..I know one thing, you got to be happy with yourself. Because you are the only one that matters. Let's see who cares about you. You talk to your spouse every day? Who calls who? Make the other half wonder when you go mute...Take baby steps.....
Good luck.
2006-11-25 23:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Randall E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to suck it up and learn from your mistakes...by saying he loves you but hes not in love with you he may as well be your best friend or your brother. Its over. Move on and build on your new foundation...youll help him and yourself and hopefully you both find partners more suited to your personalities. Good luck.
2006-11-25 22:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on is so hard to do especially when you have been together for a long time. It sounds like it is time, I know it will be a hard decision, but you must do what is best for you.
2006-11-25 22:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste you life on this man,Start a new life and enjoy it.He is not in love with you ,he don't want a wife he wants a Little Mummy who look out for him.
2006-11-25 22:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he love you mean like a friend but he is not enlove with you. the love between you and he has died he wants to be your friend now so its time to move on.it does not get any better.
2006-11-25 22:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by annjilena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
work the problem u may never find someone like him think why u fall for him,act.
2006-11-25 22:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋