We had an affair during the summer but got caught... things went bad and ended up having to choose between her and wife. I chose wife and have refrained myself from talking to this woman.
2006-11-25 13:57:07 · 16 answers · asked by matasanos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No but it is disrespect full but it doesn't seem like you care very much anyway. If you want to be with your wife then do not call the girl you had an affair with.
2006-11-25 14:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the continuation of your marriage depended on you cutting off all contact with your piece of fluff on the side, then yes, even wishing said fluff a happy birthday could be considered cheating in the sense that you are not living up to your promise of no contact. Better not to go there. It is doubtful that your wife would forgive you a second time.
2006-11-25 21:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
would you want your wife to call up some guy that she had an affair with to wish him a happy birthday? I don't think so.
you're asking for trouble right now! how could you even think of doing such a thing?!! if you have one ounce of respect for your wife, yourself, or your marriage, you will forget all about this nonsense right now. this just turns my stomach because the way you've written this I can tell that you want to call her. why don't you just ask your wife for permission?!! and you're calling this tramp an ex?!! maybe after this your wife will have the privilege of referring to you as the ex!!
2006-11-25 22:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already caused so much pain to your wife and trouble for every body who was involved in that situations.So why you play with the fire again.The first thing your x will do to call your wife to cause you trouble and hit back on her.I am sure she was really pissed off you choose your wife instead of her.Stop being stupid,grow up and be thank full you still have a wife.You don't even deserve it.
2006-11-25 22:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the complete question around. What if your wife called an ex that she cheated on you with and wished him a happy birthday? Wouldn't you automatically assume she was interested in keeping contact with the ex? Or that she was possibly still cheating on you with the "ex" still? This is a question of personal guilt.
2006-11-25 22:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by A Blonde Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating! Would you like for your wife to call all of her exboyfriends and wish them happy birthday, talking and spending time with them?
You had an affair, didn't your promise that it was over! Why do you still have to be so selfish ony looking out for your sexual needs and not your marriage needs!
2006-11-25 22:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should call, because if you call without getting your wife's permission and she finds out she is going to be sad/mad about the whole thing. But if you do tell her she is gonna ask a lot of questions such as: why do you need to call her, why are you even thinking about her, etc. So if it is that important to you that you tell her happy birthday then definitely talk to your wife her and explain why its so important to her and she will trust you for having talked to her before hand even if she doesn't want you talking to her again, if you are upfront she will not be so suspicious about the situation.
2006-11-25 22:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mo M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmmm thats a tough one do you still have feelings for her and if so then just call her and tell her happy birthday its not cheating if thats all you do and that way you get it out of your system and if that old feeling comes back than maybe it was a bad thing can lead to bad things but you wouldnt even be thinking of it unless you were thinking of her though right you only have one true love and you only live one life
2006-11-25 23:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. Think of how your wife would feel if you did. By just doing that little thing may bring back the feelings and then you could end up were you were before.
2006-11-25 22:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by shy eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then continue to be faithful. if you are still interested in the other woman then get a divorce. you are lucky your wife didn't get rid of you already. you are fortunate to have a loving and forgiving wife. think long and hard before tossing what you have in the trash.
2006-11-25 22:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋