I apologize for my misspellings. Recently I been diagnoised with endometriosis now my husband has lot all sexual feeling for me. I know he has not lost sexual feeling all tgther like it is a problem with him , as he gets aroused for women on tv and in games. Its just then when he comes to me he says now I take away his enjoyment of everything, and he is always crital of me calling me stupid and lazy I just had surgery for being in pain. I am slowly recovering but the one thing that hurts me more than anything is my husband does not want me sexually. He says I am ruining his life. How to I make ammends with hiom make him happy and understand what I am going through?
2006-11-25 13:53:49 · 16 answers · asked by blueflyhorizon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are going through some bad time. but taking drastic steps against your husband wont help. people are extremist in giving their opinion but they don realise how hard it is to go through those steps.
try sitting down with in a very calm manner. try explaining him everything - u might have to stress on him to get your point through. tell him what you feel, tell him what you want to do, tell him what you can do and see where it goes. goodluck
2006-11-25 14:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is only thinking of himself. Forget trying to make amends. He should be the one making amends for calling you lazy when you are recovering from surgery. If you really want him to know what you are going through then take that other suggestion about having him go with you to your doctor. If he refuses then it is obvious that he doesn't care for anyone but himself and it may be time for you to start thinking if you'd be better off without him.
2006-11-25 22:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lister sister...you cannot make him happy.
You have been blessed with the opportunity to make yourself happy.
So...DO IT!
Leave him in your rearview mirror and move on with your life!
I know it's hard, but you have to work on having a life without him.
Life is far too short to spend it with someone who doesn't care for you.
There are many more men out in the world than the one you're married to, so...find another man and go on with your life.
You DESERVE to be happy!
Once you move on, your husband will try to make amends with you (as usual), do not give him the time of day!
DO NOT ever get into the habit of taking a sh*t and stepping back in it!
2006-11-25 22:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your husband, his responsibility is to respect you, honor you and be at your side. He's being a jerk. What? You planned on getting sick? Give me a break.
If anything, he should be begging your forgiveness for being a jerk. He's not doing you any favors. He doesn't care what you're going through. If this is how he treats you in your time of need, you need to reconsider your marriage and ask yourself what it is about him that keeps you there.
2006-11-25 22:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him, if he doesn't take care of you sexually; withOUT all the hurtful crap; you WILL go find a boyfirend, and that you will NOT hide the fact. ThAT should wake him up !
2006-11-25 21:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by madamspinner2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sound like a real selfish a$$hole. It is him that need to make yo happy, and if he doesn't soon. I would look for someone who will.
2006-11-25 22:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit boo hoo'ing take him along to the doctor and let the doctor outline what u can and cannot do. then with what the doctor approves of, work it into ur sexlife and see what happens.
2006-11-25 22:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is selfish and only cares for himself start going out make him jealous tell him guys where whistling at you let him feel hurt for a change
2006-11-25 21:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Fergie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may have sexual relation with some one else.
2006-11-25 21:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by loveboy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick his insensitive a s s to the curb!
2006-11-25 22:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋