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Question

Recently, I asked a question about how to get away from my very abusive boyfriend..I'm still trapped here. Today, I filed yet another police report against him for abusing me. I'm really afraid this man is going to kill me. I need help. Can anyone help me? Even if it just means showing all these posts to the police if he does kill me? Serious answers only PLEASE!http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvECDShFHvtcK1vBUwlyLWHsy6IX?qid=20061014185046AAcZqlw

Answer 1

Find the nearest womens shelter. Go there and do not look back. It is not an easy road, but it is life. yellow pages. Call a distress center. Get out while you can.

Answer 2

Unfortunately police reports and restraining orders are just pieces of paper and not the same as having 24 hour protection/surveilance. It seems like if someone really wanted to kill another, they can do it and face any consequences. Sorry but that's how I see it based on the news. I would move to another state, but you just said in your previous post that you are on a fixed income. Is there another shelter in another state that can protect you? Can you take out a loan to get money to move away? Moving has got to be the answer. Get far away from him. If you say you can't then I don't know what else to do! Good luck and I hope you can survive this.

Answer 3

Hello:

First off you need to move out. I understand that you are on a very limited income and that you can not go to women's shelters. Check with local churches, because in my hometown all of the churches offer refuge for people.

Second, once you are out of his house you need to file a restraining order. The police can not help you if you don't move out of the abuser's home. I know that it sounds awful, but if you are choosing to stay in his home (even if it is because you can not afford to live elsewhere) than they can not help you. Or you need to talk to the police about sending him to jail. If he is abusing you on a regular basis, than he is a criminal, and the police need to arrest him.

Since you are disabled, go to a library and look at different options on the internet about help you can recieve from the government. Also depending on the severity of your disability, try to get some type of a job. Then perhaps you could afford a place on your own.

But the most important part is to get you and your children out of that environment. Where is the father of your children? Do you have any family you can stay with? You need to get out of his home.

I hope this helps, and good luck with this situation.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry about that. Police officers aren't really helpful.

If you can't move, then the best thing you could do is to try not to be alone as MUCH as possible...especially when you're checking the mailbox or going to your parking lot from work. Try having your friends/co workers walk you to the parking lot. And have a phone with you at all times.

Answer 5

Why are you still there? You should have left and not looked back. If you are still breathing it isn't too late. If you don't have family or friends nearby where you can stay, go to a shelter and stay there and don't call him, see him or let him know where you are. You can call friends and family and let them know you are safe, but if you can't trust them to keep their mouths shut, don't tell them where you are. The people at the shelter will give you a clue as to what you need to do after you get there.
Don't dally. Get out. If you have to call the cops to keep him away from you while you get your things, then do so. They might even give you a ride to the shelter.
Do it now.

Answer 6

Get away not only means get out of the house and go hide with your relatives, you need to put safe distance in between, you need to vanish in thin air and NOWHERE to be found... I wish I 'd had a big house to offer you a roof over your head, I wish I could help you right now and make u feel better just with words.... please for your own sake, for all that you loved him and cared about him... leave now without turning your head back, just go!
There's nothing that can stop you unless you want to, this is America where the sky is the limit, where there's a guy who is ready for you and eventually, whenever you find him will love you to pieces without questions or harm.. God bless you sincerely

Answer 7

If he hits you, you can file for police protection with photo/video proof that he hits you.
If he is just verbally abusive to you, audio record him, hide a small recorder under the chair or TV and record him talking to you abusively.
If you can not record him physically or Verbally abusing you have a friend come to stay with you, or as a witness to his abuse. Then go to the police again.
If they still refuse to do anything, go a step up the ladder, to the Court system, take you proof to a judge and request help that way. If they can't help you contact a Womans abuse Hotline, they can and are very willing to help you to get away from him.

Check out some of the sites of abuse and ways to get out of the situation, like,

www.Womensabusehotline.com
www.Abuse.com
www.Womenshealth.com
Good Luck to you!!!!

Answer 8

This is a very serious situation and no one should be put through this treatment. If you feel this man is capable of killing you, you definitely need to get out when he's at work. Try going to the following website for further assistance. Hope this helps. Also, try getting a order of protection against him.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm

Answer 9

Where is your family, and do you have some place you can go hide from him? Forget your job or life as you know it (for now) and see if you can start afresh somewhere else.

If someone is going to show this to the police in the likely event of a tragedy, God forbid, I think it would help if we knew your true identity, or at least what state you're in.

I wish you all the best and God Bless you!

Answer 10

Do you have any family close by? Is there a safe house that you can go to? I do not know where you are, but even the churches might be able to help you out. Call a women's advocate group. Call the local hospital and see if they have an abuse program. Try anything, and everything. Do not just accept the fact that he wants to hurt you.

Answer 11

Leave NOW. Do not hesitate and do not wait. No-one has the right to abuse others 'particularly' to the degree of fearing for your safety and wellbeing. If police have not acted, report it to the police watchdog. I believe they are there to protect people and if you don't feel protected, do something. Plan your 'escape' carefully and leave no suggestion that you are doing this. Gather friends/family close to you to help. You will need support after you have left, seek professional advice. Best of luck.