I love and have concern for him and to be honest I like the fact that he says he wants to leave his modest home and a couple of acres to me, if only I would marry him. But he has 2 offspring Not living in our town. I know there are 3 names listed on his estate because I looked it up. Also, the word *and* is in between each name. He says our marriage would change that . Anyone have this experience before and yes, I know that a professional should be contacted,but would like to hear from all of you.
2006-11-25 13:35:43 · 16 answers · asked by carole 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like you want to love again but all the offsprings want what you guys have earned in a lifetime! You guys need to make a will and agree on it and be content of decisons you made. GEt professional advice because now, 2 lifetime of earned income, estates, property are coming into one, and to be honest. The offsprings are looking selfnessly only to what they want, and only looking out for themselves.
I wouldn't have a big wedding, just elope just in case no one agree that you guys want to get married!
you guys still have the right to love again and to share your life together and enjoy what marriage brings!
I hope that helps the both of you and bring an answer what needs to be done on your part. Marriage is a partnership, and you guys need to be agreeable who, and what you want what to go where!
2006-11-25 13:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
~Let me see if I've got this right. You love him and have concern for him, so you checked out his "estate" before deciding whether or not to marry him. At his age, you'll need to have him do a new will leaving everything to you before he bites the dust. And, you'd better do it quickly. Perhaps you could have the will ready for him to sign at the wedding. The judge/minister/priest could marry you AND act as the witness to the signing of his will. Then get him to the honeymoon as fast as you can and jump his bones. One good roll in the hay just might do him in and make you the new owner of "Green Acres".
Ah yes, love in the golden years. Since he only has a "modest home and a couple of acres", I guess you can't be called a gold digger. More like a tin hussy.
2006-11-25 21:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do the contents of his will have to do with whether or not you marry him if you really love him? I find it interesting that you're talking "will" before you ever say "I do". I understand that neither of you are just starting out but love should go hand & hand with trust.
Don't miss a chance for love and companionship when it's right in front of you? If he's willing to leave his home/property my guess is he'll probably sign whatever it is you think you need in the will.
Wedding or will? an interesting but sad prenuptual cunundrum for someone who's in love.
2006-11-25 21:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by L R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this man then the home and acres really are not important to you. My grandfather which was 81 at the time married a woman 61 she was never accepted because she was in if for material items guess what she is also miserable now he is 87 in poor health she is tied at his bedside and cannot go anywhere the children want allow a nursing home they come and visit daily but she has to stay at home. so get ready for life at home
2006-11-25 21:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by twister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please i am not accusing you and i am not one that knows alot but please do not be a gold digger the last one that you want to offend is his children it kinda sounds like you love him but not really and do you want to hurt a "88" year old man or any man in that case! that is kinda harsh that you would just marry him for a house and some acres! and a friend even a friend and a fiancay need time to get to know each other.
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2006-11-25 21:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by mar! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to rob the cradle. Be careful, his kids will make sure you end up with next to nothing if the marriage doesn't last long. Then again, if you love him, the assetts are of no concern and should stay with his family. Anything gained after your marriage should be yours. The very best to you.
2006-11-25 21:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its really unclear why he wouldn't want to leave his property to his children. Perhaps you could ask him about it. I wonder if he feel he has to make you such an offer in order to "lure" you to marry him. If you want to marry him anyway, you might want to consider a prenuptial agreement that you will not inherit the property. Otherwise it will cause bitterness with the children, and I don't think you want that.
2006-11-25 21:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what are you waiting for DO IT you only live once do you wanna get up one morning after he has gone to be with jesus and say boy i wish i would have married that guy and really regret it or do you wanna marry him now and make lots of cool memories with him hmmmmmmm now dont take your time just do what your heart says not what your head says or what your friends say
2006-11-25 23:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him truly, madly ,honestly, then i say yes. if you are worried about who's getting what, it would look like you are a gold digger. figure out what is more important in your life right now. love or money. maybe both, but choose wisely. good luck.
2006-11-25 21:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I have never had that experience before. If you truly love him, then you might want to consider it.
2006-11-25 21:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by serendipity 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋