What happens when your cousin and her husband are getting a divorce and her husband and you are the same age and are in love? The endless showers togeather, the making out, so hot, but I would give all of it up for them to be togeather, sould I tell my cousin. Should I stop even when is puts me to death? Even when I am not the cause? Even when she has like 6 affairs, Even when I know he would not do that to me. We didn't mean to fall in love it just happen.
2006-11-25 13:34:30 · 13 answers · asked by Brian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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things like that dont just happen.
what happened to the limitations our society put on everything. doing something like that with a married man is wrong knowing that he is married. may be that is not completely the reason why they are separating but could be just a part of it and you never know if that part was the last straw to break the camel's back - if you know what i mean.
now, that situation is bad - admitting it at this time would behave as oil on fire. keep it down and dont do anymore blunders like that - there is nothing like love with a married man - its just thirst for sex. there are a lot of single guys around .
may be they are parting anyways - but do you want to be even 1% of the reason ?????????
try your best to bring them together and i would say - if you could than that is something praiseworthy, if not then - there are a lot of things to say which you might not wanna hear.
2006-11-25 13:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by i don know y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello:
First as much as it hurts, I would not pursue anything with this man for a long time. If it is your cousin, despite her having affairs it will seriously affect your entire family if you become involved with this man.
Trust me. My best friend Anne's family dealt with a similar situation a few years back, and are still dealing with the consequences. Anne's older sister Jen, who was married, had an affair with their other sister Michelle's husband. Both couples ended up divorcing, and it was not until after the divorce that the affair was discovered. Now Jen is living with Michelle's ex-husband. Michelle and Jen have not spoken in years, and the entire family is torn apart over the situation.
I personally think that if cheating takes place, especially six times, that is for sure a sign that the marriage is not meant to be. I would just end the relationship with your cousin's husband and let it be. If you tell your cousin at this stage, she will be incredibly upset and most likely blame you for the divorce. I think at some point you should be honest with her, but that is your decision. All I know is that you might love the guy, but it's not worth it to be with him if it would tear your family apart.
I hope this helps, and good luck.
2006-11-25 21:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that this is what you want? To hid your affection for the one you love? Why don't you try if they stay togeather tell her but if they don't keep you meetings secret from everyone.
2006-11-25 21:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cody Baptist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on her he will cheat on you. Do not deceive yourself or may be you just dickmatized. It is a shame to her a woman say that she is sleeping with a family members husband ,but oh they are getting divorced so it is alright. No it is not alright and I know you don't want to hear it, but you need to grow up and realize your wrong
2006-11-25 21:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"you would give it all up?" it sounds like you have already been doing that. it will put you to death? the regret will feel like that if you don't come clean. he is a cheat and a snake, & will be done with tou soon enough. don't think this is not going to all come back to you. is there any sacredness in your family or your love life? you really need to find some.
2006-11-25 21:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by matthew m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should talk about old times then tell her the truth if she gets mad throw the affairs in her face to shut her up
2006-11-25 21:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by girly_down_n_south 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs don't make it right
you are the casue and it is not love it is lust there is a big differance.
2006-11-25 21:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by KEL971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your cousin! I don't care who you love/lust you don't do that to family!
2006-11-25 21:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by *[@MBER]* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your cousin! I don't care who you love/lust you don't do that to family!
Shame on you!
2006-11-25 21:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by mrsstephaniekay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't do that to family
2006-11-25 22:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋